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Enablers/Flying Monkeys🐒 I've spoken a lot about abusive people but the category that is even worse off and don't get en...
29/06/2026

Enablers/Flying Monkeys🐒

I've spoken a lot about abusive people but the category that is even worse off and don't get enough hate and heat are their enablers and flying monkeys.
Because if we really think about it, abuse only thrives because people condone it, and those who condone it are enablers.

As a mother, your job is to correct your children to do right by people , so if your child is misbehaving, you don't support them and make excuses and punish or silence the one who reports them to you. My God, I hate such women. Imagine being on the receiving end of the abuse perpetrated by your partner and no one sides with you simply because they're probably gaining a thing or two from the abusive person or group. It can drive someone crazy.

The other group of enablers I can't stand are the ones who stand behind parents who are clearly abusive. I don't care about how much your love runs deep for any one, I will call out bu****it whether it's from my mother or father and I don't give a rat's a*z if I get hated for it.

The thing with enablers is that they're actually making excuses for their own future abuse by teaching you to tolerate things they should be calling out instead. They know that if your mom or dad is abusing you and you're calling it out, there's a high probability you'll not also spare them when it's their turn , so they decide to instead villainize you and side with the one who does what they know they're also capable of doing.

Don't ever make the mistake of forgiving a flying monkey, they're far more dangerous than the abusive person. Most flying monkeys usually harbor secret animosity towards you and can't attack you directly, so they'll definitely take sides with the one who openly shows they hate you but know that they were just looking for an opportunity.
Imagine your husband's friends telling you to just persevere his beatings because no marriage is perfect and when you finally leave, they come asking for forgiveness, they are exactly the same and would do worse to their partners. Never ever let someone who openly supports an abusive person over you come back close to you, they're not as ignorant as they claim. A well thinking adult should be able to think critically and come to conclusions by themselves; not let themselves be controlled by a hater's narratives about you.

It's like mean girls coming against you because they feel threatened by you in one way or the other and because we've been fooled to think that majority of people can't be against one person, we cower and get entangled in their smear campaigns against their target. Most times, these so-called mean girls have an agenda on their own and they use their enablers to do their bidding. Ask yourself why someone would suddenly start accusing someone else of doing something without proof. Ask yourself if there's a truth to it, carry out your own investigations and ask what are they really trying to hide? Most abusive people are always hiding something, that's why they silence their victims. So be able to think critically and stop being used as a flying monkey where you'll end up inheriting someone else's karma.

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Speaking of being aligned!!!There's something inherently wrong with people who think they know everything and refuse to ...
24/06/2026

Speaking of being aligned!!!

There's something inherently wrong with people who think they know everything and refuse to accept different versions of reality even when the truth is glaring in their faces.
I try as much as possible to teach you women how to build yourselves up in a way that society can't harm you; yet most of you will prefer to be fooled by people who are trying to make money off of you.

You see the soft life that mainstream media is selling to millions of us, is the easiest thing to achieve without the help of anyone if and only if you trust your intuition 💯.

Society ensured to mentally break humans away from reality by misleading us in order to continue harvesting our energies because some people are gullible enough and do not like to think critically.

When you decide to live your truth e.g "I don't have a supportive family but I also don't want to sleep with men/women for support" which is the right way usually to go but definitely not easy...the universe agrees with you but you just don't see it yet because we have been taught or conditioned to worry! Worry is the by-product of a disregulated nervous system. In simpler terms, being uneasy in uncertainty is supposed to be normal but that's not what we've learned from our predecessors.

When your spirit declines anything, it means you're not in alignment with it. Be like I go start do videos because I'm tired of typing these stuff.

Every human has a current which leads them to their destinies, the biggest test is to train your mind to not trust what is happening in your physical reality, but to trust in the "things which are not seen" i.e (what you're envisaging in your mind's eye) because the universe will never misguide you.
The desires in your heart are not just random and you can get everything the mind sees, you just have to learn how to look beyond the physical and stop worrying about the how.

