05/28/2026
When I Was Asked to Speak About Success
A while back, I was asked to address 180 business men and women who all belonged to the same business network. Before the event, I asked the organizers what they wanted me to speak about. Their answer came quickly: “Tell us how you became successful.”
At first, I honestly thought the speech would be easy to prepare. On paper, I had enough material. I had built businesses, worked across industries, achieved things I was proud of, and collected experiences that many people would probably describe as success. My résumé could easily tell a story of achievement.
But the moment I sat down alone in my office with a pen and paper to prepare that speech, I found myself staring at a blank page for a very long time. I realized I did not actually know how to answer the question. Not because I lacked experience, but because I was no longer sure what success really meant.
The more I thought about it, the more complicated the subject became. Society teaches us to recognize success through visible things. Money, titles, growth, influence, recognition, status. We look at people who achieve those things and immediately assume they must be successful. I believed that myself for many years.
Like many others, I also went searching for the “formula.” I read the books, listened to speakers, studied entrepreneurs, and tried to understand what separated successful people from everyone else. Looking back now, it almost feels as if success became a kind of modern religion. Everyone preached a different version of it. One person said success was wealth. Another said freedom. Another said discipline, power, productivity, or visibility.
What started bothering me over time was this: some of the people who looked the most successful from the outside were deeply unhappy. They were exhausted, disconnected from their families, constantly under pressure, and forever chasing the next achievement because nothing ever seemed enough. At the same time, I met people with far less recognition who had peace, balance, strong relationships, and a deep sense of fulfillment.
That realization changed the way I think about success completely.
When I eventually stood in front of that audience, I spoke less about accomplishments and more about meaning. I spoke about how dangerous it can become when we spend our lives chasing someone else’s definition of success. If we never stop to define it for ourselves, society will gladly do it for us.
For me, success today looks very different than it once did. It is no longer about proving something to the world. It is about building a meaningful life, helping others grow, having peace of mind, protecting the people I love, and waking up knowing my work aligns with my values.
I think that may be the real definition of success. Not what the world applauds, but what allows you to live honestly with yourself when the room becomes quiet.