11/09/2025
How often do we do that? Respond with 'good thanks', when really we are anything but that.
For over 2 years I wasn't ok. I didn't have the energy to show up as I once did. I can count on my hands the number of people that properly checked in with me over that time. The irony, that I had spent years prior checking in on others, sending messages to touch base, creating spaces to help others feel seen and nurtured.
As I began to come out the other side, I had someone say 'I thought you had been quiet'. Yes I had. I felt like I was walking through mud and constantly falling over. How I wish more people had noticed and acted with kindness and understanding in interactions.
I eventually decided to respond truthfully when I was asked that question - 'how are you'.
Sometimes it was 'no I'm not, but I will be'. Other times when I felt safe, I would open up more about the challenges I was facing in business and life. Not just for me, but also as an opportunity for the other person to know that we don't always just have to reply with 'good thanks'.
Now that I am back in a place where the sun feels like it's shining again, and that place of despair seems further away. I can truly appreciate the importance of reaching out to those around you - especially the quiet ones. Sometimes people just want to feel seen and heard or just want to have someone who will listen and support them.
So when you notice people are quieter around you - send then a text or give them a call. If you notice something seems off with someone you know, touch base.
Not just on this day every year, but other days too. Make today not just your reminder prompt, but the day you take action to look out for those around you.
x Carly