So the current of each human requires only surrender, don't fight it, once you surrender, things start playing out better than you anticipated because the best guide, (the universe )is your driver. We're taught to hold on to bad relationships and toxic people by toxic people because it makes THEM feel better, not you. Someone who guides you shouldn't be telling you to forgive and accept anyone who's belittled you in away because the more you let go, the more the universe provides a better option .

That's why sometimes, a series of fortunate events can start happening rapidly and you'll be confused or scared and if your nervous system is not regulated, you'll mess it up because of the fear that when things are going too good, something bad will happen which is why I keep screaming that we should heal. Get therapy just to regulate your nervous system.
There's nothing like the soft life, the universe is not on a budget like your sugar daddy or mommy, it can provide you with so much more than the human mind can fathom, you just have to have a regulated nervous system to be able to stay in a receptive mode.

The soft life is simply knowing and accepting rest or safety because it's only in rest that you can be able to receive without sabotaging it. That's why most women will get a man who has the ability to provide and still not get anything because of how her emotions rule her. Regulating your nervous system is the soft life jare. Make I stop here before they start saying I'm pushing level down propaganda.

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Turn your competitors into supporters (aka transmute energies).So there's always been this phenomena I noticed about peo...
21/06/2026

Turn your competitors into supporters (aka transmute energies).

So there's always been this phenomena I noticed about people wanting what I wanted or what I had. There's also a lot of unnecessary competition I noticed,and I'd say it was usually one-sided because I didn't use to catch-up on it till it was glaring me in the face. Like in my family, I was a notorious child and when you're someone like me who has expansive energy, things will be magnified and you can't hide like the rest. That's why people like us can move together in a group and commit a crime and I'll be singled out.
This also meant that people who hated me hated me with a passion and those who loved me ,loved me with everything they got, there's no in-between. So me being notorious meant I was known for doing " black sheep activities"😂 everywhere which meant people generally hated me for no reason . And funny enough,there were still people who envied my life and tried so hard to replace me or at least use me as some sort of measuring rod for their success.

A man could be ugly and no woman would find him attractive but the moment I showed him interest, he would suddenly be the most appealing man to even women I thought were better than me. It was a weird thing and it kept recurring till I clocked it and started milking the situation because that's what alchemists do, we milk honey from stones.

So recently I got close to someone whom oddly enough, didn't like certain things like handbags, wigs etc but the moment they got close to me, developed an acquired taste for these things.
Mind you, me sef no like human hair like that, I don't believe in wearing another's hair on my head but that's a story for another day because I dey sell am still🤌🏿

So I was skeptical because she's married and I've had women accuse me of wanting their men , even men I didn't know and I just don't even like married unevolved women around me because it means I have to walk on eggshells and I love my freedom.

Notwithstanding, I encouraged her to spend her hard-earned money on herself but I realized that her interest is specifically for my items or things I liked and I cannot be caught complaining about things like these when I can make money from it ,so I turned her into my biggest buyer.
Yes!!! I have a wholesale group and once I comment that this thing is so good and I own one, she suddenly likes it and immediately pays for it. Sometimes I wake up to a long list of stuff coupled with her transfer for items I post. Sometimes I have to pretend to like a shoe and b💥💥 m, she likes it too .

She now buys handbags and wigs like it's no one's business and funny enough,she bought the one I wore for my photoshoot and even collected a tote handbag I was using just because I told her I loved handbags. It felt normal at first but my spirit couldn't rest , and no, I'm not worried she'll do anything with my stuff but it irked me that she switched so fast from not liking such to becoming completely obsessed with certain things and I attribute that to the expansive energy I aforementioned.

The only difference now is that I transmute it to my benefit. This is not the first time something like this is playing out but I've grown beyond being a victim to understanding that everything can be used for my greatest good.
There was a lady I was close to and I thought we could build a genuine friendship but when I noticed our values didn't really align, I withdrew and she literally sent me death treats so the second time I experienced something similar from someone else, I nipped it in the bud immediately, got an apology and some money but I still kept my distance because our values still don't align and there's never a day you'll catch me forcing myself to be around energies I don't like... it's unhealthy.
Anything you force is s**tty, just like fart, if you have to force it, it's probably s**t.
I know I'm not the only one who has experienced such. We must not really have much or be the most beautiful but we always find out that people enter one-sided competitions with us for no reason,safe their insecurities. If you've ever experienced it, it's not your fault; also,milk it to your advantage.

