21/02/2026
This reel was inspired by a post I read in a womensā Facebook group last week from an exhausted Mum of three also in paid employment, who brought up the idea of getting a house cleaner with her husband and was greeted with this truly, white knight in shining armour statement.
Sorry - I just need to quietly vomit in the corner.
If we learn nothing else from this obviously deep-dive reel today let it be this: cleaning is not your job by default. CLEANING. IS. NOT. YOUR. JOB. BY. DEFAULT.
If you have a family you effectively live in a share house. I have lived in a number of share houses. And the people who didnāt clean up after themselves were VOTED OFF THE ISLAND.
Each personās energy is precious - INCLUDING YOURS. And if you are juggling a business, or a creative outlet or paid employment along with all the other unpaid labour that comes with being a woman and/or mother - your energy should be devoted to helping you do what you do best.
Because ultimately, EVERYONE BENEFITS. Financially, emotionally, mentally, spiritually.
Now, listen - this is clearly means dependent according to your unique situation, but things to consider include:
- hiring a cleaner sporadically or regularly
- considering what your kids can do to contribute (good starting jobs are unstacking dishwashers, feeding animals, feeding themselves)?
- your partner investing an equal amount of their own energy into life admin, school admin, cleaning, washing, feeding the zoo and all of the other things
What household systems can be set up make your life easier and conserve your energy for things that will actually help you get to where you want to go?
This is not about indulgence or laziness or extravagance. This is about energy and nervous system support.
Comment STACK and Iāll share the Substack article I wrote on the systems I use to make sure my week looks like my goal life (even when my timeās a bit out of control).
Okay? OKay. Buh-bye. Bye. Bye.