16/10/2026
Who do you want to be?
There are few more important questions in life.
Last week, I experienced a moment that literally stopped me in my tracks!
I had been reading through an email that had left me feeling intensely frustrated. As I read through it, I could feel tears of frustration starting to gather.
My son called to me from another room. I started to respond. And then I stopped.
What I had caught (just in time) was the automatic response that was about to leave my lips. A frustrated tone, angry words.
A question came to me. โWho do I want to be in this relationship?โ I knew it wasnโt the frustrated, upset me that was still reeling from the email.
I stopped.
I thought consciously about how I wanted to be in my relationship with my beautiful son. I changed my stance, my tone and my body language - and responded with love, care and genuine interest. I chose to be who I wanted to be.
This is more than just being mindful. Not just a vague desire to be better. But a deliberate decision about who I want to be. Not just in that moment, but every day, and in every way.
Investing time working out who we want to be - as leaders, partners, parents, friends, colleagues - is important as it helps us to know where to navigate back to, if and when we lose our way.
This insight came from my work as a Curiosity Coach!
Using the Curiosity Card deck, Iโd found the words to describe who I want to be - as a leader, a parent, a partner, a friend, and colleague. As a human!
This process, which I now share with others through Curiosity Coaching, gave me the answers to that important questionโฆ. โWho do I want to be?โ
Curiosity Coaching gave me the words to navigate my world. I carry an image of the words with me, if I need to remember who I want (and choose) to be.
While this is a simple example, the insights gained through the Curiosity Cards have helped to guide important decisions in many aspects of my work and life.
If you would like to find the words to navigate your world, please do book in for a Curiosity Coaching session. You can get in touch via DM or at [email protected].
I have 5 FREE coaching sessions I am offering to leaders in โfor purposeโ organisations - drop me a message to claim your spot!
Thanks Watkins for creating the Curiosity Card deck and Curiosity Coach certification that has supported me to decide who I want to be, and to support others to do the same.
~ Tracy x