Counselling Made To Measure

26/08/2026

DEPRESSION TIPS:

Shower. Not a bath, a shower. Use water as hot or cold as you like. You don’t even need to wash. Just get in under the water and let it run over you for a while. Sit on the floor if you gotta.

Moisturize everything. Use whatever lotion you like. Unscented? Poundland lotion? Fancy 48 hour lotion that makes you smell like a field of wildflowers? Use whatever you want, and use it all over your entire dermis.

Put on clean, comfortable clothes.

Put on your favorite underwear. Cute black lacy panties? Those ridiculous boxers you bought last christmas with pink love hearts on the butt? Put them on.

Drink cold water. Use ice. If you want, add some mint or lemon for an extra boost.

Clean something. Doesn’t have to be anything big. Organize one drawer of a desk. Wash five dirty dishes. Do a load of laundry. Scrub the bathroom sink.

Blast music. Listen to something upbeat and dancey and loud, something that’s got lots of energy. Sing to it, dance to it, even if you suck at both.

Make food. Don’t just grab a Kit Kat bar to munch. Take the time and make food. Even if it’s beans on toast. Add something special to it, like a soft boiled egg or some veggies. Prepare food, it tastes way better, and you’ll feel like you accomplished something.

Make something. Write a short story or a poem, draw a picture, color a picture, fold origami, crochet or knit, sculpt something out of clay, anything artistic. Even if you don’t think you’re good at it. Create.

Go outside. Take a walk. Sit in the grass. Look at the clouds. Smell flowers. Put your hands in the dirt and feel the soil against your skin.

Call someone. Call a loved one, a friend, a family member, call a chat service if you have no one else to call. Talk to a stranger on the street. Have a conversation and listen to someone’s voice. If you can’t bring yourself to call, text or email or whatever, just have some social interaction with another person. Even if you don’t say much, listen to them. It helps.

Cuddle your pets if you have them/can cuddle them. Take pictures of them. Talk to them. Tell them how you feel, about your favorite movie, a new game coming out, anything.

May seem small or silly to some, but this list keeps people alive.

*** At your absolute best you won’t be good enough for the wrong people. But at your worst, you’ll still be worth it to the right ones. Remember that. Keep holding on.

*** In case nobody has told you today I love you and you are worth your weight and then some in gold, so be kind to yourself and most of all keep pushing on!!!!

Find something to be grateful for!

May I please get 2 friends or family members to copy and re-post? I am trying to demonstrate that someone is always listening.




Just two. Any two.
Say done.

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28/07/2026

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Blessings and Happy Buck Full Moon!

Named after the time of year when young bucks begin to grow their new antlers, this moon symbolises renewal, strength, and the sacred process of becoming. Antlers are shed and regrown each year—a beautiful metaphor for our own lives. We are not meant to remain the same. We are designed to release what no longer serves us and grow into something wiser, stronger, and more aligned with who we are becoming.

Spiritually, the Buck Moon invites us to honour our own evolution. It asks:

What parts of ourselves have we outgrown?
What wisdom have I gained through life's challenges?
Where am I being called to stand taller and take up more space in my truth?

This is a moon of quiet courage. It reminds us that growth is not always graceful or comfortable. Sometimes it looks like setting boundaries, walking away from what diminishes us, or finally saying yes to the life that is calling our name.

The Buck Moon carries the energy of resilience. Like the stag, we are invited to embody both gentleness and strength—to trust our instincts, protect what matters most, and move forward with confidence and purpose.

Tonight, step outside if you can. Place your bare feet upon the earth. Breathe deeply and allow the moonlight to illuminate not only the path ahead but also the incredible distance you have already travelled.

We are not who we were a year ago. Honour that. Celebrate that. Trust what is growing within.

Under the light of the Buck Full Moon, may you release, renew, and remember the magnificent being you came here to become.

✨ Full Moon Blessings. ✨

22/06/2026

Breath Regulator

BREATH IS NOT ONLY OXYGEN.

That is the beginner level.

Most people think breathing is simple.
Air goes in.
Air goes out.
The body survives.

But the deeper layer is different.

Breath is rhythm.
Breath is pressure.
Breath is chemistry.
Breath is nervous system input.
Breath is signal.

Every breath sends information.

Fast breathing tells the body something.
Slow breathing tells the body something else.

Shallow breathing keeps the system alert.
Deep rhythmic breathing can shift the state.

