20/09/2014
On friendship and relations
Like everyone else, it is good to have friends. But I believe that as God gives you different visions, you need to get friends that are supportive and encouraging to your vision. It doesn’t matter whether they are those of childhood, or new ones or both.
Your friends may not necessarily be friends amongst themselves, because you have various friends because they love and encourage you on different aspects of your life. Some people stick to friends because they grew up from childhood. That is perfect. But I also believe that in as much as fidelity is good, it is unwise to stick to a friend whose core values have evolved completely away from yours. They must not become your enemy, they can certainly remain an acquaintance that should eventually come back into your inner circle once they realise themselves. Bad friends, including family members can be quite a drain on your energy and a distraction from your career focus.
You have an interest in the friendship and the friend certainly has an interest in the friendship, even if it were just that they make you laugh out your stress, it is an important interest. They may gain something better than the laughter you get from them or even less than it. They may simply get the fulfilment that they make somebody laugh. That too is their interest. Yours and their interests are worth keeping the friendship, unless it is not really working out.
