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01/22/2018

Does extoversion wane as we age?

Yesterday, I watched a Dr. Phil show where he references personality traits, stating that extroversion decreases as we age. Does anyone have any research or stats supporting this?

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Denise Hughes

Denise Hughes Hi, Marion. Thanks for this; what an interesting comment. I've never seen any research to support the statement that you are referring to. I wonder if what Dr. Phil was referring to is some of the more obvious outward signs of expression -- exuberance, speaking loudly, "hogging" the conversation, that sort of thing -- and lumping them under the heading of Extraversion, which isn't appropriate. As you know, Extraversion is a preference for getting your energy from the outer world of events, activity and things and has no relation to how loudly (or quietly) you do so. What Dr. Phil may have observed is that certain behaviours are modified by experience (aging, in this case) and may change, but they are behaviours and not preferences. All the type and temperament theorists that I know of are firm in their belief that a preference for Extraversion or Introversion does not change throughout ones lifetime.

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Marion Grobb Finkelstein

Marion Grobb Finkelstein When you Google there is some data... but it contradicts. Confused

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Linda Folster, M. Ed., CCDP

Linda Folster, M. Ed., CCDP According to Type Theory, starting in midlife, we begin to develop our previously less developed preferences, which leads to a more integrated personality in later life. I am an ENFJ, and as I get older, I feel more like an ambivert than an extrovert. I crave time alone to refuel, whereas I used to score 9/10 on extrovesion. Phil is on the right track, but what he says is incomplete and potentially inaccurate, as introverts are likely to become more extroverted in later life. There are some good books written about how type changes in midlife and beyond. I am speaking from an MBTI perspective, but the same applies to PD.

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Marion Grobb Finkelstein

Marion Grobb Finkelstein Here's the slide Dr Phil usef

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Denise Hughes

Denise Hughes Great point, Linda. I was looking at the issue from a different perspective, but fully acknowledge the development of less preferred preferences as we age.

09/16/2017

New from Personality Dimensions
As the School Bell rings.....
September starts off with a bang as parents juggle school schedules, organized programs and finding valuable family time – not to mention dealing with how each of their offspring react to these changes. And often the parents we meet have no idea how helpful it can be to understand their kid’s temperament at this crucial time of the year.
To help parents, we have listened to kids’ conversations, observed kids over the years and even asked our own panel of students (a.k.a. our grandchildren) how they approach September. Here’s hoping this will help!
Our Resourceful Oranges may be feeling the crunch –– they realize the freedom of summer holidays is over. Fall routines kick in fast and may serve to make these usually high energy Resourceful Orange kids feel stifled. They sometimes risk breaking the rules that seem so difficult to follow and a little overwhelming to our adventurers, although they may tell their parents they were simply bending the rules a little! Their spontaneous, in-the-moment way of acting can be very infectious and other kids may join in the fun, so making new friends, while continuing to hang out with old friends, comes as second nature to these children. They will tell you how great a class is when it includes group work, entertaining activities, little sitting in one place and lots of hands-on “doing.” Keeping these energetic Resourceful Oranges active after school can be a handful for some parents, who have told us that the secret is to get them involved in sports, drama, or music once the school day is done, and if there is a competition involved, all the better for these kids who want to win!
Who loves to learn? Inquiring Greens of course!! However, they can be their own worse enemy when it comes to submitting school work that they deem to be imperfect. This is especially true if it’s in a subject that they have an intense interest in and they think that their work could be better if only they had more time. Appearing incompetent stresses them out, yet so does feeling unchallenged by the work. While they may at first seem very serious to other kids, these Inquiring Greens may have a wry sense of humour and can often make others laugh with their witty remarks, albeit sometimes not without a little sarcasm thrown in for good measure. An appealing class setting for these logical, objective kids includes one that meets their high expectations, especially the teacher! Being allowed to work independently, and on materials of their own choosing, excites these kids, although group work with classmates who can discuss the issues intelligently can be inspirational too. After school activities for these kids often includes exploring ideas and subjects of interest to them, perhaps alone, or with a small circle of close friends who enjoy the same things.
What about our Organized Golds? Getting back to routines, schedules and feeling a part of the school community makes them happy! They may be a little apprehensive though, if it means attending a new school and having to make new friends this year. These kids usually respect their teachers, especially if there is a set of rules for them to follow and everyone is treated fairly. Their idea of a wonderful classroom experience will also include a teacher who not only is in control of the class but also provides clear directions to follow so that the Organized Golds can get their work done quickly and efficiently. They generally enjoy working in groups, if all members stay on task and complete their portions according to the rules. Organized Golds often create a pro-and-con list to logically and objectively make decisions. Once they do so, they may then create a list and set priorities to get everything done efficiently and on time, if not early. After school activities for the competitive Organized Golds may include team sports or school bands and they like coming home to their own neat, tidy room.
Finally, our Authentic Blues look forward to meeting up with their friends once again and catching up with everyone about their summer. They will worry about being put into a different class than their friends and certainly will not like any kind of conflict in the classroom, often choosing to uphold the underdog in any stand off. They may in fact help mediate any issues just to “keep the peace.” The one thing they don’t particularly enjoy is competition; they don’t understand the necessity of winners and losers. What makes these artistic, non-conformists happiest in a classroom? First, they appreciate a teacher who is personable, inclusive and caring; secondly, a comfortable, warm, inviting, attractive environment where they can work in groups and socialize. If allowed to use their imagination and creativity they will work hard for their teacher and for their grades. These are the kids who don’t just look at the mark on the report card, but hang on every word the teachers say about them and their work. For the Authentic Blues after school activities must include people they enjoy being around; it may not be so much about what they do, but who is with them.