The body is not only taking oxygen.
The body is reading the pattern.

This is why stress changes breathing.
And breathing can change the stress response.

This is why the nervous system listens to the lungs.
Because the breath is connected to state.

The old question was:
“Am I getting enough oxygen?”

The deeper question is:
What state is my breathing pattern creating inside the body?

That is the Frequency Health lens.

Breath is not only survival.
Breath is a regulator.

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15/03/2026

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06/08/2025

I discovered this tree on a recent morning walk and am reflective on its resilience. Trees are among nature's most enduring symbols of resilience. Standing tall through decades, even centuries, they weather storms, droughts, fires, and floods—often bending, breaking, and regrowing in remarkable ways. Their roots, sometimes deeper than the tree is tall, anchor them not only in soil but in the life of the ecosystem itself. When a limb is torn or scarred, many trees respond not by withering, but by healing, compartmentalising the damage and growing anew. In this way, they teach us that strength is not about resisting change, but adapting to it.
Trees also endure the slow pressures of time and circumstance. Some grow in harsh conditions—on rocky cliffs, in arid deserts, or amid urban concrete—yet they persist. Their growth may be slow, even invisible day to day, but over time they transform landscapes, offering shade, shelter, and sustenance to countless other beings. In autumn, when leaves fall, trees do not mourn; they rest, conserve, and prepare for renewal. Seasons remind us that letting go is not the end, but part of the cycle.
I consider that there is a quiet wisdom in how trees live. They do not rush. They do not compare. They grow where they are planted, reaching for light with unwavering intention. Their presence is both calming and instructive: a lesson in patience, in grounding, in persistence. In their rings, we read stories of survival—times of abundance and hardship alike—all wrapped into the steady rhythm of a life lived deeply rooted. I consider how this relates to life. I am reminded that within its quiet strength lies a reflection of life itself—resilience shaped by both hardship and healing, rooted deeply and growing steadily toward the light.

11/05/2024

Mother's Day is complicated because womanhood is complicated. To all the women who hurt on Mother's day: I see you. I see how much you are pained in scrolling through your feed and seeing the happy pictures of seemingly perfect mothers being showered with gifts and love and praise. I see your discomfort. I see your pain. I see your loneliness. I see your sorrow.⁣
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As we go into this complicated holiday weekend, may we not forget....⁣
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The women who wish to be mothers but are not.⁣
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The women who have lost their mothers.⁣
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The women who allowed someone else to be a mother.⁣
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The women who have lost a child.⁣
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The women who feel they have failed as a mother.⁣
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The women who are not appreciated as mothers.⁣
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The women who are estranged from their mothers.⁣
The women who are estranged from their children
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The women who are alone, especially this Mother's day.⁣
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And the seemingly countless other reasons that women may feel pain and grief on Mother's day.⁣
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These are the women I always think of on Mother's day. Maybe you are one of them. I do not have any words to make Mother's day better for you. I just want you to know that it is okay and you are not forgotten. It is not the airs of perfection I admire or celebrate on Mother's day; It is the women who have been down and dirty in the trenches and come out filthy, tattered, and scarred.
I celebrate you.
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06/06/2023

Many individuals share with me their questioning of the integrity of the systems in which they participate. I share their query. Whether that be family, workplace, social group etc, and even the micro arrangements within those structures.
I am called to reflect on the quote often attributed to philosopher and spiritual teacher Jiddu Krishnamurti, although there is no definitive evidence that he made this specific statement-
"It is not a sign of good health to be well adjusted to a sick society,".
The statement challenges the notion that conformity and compliance with societal norms and expectations are always indicators of mental well-being.
The quote suggests that when individuals conform unquestioningly to a society that is perceived as "sick" or morally corrupt, it can be seen as a reflection of their own lack of critical thinking or awareness. It implies that true health and well-being may require an ability to question, challenge, and potentially deviate from societal norms when they conflict with one's own values, ethics, or a higher sense of truth.
Krishnamurti's perspective encourages us to cultivate independent thinking, self-awareness, and solid moral courage. Many share that this has meant standing apart from the mainstream or popular opinions. His quote invites the importance of maintaining one's integrity and aligning with a deeper sense of truth and personal values, rather than blindly conforming to external pressures.
Only days before my birth Krishnamurti gave a public talk in Madras, and I consider this supports his teachings and emphasises the importance of critical thinking, self-inquiry, and questioning.