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Esoteric Wisdom Most people are here on my page because of spirituality and it's funny because I was once like that...Wh...
19/06/2026

Esoteric Wisdom

Most people are here on my page because of spirituality and it's funny because I was once like that...
When I was still in church, I used to pray for discernment and wisdom.
I sought for esoteric knowledge because I wanted to understand the other side of life.
Little did I know that I had to learn,but not what was written in books. As a matter of fact, I started understanding esoteric knowledge from books only after doing shadow work!

As a child, the only prophetic thing people could say to me was that I was meant to lead people spiritually and because I was still in church, I thought it meant I was going to be a preacher/pastor and I rejected it with my soul.

As I deconstructed religion, I started warming towards spirituality and even in the quest for this kind of knowledge, I was "denied" access.
I wanted to read certain books and was told they were dangerous and little by little, I came to the understanding that esoteric knowledge can't be found, it finds you when you're ready.
And when I was ready, I was presented with a library of books about the spiritual part of life but I still lacked a lot of understanding because the level of wisdom you attain is tantamount to the hurdles you went through and learnt from, there's no shortcut, certain knowledge only comes through facing life altering events!

You see, those of us who came as healers cannot gain knowledge through books and that's also where true spirituality hides. The very personal work most of us are avoiding is actually also where the treasure we're seeking lies because your magic is in you. You are the magic.
For example, a child who grew up abused by her mother and father already has a perception about safety and that's what shapes them,so a child who grew up with a present mother can not perceive things the same way. It's in healing those wounds that the abused child grows her spiritual strength because nothing physical can wipe away that pain.

I'm able to break down the Bible because I did shadow work! I delved deep into the ugliest parts of my life and sat with every discomfort till it felt better. There's no escaping it. You can read all the books you want but you will only end up mediocre and will always be following others because of the work you're avoiding.

Shadow work will literally break you down to rebuild you stronger and that's why people who truly do shadow work don't need to cast spells or do magic. We don't need to perform rituals and incantations to be protected, provided for or manifest things, shadow work already has us covered. Just my words alone does the work for me and I don't even need to say much as well.

You also gain spiritual insight because shadow work is the rite of passage to spirituality.
You MUST unravel from who your ego has built you up to be ,to become who you're meant to become.
Shadow work is messy, I always say it because it's not something rosy but it gets you aligned with your path.
Clients usually tell me they don't know how to start or what to do with their lives after shadow work and I always tell them the path will show up,just like esoteric knowledge , when the Bible says "when the time is right, I the Lord will make it happen" it's simply talking about alignment because it's in healing that you become aligned with your destined path

I didn't hide the site from where I got books from, but the same people who benefited from those books ended up trying to bring me down by ganging up and smearing my name because they truly are avoiding their shadows, refusing to do personal work and doing spiritual bypassing.
I'm not complaining about people stealing my content anymore because there are repercussions to these things and you can't avoid karma,no matter what someone claims on this Beyonce's internet, you'll pay in energy,what you're trying to reap from another.

On that note, I will continue to shatter illusions with my content even if I loose all my followers, I don't care. Anything you loose wasn't meant for you and it clears the path for the right ones.
My job on earth is not to sugarcoat the truth but to push it forward to help even just one soul!
So the knowledge you seek is in the emotional work you're avoiding.
Face your shadow.

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The polygamist I know we're boycotting everything South African right now but my God have you guys watched the mini-seri...
18/06/2026

The polygamist

I know we're boycotting everything South African right now but my God have you guys watched the mini-series, the Polygamist?
Darn, the person who wrote or writers of that series outdid themselves because not only did they capture narcissism to a T, they also painted the best picture of pickmes and I couldn't help but applaud them.
And yes, the actors deserve awards because they delivered 💯🤌🏿.

I don't want to spoil it for those who are interested but you see, everything I've ever written about narcissism, self love, narcissistic women and pickmeism are captured in the series. It compromises of 21 episodes only but it's sooo good.

