16/03/2017
This week I’ve had a few discussions with Personal Trainers & business owners about their current situations & why they were unhappy with the results they are currently getting, or not getting and blaming external factors for their internal feeling or disappointment. The same principle I’m about to explain relates to business just as much as it does relationships and your health.
Two words… Responsibility & Expectation.
Response-ability is an ability we all have as human beings. It’s our ability to respond when faced with a stimulus. The decision we make, directly affects the result we attain from each circumstance. Sometimes we cannot control the circumstances but we can control how we respond to it, therefore how you decide to respond will change the intended outcome, negatively or positively. We’re ultimately responsible for everything we have or do not have within our lives right now, because… that’s what we chose.
You might be thinking well I didn’t choose to have a s**t week in business or, I didn’t choose to have an argument or I didn’t choose to become fat. My point is, YES… YES YOU DID, by all the choices you made leading up to getting that undesired result… BUT… stay with me before you react/respond in a way that may not help you to achieve your desired result about why you started reading this in the first place.
You might ask the question... “If I’m not happy with what I currently have/am getting, how do I change it?” (Glad you asked) You start by responding differently when presented with a situation that challenges you.
How do we change our response?
We ask better questions.
And the first question we ask must be directed towards ourselves. It should be “why am I unhappy/disappointed/challenged by the results I’m getting from the choices I make?”
Disappointment ultimately comes down to your expectations not being met.
If your results don’t match your expectations, what needs to change so you’re no longer disappointed with the outcome? Should the external environment be changed to achieve the desired result (most common ie. The economy needs to change so there's more money or we need to stop putting fast food ads on tv so people stop getting fat) or should the response we choose be changed to align with the internal expectations (rare ie. I won't watch tv tonight, instead i'll read a book or instead of getting annoyed at someone, I'm going to seek to understand them first)?
If you want to stop being disappointed with the results you are or are not getting, change what you expect from yourself first.
If you’re not prepared to change your expectations, you will not be in control of the results you’re not choosing to receive.
