20/12/2025
People who take responsibility,
who have high standards
and who do not leave their life to chance,
are often internally restless.
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Not because of big things.
But because of small things.
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The coffee does not taste good.
The restaurant smells unpleasant.
The hotel room is not perfect.
The hairdresser did not cut cleanly.
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And suddenly, the mood changes.
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Not because these things really matter.
But because they trigger something else.
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Loss of control.
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What is often overlooked
is that the cause lies deeper.
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Inner restlessness does not happen
because the outside world is not perfect.
It happens because something essential is missing inside.
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A stable relationship.
Connection and closeness.
Love and sexuality.
Recognition at work.
A loving family.
Security.
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When these resources are missing,
the system tries to replace them.
With control.
With perfection.
With a flawless outside world.
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Perfect environment.
Perfect decisions.
No deviations.
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It works.
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Until it does not work anymore.
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As long as everything fits,
things feel calmer inside.
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And as soon as something does not fit,
the feeling shifts.
Not because of the thing itself,
but because a substitute breaks away.
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The key point is this.
The solution is not to feel better.
That would be control again.
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The solution is to accept
that something is missing right now.
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And that it is okay
to not feel good because of that.
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And this is where the paradox lies.
The moment the attempt stops
to compensate inner lack through the outside world,
calm appears.
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Not as a goal.
But as a side effect.
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The path to inner peace
is sometimes the acceptance of inner unrest.
