06/07/2022
When someone is hurting you, in a conversation, how do you stop this injury, for both of you? My spiritual guide, Neale Donald Walsch, put it beautifully, and I will now use this method:
He says, “Don’t change the subject; don’t escape it; tell the truth, about what you feel, and why, right there and then, in that very moment." Say the words:
“You know, umm, can we stop here, just for a minute? I wanna share with you that I’m feeling a little pain right now. I’m feeling a little hurt by what’s happening, by what’s being said, by what’s occurring right now, between us, and I’m not making it anybody’s fault. I’m not saying it’s your fault, or my fault. I’m just saying this is what I’m feeling. I’m wondering if there’s any way in which we can continue talking in a way that could stop me from hurting.”
That’s it. That’s what he does, and this is what he says happens then: “I’ve never had a negative reaction to that. When I’m that truthful, that honest, but doing it gently and without making anybody wrong, almost always, that person comes verbally rushing to my side, to help me, because what I’ve learned about people is that nobody likes to see another person suffer.”
Do you think this approach could work for you? How do you stop someone from hurting you?
