11/04/2026
Child handover may be more common during school holidays. It can be one of the most stressful, emotionally difficult, and unpredictable parts of domestic violence. For many victim-survivors, it is not simply a parenting arrangement. It can be a moment where fear, tension, and coercive control are felt most strongly.
When the person collecting or returning the children is also the person using violence or abuse, handover can feel overwhelming for both the parent and the children. They may be worried about what will be said, how the interaction will unfold, whether emotions will escalate, or how the children will be affected before, during, and after the exchange.
Protective Group recommends:
• where possible, choose a public place with visibility rather than a private home
• consider whether a trusted friend, family member, or support person can attend with you or manage the handover on your behalf
• keep the interaction brief, practical, and focused on the children
• where possible, avoid discussing conflict, parenting disputes, or personal matters during handover
• think ahead about where you will park, where you will stand, and how you will leave safely afterwards
• if appropriate, consider arrangements that reduce direct contact, such as school pickup and drop-off
• if children are feeling anxious, think about simple ways to support their emotional safety before and after the exchange
• trust your instincts and include handover planning as part of a broader safety plan
Most importantly, the safety and well-being of both the parent and the children should always come first.
Visit protectivegroup.com.au/safety-tips/ for more safety tips.
If you are concerned about yourself, your family member, or your friend, please call:
Australia: 1800 RESPECT (1800 737 732) for support services or if in danger now call 000.
New Zealand: 0800 733 843 or if in danger now call 111.