“You must be alone. It is only the mind that is free from all influence, from all tradition, from the various masks it has imposed upon itself through life, and has put away all those, that is alone. And you must be alone, completely naked, stripped of all ideas, of all ideals, beliefs, gods, and commitments; then you can take the journey into the unknown.”
With the sentence opening his talk I feel compelled to also note that while Krishnamurti emphasised the significance of self-awareness and the value of self-inquiry, he also emphasised the importance of relationships and connection with others. Krishnamurti believed that true understanding of oneself and the world comes through self-inquiry, which requires solitude and introspection. However, he also emphasised the need to engage with others in a compassionate and open manner. He spoke about the importance of healthy relationships, communication, and collaboration, viewing them as opportunities for growth, learning, and understanding.

He encouraged individuals to be aware of their dependence on relationships, to explore the nature of attachment, and to cultivate a sense of inward freedom and autonomy. While he emphasised the importance of being comfortable with solitude and not relying solely on external relationships for the fulfilment, he did not advocate for complete isolation or a life devoid of meaningful connections with others.

How is this all playing out for you?

01/06/2023

As I welcome the first day of winter here in the southern hemisphere I reflect on my internal and external world and all that this season brings for me, and for the collective.

The first day of winter, even in sunny Queensland is one of renewal and rebirth, a time of transformation and inner work, the call for resilience and endurance. Stillness and Reflection through the Spiritual Darkness leads one to Illumination and the importance of surrendering. I reflect on the closure of Autumn as akin to standing in the rough surf navigating each wave only to rise for the next stronger and renewed. There have been numerous losses and celebrations, coexisting in the dichotomy of life over the past season.
Rebirth and Renewal
The colder winter with shorter daylight hours can enable a period of rest, stillness, and introspection. This introspection symbolises a dormant phase before new life emerges in the coming spring. An opportunity to shed old patterns or beliefs to make way for new beginnings.
Inner Work and Transformation
The cold and dark days of winter can serve as a metaphor for personal transformation and inner work. It is a time to delve into the depths of one's being and cultivate self-awareness and personal growth. I consider, confront and release the losses witnessed and sensed.
Resilience and Endurance
Synonymous with winter’s symbolism of resilience and the ability to endure challenging times I journey through loss taking cues from my higher self and knowing, together with the examples of others. Just as nature withstands the harshness of winter, I draw strength from this season's symbolism to navigate through difficult periods in life and pledge to emerge stronger on the other side.
Stillness and Reflection
I welcome the opportunity for deeper reflection, self-discovery, and connecting with my inner wisdom. I seek to slow down, embrace solitude, and gain insights that can continue to guide my personal and spiritual development.
Spiritual Darkness and Illumination
I lament “why?” on many fronts and as I hold space in this spiritual darkness and the unknown aspects of our existence, I explore and seek illumination, finding the light within myself, in nature, in humanity and discover deeper truths.
Surrender
In past times I thought that surrendering was to give up. Winter can symbolise the act of letting go and surrendering to the natural cycles of life. I take the lesson to release what no longer serves me, to embrace the impermanence of things, and to trust in the process of life's unfolding. I surrender to God’s divine plan and my role in this.

14/05/2023

Mother's Day is a celebration of motherhood and the important role that mothers play in our lives. As I honour my mother, my own motherhood and all women, I reflect on another aspect of motherhood- the concept of the divine feminine- a spiritual and cultural concept that represents the nurturing, creative, and compassionate aspects of the universe. It is often associated with the qualities that are traditionally attributed to women, such as intuition, empathy, and emotional intelligence.

As women, we hold great capacity to connect with the Divine Mother and uplift those around us. Being a creator, we share the power of the Divine. The fastest way for a woman to experience her authentic power and beauty is through her relationship with Mother Divine. For a man, honouring his connection with the divine feminine through the women in his life, and having a relationship with Mother Divine, is the quickest way for him to progress spiritually.
Many cultures have recognised and revered the sacred divine feminine energy (Shakti). They knew that the secret to transformation only happened with Shakti, the subtle vibratory energy that animates all life. Shakti is Divine Mother’s energy. When you can access this energy, you connect to the source of the miraculous, in yourself and in the world. Anything is possible with Shakti, the energy of the Divine Mother, and all women naturally carry this energy.

24/10/2022

A message on the power of speaking out.

‘I have never heard an audience so quiet, even before you got into the very sort of personal details of the story.’