Separation and Divorce Consulting

05/21/2026

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05/03/2026

To date, there have been some wonderful supporters that I am deeply grateful to.
For an update, I did find a bursary through Beem - Purple Cap Award - that we have applied for. Should the bursary be awarded and be sufficient to see Javan through this highly difficult time, we will not be withdrawing from the fund and all donors will be credited their donations back to them!
We should find out by the end of May if Javan will be awarded this bursary........fingers crossed! I am still seeking and searching for other non student aid supports in order to close this fundraiser without needing the assistance of the global community.
To date, no money has been withdrawn from the fund and won't be until it is absolutely critical and if all rocks for other resources have been unturned first!
Thank you to everyone who has shown their compassion and kindness! It is deeply appreciated more than you can imagine!
Rosana

05/03/2026

Navigating a high‑conflict marriage or relationship fundamentally alters a person’s intuition, nervous system, and core sense of safety. When one partner finally decides to leave, the internal alarm system that has been quietly activated for years suddenly erupts. Panic rises. The healthy partner becomes acutely aware of the trauma they’ve endured and how it has shaped both them and their children.
The nervous system, already strained, shifts into overdrive.

The Marble Metaphor
A high‑conflict separation feels like a bag of marbles spilling across the floor:
You try to gather everything at once.
Your hands overflow.
Each time you reach for more, you drop the ones you already picked up.
This is what it feels like to reclaim lost time.

Why Strategy Matters
Trying to fix everything simultaneously only creates more chaos. Placing one marble at a time—slowly, intentionally, strategically—creates stability.
A methodical approach may feel slow, but it:
Prevents future crises
Reduces emotional reactivity
Creates clarity
Allows you to turn a corner faster than you expect

The First Step Isn’t Communication With Them—It’s Communication With Yourself
Before learning how to communicate with a high‑conflict partner, you must understand:
How you communicate
How your body reacts to stress and environment
How to show up for yourself consistently
The Trap of “Lost Time”
Becoming consumed with everything you’ve lost only drains more time, energy, and emotional bandwidth.

The Path Forward
A strategic, step‑by‑step approach is the most effective way to move through a high‑conflict relationship, separation, or divorce. It protects your nervous system, your decision‑making, and your long‑term wellbeing

05/03/2026

Leadership and Networking Groups

I had an unpleasant experience with a networking group I joined at the start of the year. The Founder headhunted women who are small business owners. There was a lot of pressure for everyone to commit and join under the auspice of building a strong network of women to promote their businesses. The Founder had boasted several different groups she had started and advised her contact reach was large (+5,000) who would promote the new group. Overall, in the first 60 days there were about 20 women who signed up.

Eventually it was realized this Founder was manipulating and bullying the business owners, constantly asking for more money. As the members became frustrated and started asking questions, placing boundaries, and talking to one another it became clear the Founder's business model was a simple money grab.

With the lack of trust, transparency, integrity, and respect……the group folded!

We have all since joined a new group developed by, and for the members, as passion led us to the networking group to begin with. It was disheartening to come to terms that there are people out there only looking to capitalize on themselves and preying on others who are deeply committed to their businesses.

Lessons learned - the high conflict, selfish people often promote you under the guise of taking what they can. There is the old adage, 'If it sounds too good to be true, it probably is!' but now I have learned even if it sounds great, be wary of what you commit to. Investigate without losing faith in humanity!

05/02/2026

Dealing with a High Conflict Individual during an argument often feels like a never ending river in a rural and isolated community.

How to build the dam and stop the argument:
1. Manage the structure (how conversations unfold), not the content (the words)
2. Don't try to 'win' - it only increases the intensity
3. Lower your voice and slow down your words
4. Don't take the bait of them blaming you, you did not cause them to act this way
5. Offer to discuss the emotions, not let them get away with poor behavior
6. Let them know their reactions are theirs, not for you to navigate

I specialize in High-conflict relationships, separations, and divorces. I am not a lawyer or a coach, I am a strategy partner in teaching other how to navigate high-conflict relationships. Practicing the 6 things above can end an argument. I say practice because during an argument, it is difficult to remember all six. Try one at a time and some of the others will naturally follow.
Being in relationship with a high-conflict person, whether it is your partner, employer, parent, or sibling can be exhausting. The strategy is different for each person, as each high-conflict individual utilizes different ways to manipulate and gaslight, depending on their audience. What may work for one person in quelling the argument may ignite another. Understanding 'your' high-conflict person and their communication patterns is key in navigating the relationship and staying safe.

04/26/2026

If only 1,000 people donated $20, Javan would not face homelessness!

Please share to your social networks and ask your network to share to theirs! This way, more people can be reached and the better chances my son has to keep his housing and stay in school!

Thank you everyone, I deeply appreciate your help, every share counts!

https://gofund.me/e9bf9ad58

04/25/2026

Canada and all provinces within NEED to reconsider how 50/50 parenting is managed. Too many cases, too many times, the child is not given the benefit of loving BOTH parents due to the adult conflict. The courts need to consider the conflict and not wave it away/ignore it. Children are losing one parent, often the healthy parent who is broke and tired by the time it gets to the court. The high-conflict parent drains all resources just to 'win' but not to be the best parent they can be, only to harm the healthy parent in any way possible. Conflict is common - taking your children away from their other healthy parent without cause only harms your children!

A new bill in Michigan could change how custody and parenting time is decided

What is HB 5211?
Michigan House Bill 5211 would create a presumption of 50/50 parenting time, meaning courts would start with the idea that equal time with both parents is best.

🔹 What would change?
✔️ Judges would begin custody cases assuming equal parenting time
✔️ To order something different, the court must show clear and convincing evidence why 50/50 isn’t in the child’s best interest
✔️ Judges must provide written explanations for their decisions

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