01/29/2022
As I facilitate workshops on navigating the challenges of work life, the topic of what we do outside of work comes up in class. Our ability to handle stress in the workplace increases when we can do things outside of work that fuel our resilience and grit.
One person I know handles stress in the workplace by adding EXTRA stress. Another person I know told me that a "fun" activity in his life is DECREASING his ability to handle stress in the workplace. Let me explain . . .
I'll change the names but otherwise, everything is true. Mary is a doctor. She delivers babies and she works in emergency. She has four kids and obviously her husband fields most of the load that comes with child rearing. Mary and her husband recently decided to take flying lessons. She's now done all the lessons, studied for the test, is officially a pilot and now is even taking aerobatic lessons. She told my husband that if she had not started on this track, (something challenging that takes her mind away from work), she thinks that the challenge of Covid at work could have given her a nervous break down.
Another friend, I'll call Peter, has made some huge life changes in the last year: lost a lot of weight, stopped drinking beer and coffee, and eating a lot less food. The only thing he didn't add at first was exercise. So this fall after many many years hiatus, he joined a curling team as skip. I asked him if he was enjoining it and he said he was not. He said, "My job is very stressful. Adding another stress to my life is not making things easier; it's making things harder. So much time has passed and I'm not the curler I was and the stress of being skip is weighing me down." My guess is that he'll switch to other forms of exercise in the future, (unless he has a breakthrough in his thinking on this.)
Two very different experiences - both entirely valid. We are all so unique and we need to spend our lives getting to know ourselves and what feeds us and gives us increased capacity to effectively impact the tiny corner of the planet that we've been entrusted with.
I’d LOVE to hear your thoughts on this? Agree? Disagree? Or add some nuance. I’m all ears. After I go snowshoeing today. :)