03/08/2016
How To Reconnect in a Sweet Sweet Way
This weekend was the first of 4 weekends, of an organizational systems and coaching relationships course I am taking to help enhance my skills in coaching relationships that appear in life, work and community. Filled to the brim, I have been itching to practice all the skills I learned this weekend and who better than with my hubby!! (I know, not usually a good idea to coach your husband but read on....it's a good story....)
Michael and I have recently been like two ships in the night. Since the beginning of the new year, he has been crazy busy at work with lots of big changes going on with his team and his company and I have been busy with some travel, some heavy client work and family events and activities. And then of course, I was away all weekend at this course. Some days, it's a quick kiss in the morning and then we might get 30 minutes connecting as we do the dinner dishes. And that's been about it.
Saturday at this course, I am so grateful to have been reminded of this very basic and sweet connection skill that I brought home with me that night for Michael and I.
Sitting facing each other, one of us says "what I appreciate about you is....." and then the other person says "thank you". And then that person says "what I appreciate about you is...." and you just keep going. It's called an Appreciation Loop. So simple and yet so powerful.
Appreciation goes such a long way and so many of us forget say it out loud, even if we feel it. Appreciation is a powerful love language that shows us that we are loved.
So after just 15 minutes of this beautiful loop of appreciation between Michael and I, our reconnection felt really present and gave us a chance to anchor in it, while the busyness of our lives have started up again today.
If you haven't had a chance to try this activity with someone you love, someone who you work with, a child, a parent, a fellow volunteer, I would urge you to try it.
My guess is that you'll feel a greater connection, you will feel the beauty of giving and you will experience the magic of receiving.
All good things. Enjoy.