It follows the story of a man named Jonasi Gomora 😂😂😂🤌🏿🤌🏿🤌🏿 and how he treats the people in his life, his wives and his children.

I have alot to point out about the central themes of the series which are things I've been hammering on over and over. I don't want to also narrate the storyline so as not to spoil it for those interested in watching. So here's my take home from it...

🤌🏿A man will treat you exactly with the same love and respect you give yourself.

💯Abuse only continues because enablers exist.

🤌🏿The moment you smell disrespect the first time, walk away, walk away like yesterday, not tomorrow, not today sef, walk tf away!

🤷🏿‍♂️Men will always use women who present themselves as easy or available.

💯Most emotionally abusive men end up becoming physically abusive.

🤷🏿‍♂️No amount of love you pour into the narcissist will ever fill them, fill your own self with all the love you have to give.

💯The moment you take your power back, the narcissist is rid of energy supply and will try to come back or trick you to forgive them, don't fall for the trick.

✅Choose yourself so that your children should learn emotional well-being and emotional regulation

🤷🏿‍♂️Children should never take responsibility for their parents. Parentified children all need healing. Children will learn self worth based on how their parents treat them and how their mothers especially, value themselves

🤷🏿‍♂️The abuser refuses to be held accountable and will never genuinely apologize unless it benefits them and they're never ever grateful for what you're doing for them .

💯Never ever build a man up. Never be the understanding partner, it's okay to leave the children with their fathers if it becomes too heavy a burden to bear.

🍇Men will want to get you pregnant early on so as to entrap and control you.

💯Kill the need for validation and if you can, deliberately ruin your reputation so that you don't die of shame when you're aired out in public...

❌Please don't ever beg another woman to leave your man, walk away always with your head held high. Listen to healthy counsel because there are some people who think we're jealous for teaching that marriage is not the end-all or be-all.
In the words of Joyce's mother, "this marriage will kill you".

💰If you're into sugary dating, ensure you get assets as gifts because the men will always go back to their wives even if they marry you.
Secure your finances and make sure you don't leave empty handed.

❌Don't date your friends' parents biko. And don't help a man treat another woman poorly, that's the fastest way to inherit someone's karma (just look at what happened to the wizard Liz)

💯Use protection even with your husband abeg

🌚Final pointer, men will always one-up you even if they provide you with everything you need.
Someone said he provided for all the women, nope he didn't, he breadcrumbed everyone of them and even the one who thought she was living a soft life realized he was ahead of the game and couldn't steal from him.

💃🏿BE SELFISH! BE SHAMELESS , KILL SHAME!
There's so much we can learn from it.

You can watch it on Netflix and Moviebox. It's a very educative and entertaining mini-series.
Enjoy


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Rejection is redirection and it's also protection. There was a day I came to the realization that even the abuse I suffe...
17/06/2026

Rejection is redirection and it's also protection.

There was a day I came to the realization that even the abuse I suffered from my mom and other family relatives helped protect me from a lot.

I've shared here many times about how I experienced hatred and envy from a lot of females , even the ones I thougt were better than me in looks, education, finances etc.

This post is not about me though. I remember a time when someone reached out to me about how my eyes looked in a picture I shared which made them believe I could also help them heal. She said my eyes looked like someone who had healed and was glowing and she decided right away that she was going to come to me for therapy. Even after rounding up with her, she maintains that she's glad she chose me and she'll gladly do it over again.

When I reactivated my page, Mark pushed one of you people's content or accounts on my page. What you don't know is that even the accounts you follow with massive followings sometimes come across our small and personal accounts (even if we're not connected). So yes, I happened on this account and I decided to snoop. She is a beautiful lady who follows me here, her eyes were filled with hope but it had a sadness I recognized.

Up till that day, I couldn't say I could really detect a lot from the eyes but I found out why they say eyes are the windows to the soul. Daughters with loveless and abusive mothers have those eyes. I had it in so many of my past pictures and I knew right away.

