08/11/2026
At Restorative Approach, Shila and some of our other facilitators have had the privilege of studying the principles of Parker J. Palmer via the Center for Courage & Renewal. This quote, included below in full, echoes the values that we hold dear when doing restorative work. Facilitating requires deep listening and asking questions with curiosity in an attempt to understand more fully. While we may not be able to always guarantee a “safe” safe; as facilitators, we do our best to create “safer” spaces that can act as containers for difficult, but meaningful, conversations.
“So, I think first of all, safe space needs a facilitator. I don’t think it happens automatically. And I think the role of the facilitator is to keep the space safe, even when someone tries to break the safety. I think there are some simple rules, there are some not so simple rules, but one of the simplest is no fixing, no saving, no advising, and no correcting each other. Well, what we’re going to do in the absence of those behaviors, is we’re going to learn to listen deeply to each other, and we’re going to learn to ask honest, open questions to hear each other into speech. Which I think is another of the most critical tasks of our time. So many people unseen, unheard — they need to be heard into speech. So there are things we can do, but it’s a discipline.” - Parker J. Palmer, for The On Being Project podcast