10/07/2026
A code of conduct means very little if it only applies to the people your fair can afford to lose.
There. I said it.
Fair boards are filled with people who know fairs.
They know livestock, entertainment, gates, volunteers, vendors, sponsorships, buildings, budgets and how to pull off the impossible with six volunteers and a roll of duct tape.
But knowing how to run a fair doesnât automatically mean knowing how to navigate serious conflict between people.
Some people are comfortable having difficult conversations.
Others freeze. Avoid. Hope it blows over.
Not because they donât care.
Conflict is uncomfortable, especially when everyone involved still has to sit around the same board table next month.
Then add a strong personality. A longtime volunteer. Someone everybody relies on.
Now what?
This is one reason I offer mediation and conflict support.
When Iâm brought into a situation like this, Iâm not starting with who I think is right or wrong.
Iâm looking at what happened.
What do the bylaws and policies say?
What process is already in place?
Where has communication broken down?
And what needs to happen so the people involved can actually move forward?
Bringing in a neutral third party doesnât mean the executive hands over its authority or responsibility.
And it certainly doesnât mean the board has failed.
Sometimes it means the exact opposite.
It means the board has recognized that the people sitting around the table have history, friendships, loyalties and working relationships with each other.
A neutral person doesnât.
That creates space to deal with the conflict without forcing the executive into opposing camps or asking individual directors to suddenly become referee, investigator and conflict-resolution expert overnight.
My job isnât to pick a side.
Itâs to help lower the temperature, work through the policies and bylaws already in place, facilitate the difficult conversations and help create a process people can trust.
The board still governs.
The board still makes its decisions.
But the people sitting around that table have some help navigating the messy human part.
Because sometimes leadership isnât having all the answers.
Sometimes itâs recognizing when the room could use someone who isnât already sitting in it.
So what happens when the person accused of breaking your code of conduct is someone your fair thinks it canât function without?
You go back to the process.
Not their popularity.
Not how long theyâve been there.
Not how much they know.
Not how difficult they would be to replace.
The same bylaws, policies and expectations that apply to everyone else still apply to them.
And if the board is too close to the situation, divided on what happens next, or simply doesnât know how to navigate the conflict, bring in someone neutral to help.
Thatâs not giving away the boardâs authority.
Thatâs giving the board a fair process to work from.
This is part of the work I do with fairs through Fair Systems That Work.
If something messy has landed on your board table and nobody quite knows what to do with it, letâs talk.
You are not alone.