21/06/2022
When children are raised in environments where they’re always achieving, producing, competing— when they’re always “going” they enter into fight or flight.
Parents are also within fight or flight. Unable to be present. Always overwhelmed. Parents also need to be at work, get their kids where they need to go, + deal with all the things life naturally throws at them at the same time.
What happens? Stress hormones like cortisol + adrenaline are released into children’s bodies. And we now know that this (over time) structurally changes the brains of children.
Am I surprised that ADHD rates are skyrocketing? No, I’m not. Our environment shapes our brains + nervous systems.
Here are some things I believe we can do to support a more *emotionally healthy* society (much of this means a flexible, adaptive nervous system)
1. MORE STILLNESS: more time for children to just be. You know how when you get rest time your mind tends to not even *let* you rest? This is the result of a hypervigilant nervous system. We need to prime children’s nervous systems to be flexible + healthy. Open to rest. SAFE in rest.
2. PLAY: Without it being judged, scored, + without giving participation trophies. Pure, unstructured play without an end result.
3. LESS FOCUS ON ACHIEVEMENT MORE FOCUS ON UNFOLDING CHILDREN’S NATURAL GIFTS. Lack of purpose + meaning is directly connected to depression + anxiety.
4. EMOTIONAL EDUCATION: education on healthy family dynamics, emotional intelligence, + nervous system awareness. Note: this education would lead us to an entire upheaval of current systems.
5. RELATIONAL EDUCATION: relationships create our wellness (or lack of it.) Focus on healthy, safe, secure attachment education so children can create healthy families as adults (even if they are born into dysfunctional family systems)
6. COMMUNITY SERVICE: collaboration + community connection helps children to understand we are all connected. It also allows them to be exposed to marginalized people or others who are “different” to them. Meeting + connecting with people who are different than us is key in tolerance + empathy building