Kim Korven

08/21/2024

12/06/2023

I remember when I was thinking of ending my marriage. Those thoughts consumed me for months.

When I thought in terms of doing it for me, I couldn't do it. No way. I'd made a commitment and I'm a woman of my word.

Plus I knew, as someone who had practised family law, that I wasn't going to do THAT to my children. ... the trauma ... the big expenses ... the devolution of a relationship to hatred.

Then there was an event, inconsequential by most standards.

With it, I realized my children were being harmed by us staying together.

I couldn't do that to my children, either. I wanted something better for them. Something different - the 2 of us living apart - was the only viable option for my kids. That's when I committed to asking him to leave.

Yet he was dad. I knew our children would always love him.

I committed to doing it in a way that would allow my children to have the best relationship possible with him. That guided my actions, and the approach I took.

Was it conventional? Not at all. He'd come to the house to bathe the kids and put them to bed.

Did we resolve it at mediation? Not at all. Mediation didn't work.

Did that mean we fought in court? No. It meant I doubled down on getting results that reflected my goal.

I learned it only takes one parent who is committed to a peaceful and fair outcome to make it happen, when she understands the system and the human heart.

To increase the number of families who can experience the healing that comes with divorcing this way, I've created an intimate group program "Divas of Disentanglement."

It's part peer support, education, sass, and love.

The women aren't victims. In a community, they are strong and compassionate.

They become the moms their children want them to be. In turn, they support their children become their best selves.

I look at my children and know they are better people, because of divorce.

I'm looking for 21 women to join the Divas cohort starting January 8. If a friend came to mind as you read this post, might you share it with her? It could be the best Christmas present, ever: for her, and for her kids.

to learn more, here's a link to book a call with me:

https://www.theconflictqueen.ca/consultations

10/19/2023

https://www.theconflictqueen.ca/tools/p/who-do-i-choose-to-be-workshop

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If you have, here's an article that will help you assess if he really is, or if he's sleep deprived.

It makes a difference in whether you'll be able to have a civil conversation with him about the end of your marriage.

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03/14/2023

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Kim Korven aka The Conflict Queen is a retired judge and lawyer who now is a bridge between sticky situations/conflicts and the elegant, customized and fair solution you want. https://www.theconflictqueen.ca

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It’s the little things that can create big problems.