Paige Davies - New Rules of Divorce

10/30/2022

Considering whether to divorce can be a confusing time, with so many mixed emotions. Learning to judge the actions of a person is more helpful that blindly believing their words. In relationships, actions do speak louder than words.

10/30/2022

Today, tomorrow, and the next day, the pages are blank. How will you write them?

During divorce it can be difficult to think ahead, or know how to write pages without our ex-spouse. Start with self-care and acceptance and find support in someone you trust. Happiness will follow!

10/30/2022

Some bridges are meant to be burned. It’s the only way to find the light. 💜

10/30/2022

Yes, we can and will live and flourish without them.

10/27/2022

Who we are during marriage is not who we are in divorce, or after.

We have a choice on how to live the rest of our lives.

We can choose happiness in the face of stress, and that choice requires letting go, and letting things be as they are going to be, without worry.

Everything will work out exactly as it’s meant to.

10/26/2022

During divorce, it’s easy to get overwhelmed with stress and worry. Self-care helps break the spiral and is a protective factor for depression and anxiety. We need all our strength and resilience when facing a difficult ex.l, especially when the process seems like it’s never going to end. Self-care allows us to be both (resilient and strong).

10/24/2022

Working with women, it’s surprising how much toxicity there can be after divorce. An ex-spouse’s worst qualities become magnified and for those who already had substantial shortcomings in the marriage, they will delight in wreaking divorce havoc.

There are ways to protect yourself like setting boundaries, no contact/minimal contact, and implementing consequences for bad behaviour. It takes time, but you can reduce the impact of the toxicity on your life.

10/24/2022

Healing takes time and it’s ok to take as much as you need.

10/19/2022

While I don’t advocate for labelling others, and most certainly would never recommend using the word narcissist in Court proceeding, this post made me chuckle. Happy Tuesday all!

10/19/2022

In divorce, personal suffering stemmed from me trying to find control everywhere I had none. It took me time to recognize all I can control is how I respond. When that finally dawned on me and I chose radical acceptance knowing I couldn’t change my ex-spouse or their behaviour, peace and serenity finally entered my life, and my divorce. Today, radically accept your ex will never change and only they are responsible for their choices and actions. Of course, you can choose to hold them accountable, but with that choice can come more conflict and chaos. Sometimes it’s just not worth it.

10/18/2022

Starting now, no matter how challenging life was today, yesterday, or the day before, the rest of our lives is a blank canvas.

No one else gets to control our future unless we give our power away. In this moment you can choose to start repainting your life and creating a more beautiful ending.

10/17/2022

Communication is about getting your message across to your ex-spouse, right? Well, actually, that's only half of the story. Often, when we think about communicating, we consider how we can make our point effectively, and how others are going to interpret what we're saying. Divorce communication, like all communication, is a two way street, which involves providing information to your ex-spouse…...

Communication is about getting your message across to your ex-spouse, right? Well, actually, that’s only half of the story. Often, when we think about communicating, we consider how we can m…