04/04/2016

There is a high ratio of Authentic Blue and Organized Gold teachers to their same temperament students, which is advantageous for these students.

The innate traits of Authentic Blue endow them with the ability to adapt to the learning needs of disparate Temperaments. Organized Golds and Inquiring Greens do not have these innate traits.

It is noted that Inquiring Green teachers are largely under-represented in the Primary schools in this study. The effect on Inquiring Green students has not been discussed in this article.

There is a pronounced disparity in the ratio of Resourceful Orange teachers to students of the same Temperament. The implications on learning, for this Temperament, have been discussed, as an example.

Primary school provides the foundation for learning. It is essential that educators have an understanding of the learning needs of the diverse temperaments in order to provide learning environments and strategies that maximise education. An understanding of Introversion and Extraversion preferences is also necessary to meet the participatory needs of the learner. Personality Dimensions® provides a user-friendly approach to help achieve these educational goals.

Awareness is the key. Not all temperaments are able to innately “read” the learning styles of their non-similarly traited students. The author recommends the introduction of Personality Dimensions® into teacher education and professional development. This will enable teachers to expand their toolkit of strategies to maximise the learning experience of all temperaments. Combined PD workshops for teachers and their students can assist teachers to recognise the behaviours of the disparate temperaments and to adjust their communication and teaching styles, accordingly.

04/04/2016

Inquiring Greens are innately curious and focussed on the pursuit of knowledge. They need to “know” and are comfortable when they can explain how and why they “know” (McKim, Detailed Descriptions of the Four Temperaments, 2013). Semantics tend to make Resourceful Orange students phase-out – they prefer action to discussion and analysis (McKim, Tying it all Together, 2013). In addition, Inquiring Greens present information as abstract concepts – a further learning stressor for the Resourceful Orange student (Tudor & Konyu, 2011).

04/04/2016

The Organized Golds are caring and concerned with the well-being of others. They show this by being highly organised and efficient. They see rules, procedures and routine as necessary to make things easier for people to understand (McKim, Detailed Descriptions of the Four Temperaments, 2013). However, these very attributes are all key learning stressors for the Resourceful Orange Temperament (Tudor & Konyu, 2011). Organized Golds do things in a particular way and this involves prioritising, planning and having timeframes. Whereas, Resourceful Oranges are multi-taskers – often doing several things at once – and they like to do things in their own way and in their own time. Resourceful Orange students may feel constrained and view the Organized Golds’ approach as “authoritarian” and perceive their feedback as criticism – further learning stressors.

04/04/2016

So, how well are teachers of different temperaments able to provide a learning environment which engages Resourceful Orange students?
The Authentic Blue preference endows people with innate temperament traits which enable them to “read others very well and adjust their communication style to meet the situation…. They are intuitive and sensitive to the needs of others… They are empathic and very good at inspiring and motivating others to reach their full potential” (McKim, Detailed Descriptions of the Four Temperaments, 2013). Authentic Blue teachers can mirror others’ behaviour to build rapport, so they are adaptable and able to provide an empathic learning environment for all the other Temperaments.

04/04/2016

Temperament Theory states that individuals are born with a predisposition to act and interact in certain ways to meet underlying needs. The term “Temperament Styles” was introduced by Keirsey in his seminal book Please Understand Me II (Keirsey, 1998). His publication contains in-depth descriptions of the four Temperaments: Intuitive Feeler (NF), Intuitive Thinker (NT), Sensing Judger (SJ) and Sensing Perceiver (SP).