So I just want to tell you that, despite your mother not loving you and you not having a community around you who can soften things for you through support, know that things will get better and it's not your fault. Actually, there are a lot of wicked people who have left you alone because they feel that you're suffering enough due to your mother's hatred of you. That's still a form of protection, as sinister as it sounds.
I will not tag you but I trust the universe to guide this message to you and you'll know that it's for you.
You're being protected from predatory people, it may seem like a lot right now but a peaceful life is possible and ahead of you.

Imagine me being so open-handed in the past to the point where I used to give away my feeding money to friends in need. These are friends whom I later found out were harboring hatred for me. Had they stayed in my life, I would have probably been poisoned or setup to be killed by now,so their hatred and rejection of me saved me.

I wanted to join a group that is based on recommendation one time and one insecure ewu slandered me to the admins and they were the only person who could recommend me then. So I was denied access but I'll find out later that some of the admins would read some of my content and decide I was too proud or hauty and not humble enough 😂😂😂idiets . Imagine if I'd carried my innocent mind along and created posts around a group of women who should be celebrating each other but who instead choose to want to play God in my life.

Your mother's rejection of you teaches you to be ready for any kind of rejection in the future.
I remember the time I decided to break up with my best friend from secondary school. We'd been friends for so long, right to uni and I'd thought that what she meant to me was what I meant to her.
When I found out she had been lying to me about a lot of stuff, I called her and called things off in person and explained why. Then she started spreading rumors about how I chased her from my house, said some vile things, looked for people I wasn't on good terms with and befriended them , then flipped the script to say I'm running after her for a reconciliation.
The only thing I retorted to someone was that "if from childhood till now I've lived without the love of my mother, who's the person that thinks I can't live and survive without them" ?
You see, the people who make you think you can't survive without them are actually the ones who need you, that's why when you cut certain people off, they retaliate horribly. You were free energy supply. So if you think your friends hate you or no one understands you, be glad because you don't know what the universe is protecting you from and also because when your table is set, some people don't need to partake in the meals prepared for you by God

Sending hugs to you.
If you are guided to message me from this post, that's if you feel like I'm talking about you, don't hesitate to reach out inbox.
Sending hugs

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Let's talk about marriage should we? I know y'all have been wondering why I left this space briefly but I just needed a ...
14/06/2026

Let's talk about marriage should we?

I know y'all have been wondering why I left this space briefly but I just needed a break.
So over the years, I've had conversations with a lot of married women, friends, family members, clients etc and I bring to you a summary of the reasons the women have given for wanting to and actually getting married.

The top of the list was that they wanted to escape abuse at home and be taken care of by a man . I don't know if you all have now discovered that while marriage can help you financially, it's still not a poverty alleviation scheme because there's always going to be an exchange. Whether you like it or not, when you escape your family and get married to a supposed rich man, you just change prisons and add tax. You become a free slave for a couple of notes and the title of Mrs while the man happily uses you to his full capacity as he throws a bit of coins your way to pacify you while he also abuses you...then some of you even go ahead to have multiple children with them just because it sounds beautiful to society.

Speaking of giving birth and society, this next one is tricky because I had a few interesting cases under this umbrella. I know some women who wanted to have children who would love to date and be with women ( I don't blame these ones) but because of the society they came from, had to marry a man in order to not become a cautionary tale. While there are some straight women amongst this same group who got pregnant and felt that being married to the egg fertilizer was the best way to raise their child(ren).
Under this same group are women who said they didn't want "age to catch them" and went ahead to marry who was available in order to have their kids early. They let society pressure them into thinking menopause could come as early as their late twenties.

Another interesting calibre of women who got married shared that they loved the men's genes (this is no joke). They saw how tall and handsome a man looked and decided to scheme their way into getting hitched so they could sire beautiful and handsome children.

There are a few ladies I know who met their current husbands through the friend who was actually dating these men and decided you know what, I don't have the capacity to wait and attract a man I love or who loves me, why don't I just scheme and plot and convince this man that I'm better than my friend? And even after they discovered how horrible of a human he was, couldn't leave because of shame! I could even tag a few people under this canopy.

I know some women who said they just wanted to be married, despite not knowing what it entailed and because it felt like an achievement as at the time they desired it. Yes, about two of them said when they saw their friends getting married, they too decided they wanted same for themselves.

