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03/23/2026

One of the most underrated signs of intelligence and EQ…?

The ability to change your mind.

Most people don’t struggle with intelligence. They struggle with attachment.

Attachment to being right. Attachment to their perspective. Attachment to their identity.

Real intelligence looks different.

It’s the ability to expand your perspective. To take in new information and adjust your thinking. To hear a different point of view without immediately defending your own. To challenge your own assumptions and see beyond your initial stance.

Because your brain is constantly running confirmation bias in the background, looking for proof that you’re right and filtering out anything that challenges you.

So if you want to stand out, do the opposite.

Actively seek out perspectives and evidence that stretch your thinking. Get curious instead of defensive. Expand instead of protect.

You don’t have to agree with everything you hear.

But your ability to evolve your thinking and broaden your perspective?

That’s intelligence. That’s emotional intelligence.

03/12/2026

Most things we call “hard” are really just unfamiliar.

Your brain is constantly choosing between what feels familiar and what feels unfamiliar.

And guess what’s most familiar?
Whatever you’ve been practicing for a lifetime.

If you’ve spent years practicing:
• defensiveness
• reactivity
• shutting down
• avoiding tough conversations

Then of course those reactions feel automatic. They’re the most practiced.

But when you try something new…

staying calm, being curious, responding instead of reacting

it can feel uncomfortable.

Not because it’s wrong.
Because it’s new.

The goal isn’t to make it easy overnight.
The goal is to make it more familiar through practice.

Keep practicing the version of yourself you want to become.

Eventually, that becomes your new default.

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03/11/2026

Put your phone down when other people are talking.
Stop being distracted by things in your environment.
Don’t look at your second monitor or multitask work during meetings.
Stop being so easily distracted.

You are ruining the quality of your relationships, your communication, and your ability to influence as a leader by your lack of presence with people.

So practice being present.
If you feel yourself getting distracted, just bring your attention back.

Practice giving people your undivided attention. Even if it’s for shorter amounts of time, it’s still more impactful than a longer conversation with distracted listening.

The connection you seek in your relationships, the influence you wish you had as a leader, has a lot more to do with giving others your undivided attention and present listening than you realize.

03/05/2026

Two traps I see people fall into all the time:

1. Blaming other people or external circumstances
2. Being aware of the problem… but not taking action

I was stuck in both for years.

It’s easy to point outward.
It’s comfortable to stay in awareness.

But nothing actually changes until you do two things:

• Stop blaming
• Start acting

Your leadership improves.
Your relationships improve.
Your life improves.

Accountability + Action = Growth.

What’s one thing you already know you need to change but haven’t acted on yet? 👇

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Two great workshops this week. Special thanks to and Jay Mancini for having me in San Francisco. We scored another 5/5 ...
03/02/2026

Two great workshops this week. Special thanks to and Jay Mancini for having me in San Francisco. We scored another 5/5 across three categories and 100% recommendation rate.

If you’re looking for speakers or programs this year for your team, shoot me a DM, lets chat!

02/27/2026

What if the thing you’re most certain about… is the very thing limiting you?

Self-awareness isn’t just knowing your strengths and weaknesses.
It’s questioning the assumptions you’re gripping tightly.

“I know they don’t respect me.”
“I know this always happens.”
“I know I’m just not good at this.”

Do you know?
Or is that a story that’s gotten really comfortable?

Growth begins the moment you loosen your grip on what you’re convinced is true.

Try this:
Instead of saying, “This is just how it is,” ask,
“What else could be true?”
“What might I be missing?”
“How might someone else see this?”

The goal isn’t to invalidate your experience.
It’s to expand it.

Loosen your certainty.
Strengthen your awareness.

That’s where real leadership and emotional intelligence begins.

02/20/2026

Notice what happens when you hear advice.
Do you immediately reject it? Defend yourself? Explain why it doesn’t apply?

Self-awareness sounds more like:
“I don’t think I do that… but let me check.”

That pause changes everything.

Self-awareness isn’t about agreeing with everything you hear.

It’s about not needing to dismiss it to protect your identity.

You can disagree
and still stay curious.

02/16/2026

Comment “Feedback” below 👇and I’ll send our toolkit to give feedback that lands and navigate tough convos at work.

Most leaders think they have a feedback issue.

“My team is too sensitive.”
“They get defensive.”
“They don’t take ownership.”

But feedback doesn’t land where there isn’t trust.

When psychological safety is low:
• Feedback feels like a threat
• People protect themselves
• Conversations become guarded

When psychological safety is high:
• Feedback feels developmental
• People stay open
• Growth accelerates

Before you fix your feedback delivery, ask:
Have I built enough safety for the truth to land?

02/12/2026

Are you looking for virtual or in person workshops or speakers this year? If so, shoot me a DM and we can explore a tailored engagement that your team will love while creating the shift in behavioral change you’re looking for.

This is a clip from one of my keynote workshops, Tools for Tough Moments

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02/11/2026

At some point, usually when we were really young, we told ourselves a sentence that helped us survive.

“Be small.”
“Be perfect.”
“Don’t need anyone.”
“Stay quiet.”
“Work harder so you’re worthy.”

It made sense then.
That belief kept you safe.

But here’s the crazy part…your brain didn’t stop there.
It started collecting evidence to prove that sentence true.
Not because it was accurate…
but because it was familiar.

Over time, that sentence quietly turned into an identity.

This is just who I am.

And most of us never stop to question it.

But identity isn’t fixed.
It’s a story… reinforced by repetition and behavior.

Which means you don’t need to “fix” yourself.
You need to pause long enough to ask:

👉 Is this belief still protecting me, or is it limiting me?
👉 Who would I choose to be if fear wasn’t writing the script?

Change doesn’t happen by fighting the old identity.
It happens by choosing a new one

and then backing it up with small, aligned actions.

You tell a new story.
You take one brave step.
You repeat.

And over time, your brain does what it does best…
it gathers evidence.

Not for who you were…
but for who you’re becoming.

You are not your old survival strategy.
You are allowed to evolve.
You get to choose again.

Who are you ready to become?

Low EQ doesn’t make you a bad person. High EQ isn’t about being “perfect”I think of EQ less as a label and more as a set...
02/03/2026

Low EQ doesn’t make you a bad person. High EQ isn’t about being “perfect”
I think of EQ less as a label and more as a set of skills, some you might be strong in, others you’re still practicing.

It’s also contextual. There are moments where we show up with composure, curiosity, and low defensiveness… and moments where that feels really hard (especially when we’re stressed, irritated, or tired).

I don’t even consider myself “high EQ.” I consider myself someone who can demonstrate high EQ at times because I’ve practiced doing so…and someone who still misses the mark and needs improvement.

Growth isn’t about being perfect. It’s about noticing, practicing, and coming back to it again and again.

And Emotional Intelligence absolutely is the foundational set of skills that will improve every area of your life.

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