A.S. Custody & Divorce Consulting

04/21/2026

Focus on what you can control. 🧘

The family court process can feel like an emotional rollercoaster. It’s easy to get caught up in the uncertainty and disappointments…
but here’s a powerful Stoic tool 🔨:
⚪️The Circle of Control ⚪️
This simple concept reminds us to focus our energy on what is within our power, and to accept what is not.
Inside your control:
• Your Reactions
• Your Attitude
• How You Communicate
• Parenting Your Child

Outside your control:
• Court Decisions
• Your Ex’s Actions
• What Others Say
• The Legal Process

By focusing on what is within your control, you regain a sense of empowerment and purpose.

We can’t control the judge, but you can control how you present yourself.
We can’t control your ex, but you can control how you respond to them.

Together we will rise up through the challenges and focus our attention on what is within our control.

04/18/2026

Thankful to be able to lift that stress off your shoulders 😉 and save my clients thousands 💵of dollars. 🙌

04/18/2026

Have you ever been caught in the cycle of abuse?

Have you ever been told certain things but the actions didn’t match the words? You were probably left confused, wanting to believe the best in the other person, but the actions are showing you differently.

If you’re anything like me, you want to give chance after chance to the other person.

In these times, it is great to sit back and examine historical actions and behaviours shown and quiet the promises, apologies and w o r d s.

What do the actions say to you? Are behaviours changing? Or are these nothing more than just mere
w o r d s to keep you tied into a cycle.

I encourage you to remember this quote as the gaslighting, the excuses and stories roll in so you can make sense of some of the crazy. 🤪

In the meantime, hang in there - and connect with someone who gets it!

10/18/2023

“An Abnormal Reaction
to
An Abnormal Situation
is
Normal Behaviour.”

- Victor Frankl

•We are told to come forward when there is abuse.
•We are told there will be protection and supports in place.
•When that doesn’t happen, how are we to act?

I want you to know that abnormal situations cause you to respond in ways you may not typically respond.

That’s ok.
That is human behaviour.

Connect with the right people who understand this so that your responses take place when in the presence of safety and compassion. You don’t need to be doubted, ignored or not believed any longer.

Just a head’s up… I don’t just offer legal strategy & support, I am your safe place to feel the very real and legitimate feelings 💛

.snowgoddess

09/28/2023

It creeps up on us when we least expect it.

It manipulates so well.

Likely if you are reading this now, you know exactly what I’m talking about.

DARVO

Deny
Attack
…and then…
Reverse
Victim &
Offender

You find yourself wondering, ‘Did I cause this?’

‘I didn’t intend for this but he’s saying it’s my fault.’

We have all been there. Let’s listen to our intuition, that small inner voice that CAN be trusted.

And when in doubt, connect with your people - you know, the ones who know you inside and out?
They will help you discern and figure it out.

09/19/2023

Do you ever feel like you are pushed to your limits trying to co-parent?

If you’re co-parenting with an abuser or narcissist, chances are you feel pushed to your limits almost daily.

Remember:
In your response, lies your power.

IT IS VERY normal to be angry, upset and discouraged after the repeated attempts to hurt you and your children. Connect with a divorce coach or therapist to find support.

But don’t ever give the abuser a negative reaction - it will only further his case and hurt yours.

Does this resonate with you?

09/07/2023

Wise words and ….
I can’t help but love this system of putting up boundaries.
Thank you One Moms Battle for all you do for victims across the 🌎.
💛

I have a two-tier “GAF” (give a f) system - let me tell you how it works:

The first tier of people, I can count on my right hand…those are my people and included in that number is my husband, and my two daughters. I care deeply about how they feel about me. I am not perfect, but I care the most about how I show up for them. Their opinions matter above all.

The second tier of people, I can count on my left hand. They may not be family, but I care deeply about what they think, how they feel - and about how I show up for them.

Everything outside of this is just noise. When I walked into this arena 14 years ago, my skin was not thick. Over the past decade, I have learned some painful lessons. Through those lessons, I have learned who’s opinions I care about… and the rest? It’s truly not my business what they think about me. I truly don’t care.

I know my truth, I know what I stand for, and I am incredibly proud of what I have accomplished here at OMB, in the world, and in my life.

There are a lot of haters out there and if I allowed them in, I wouldn’t still be standing here and doing this work. I would have said “peace out“ many years ago.

Many of you are experiencing haters through your custody battle, flying monkeys abound. I encourage you to adopt my two tier GAF system. We rise up, we take the highroad, even when it is lonely and we don’t allow the noise to cloud the important work we are doing. 💛✌🏻 Tina

09/07/2023

09/07/2023

What is yellow rock communication for family court purposes?

• It is disconnecting from the narcissist and not yourself

• It is sticking to the facts (similar to ‘grey rock’) but in a friendly non-emotional manner

• It is stepping away when needed and not reacting when upset or triggered.

• It is adding some fluff, as I call it, to soften the facts so we don’t appear bossy or demanding.

As women we are often under a microscope in the family court.

🍃We cannot be too demanding or we are labelled controlling/helicopter moms.

🍃We cannot be emotionless or we appear cold and heartless.

🍃We cannot be too emotional/upset or we appear irrational.

Is this sounding familiar??

If so, try yellow rock.

When in doubt, connect so we can make sure you’re on the right path. Together we can make your communication…

✔️narcissist proof
✔️judge proof

Source:
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08/24/2023

The new docuseries about Johnny Depp’s defamation suit against Amber Heard feels like it was made by an algorithm.