One of them told me they didn't want to disappoint their parents and went ahead to marry a man they abhorred. There are a lot of women who would prefer to stay single and childfree but they can't because of their parents' influence.

About four said most other guys they'd ever dated never took them seriously and the first guy who proposed seemed like a sign and they went ahead with the marriage, only to discover later that the sign they saw was actually a giant red flag in disguise.

A few unhinged people got married simply to pepper people. Imagine getting hooked with a man you don't really know simply because you want to prove a point to people. Then there are those who are just fascinated by couples they see online and decided to pursue marriage in order to create couples content (my man, my man, my man).

There are a few who said they knew society would only respect them if they were married because of the kind of lifestyles they lived in the past. Yep, as silly as that sounds it's true.

While I've seen some cases where some women benefited greatly from marriage, the percentage is comparably low to those who don't because no married woman has 💯 self agency and personal autonomy when tied to men and women should stop painting it with rosy colors to coerce others into marriages when they're not ready. If you ask me when is the right time for a woman to get married, I'll say her fifties or sixties because by this time, she's built herself and her life enough to know that it's a man's bonus for her to even share her energy with him!!!
Marriage is just an optical illusion to me now.

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13/06/2026

Forever a Shera stan. What have I been saying all this while?

"Oh, so you hate men!!!"Everytime I speak about anything, it usually circles back to the topic of inequality or injustic...
11/06/2026

"Oh, so you hate men!!!"

Everytime I speak about anything, it usually circles back to the topic of inequality or injustice and I get asked immediately if I'm a feminist and my usual response is "yes,but the bitter kind" and I say it now with a straight face so the questioner knows I mean business. Next thing they say is, "oh ,so you hate men?" and I used to painstakingly explain to them that being a feminist has nothing to do with hating men and everything to do with fighting for the rights of women and I've since given up on that cause, I just let them draw the worst conclusions possible.

Before now, these questions used to be primarily from men but some women have joined the club because they feel like I am pushing them towards hating men or at least they think my content is geared towards that and I will love to make something very clear.

Since I was a child, I have always believed in equality. I never believed that I should be subjected to certain roles because of my gender while the males sit things out. I have always qiestioned it and it still remains same till date. When you see and listen to me, no one needs to tell you I'm an advocate for women's rights, I've always believed what's good for the goose is also good for the gander.

No, I don't hate men, but I dislike predatory, abusive, disrespectful, useless, uneducated and lazy men (all of them carry the patriarchal flag and sadly it's almost all the men I know).
And yes, I'll not be getting married to any man because I don't believe in the institution of marriage anymore .
Notwithstanding ,I'll like to say that men are not my cup of tea for the following reasons 👇🏿👇🏿👇🏿

1) In this lifetime, I'm a female presenting human and I will naturally support my kind before I support any other human. I'm not talking about sexuality here. Simply put, I'm a woman and women are my cup of tea and I support women's rights and wrongs: So I look out for them. Men do this all the time, that's why women are usually outnumbered because we've been taught to be against each other. It works for them, not for us.

2) All my experiences with men have been nothing short of horrifying (especially most of the ones in my family). I didn't have any male role models growing up. I studied the predatory nature of men right from familiar grounds and it instead got worse with time.

3) When I've needed help, it's women that have come through for me most times, not men.

4) Even though women are also predatory, if I'm to die by a human's hand, let me die by a woman than a man's hand.

5) Men are the jealous gender! This is no joke. When you check the statistics of women whose partners killed them, it was primarily because they didn't want the woman to thrive without them in the picture. Even my uncle attempted severally to kill me simply out of pure jealousy.

6) Men are not originators, they're copycats and thieves and would rather steal than work for things. Started from them usurping power and subduing their creators to submission by erasing matriarchy from everything.

7) Men don't really care about women and children. Need I say more? .

8) Men support men.

9) They bore me

10) Men are emotionally very weak people

I could list 100 reasons.
However, these factors don't exclude women from having similar or worse traits but I would prefer to endure such pain from my kind than from a man because of one reason only; WOMEN'S VOICES ARE NOT HEARD ENOUGH!
I would rather believe a lying woman than an honest man.

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