Personality Dimensions® has added descriptors (as above) that reflect important aspects of each Temperament Style – Authentic Blue (NF), Inquiring Green (NT), Organized Gold (SJ) and Resourceful Orange (SP).

04/04/2016

“When someone is teaching us in our most comfortable style, we learn.” (McCarthy, 1980)

Personality Dimensions® uses the metaphor of colour to describe the four types of learners and how they need to be responded to (Tudor & Konyu, 2011). Based on the Learning Style descriptors of Bernice McCarthy, these types are:

Authentic Blue or Type 1 – Innovative Learners
Inquiring Green or Type 2 – Analytic Learners
Organised Gold or Type 3 – Common Sense Learners
Resourceful Orange or Type 4 – Dynamic Learners

02/10/2016

A great little article about the importance of knowing your children's 'colour' to enable them to manage conflict, sibling squabbles and relationship issues.

Personality Dimensions®: A Family of Colours and Dimensions


mother+daughters1Today’s post comes from the Personality Dimensions® archives, but is still as relevant as ever. While the book the author mentions, Nurture by Nautre is no longer available, it was in part, the inspiration for Great Parenting Skills for Navigating Your Kid’s Personality. This article was first published in the Summer 2005 edition of Dimensionally Speaking.



My two daughters, ages 11 and 13, play cards on the floor. I hear their laughing and listen with a half an ear to their discussion. Suddenly the youngest collapses on the floor in a fit of giggles. “Mom” she says, “You won’t believe it but Marloes is sad when she loses and even sadder for me when she wins! She is so blue!”

I laugh as well but think to myself that it could have been so different if they didn’t know anything about their respective personality types. This scene and many like them, would not have been possible if I had not entered the world of personality types eight years ago. I became interested after conversations with Denise Hughes and soon took my training with Career/LifeSkills Resources. At that time I also bought what I consider my motherhood bible – Nurture by Nature. I have been a single mother since my youngest daughter was one year old. I think that not having a partner to discuss child raising problems with made this book all the more important to me. It was very easy to identify my Authentic Blue and my Inquiring Green daughters. As the girls grew I would often explain to them that the fights they were having with each other were not always personal. I explained that they each had very different needs and ways of looking at life. This always seemed to take the sting out of any argument they were having at the time. Over the years this has borne its own fruits and I often hear such comments as ‘I forgot to be clear in what I wanted and I know your green needs clear instructions.’ And ‘It means a lot to me that you thought to buy me this card, seeing how you are green and all.’

I have now gone on to train in Personality Dimensions® and it has opened yet more possibilities for discussion. The whole area of introversion and extroversion had helped explain yet more sides of their natures. Of course they are going to be much more open if they realize their feelings are validated and accepted. I know this is when it will be important as my oldest approaches her teen years with a more solid knowledge of who she is. She still gets her Authentic Blue feelings hurt but she can rebound with amazing resilience from these episodes. She is also more easily forgiving of the other party with ‘They didn’t know I was Blue, Mom and couldn’t know that would hurt my feelings.’

My Inquiring Green daughter is way more self-correcting than all the nagging in the world could have accomplished. She realizes quite well what her needs are but also what is unrealistic to expect from her teachers and friends.

I want to really impress upon parents that this tool that we use for workshops and in our relationships with colleagues and friends is also a very strong tool for our families. It does give me a very warm feeling when I hear them talking out a lot of their conflicts with less emotion and more understanding of what makes each of them tick . I am surprised how much understanding children have of these concepts from a relatively young age. They took the tool out my hand and have run with it.



By: Wendy Sewell, Personality Dimensions® Level I Trainer.

01/20/2016

Oops, credit for the resolutions - Brad Whitehorn, BA is the Sales & Marketing Coordinator at Career/LifeSkills Resources Inc

01/20/2016

New Year's resolutions according to personality colours...
Inquiring Green
“I resolve to finish every project I start this year… and the ones from last year… and the year before that… Including the guinea pig hutch.”

“This year, my resolution is to not yell at people for crying… even if they’re doing it for no reason.”



Organized Gold
“In 2016 I am planning on being spontaneous!”

“No matter how much it pains me, I will let someone else organize the guinea pig sanctuary fundraiser this year,”



Authentic Blue
“I resolve this year to not take on too many projects, even if the guinea pig sanctuary and my kid’s school have fundraisers on the same day!”

“I will not cry when receiving constructive feedback this year… I will not cry when receiving constructive feedback this year… I will not cry when receiving constructive feedback this year…”



Resourceful Orange
“I resolve to focus, and finish my tasks on time this year, especially when it comes to my guinea pigs.”

“My resolution for 2016 is to not challenge every rule I disagree with, no matter how up-tight my boss is!”

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