Its okey to be different

30/03/2026

This 🎯

23/03/2026

I really feel this… and I just want to share some advice for anyone going through moments like this with a child who has a PDA profile ❤️ I hope this helps anyone 🙏❤️
First – you are not doing anything wrong. When a child becomes violent or extremely anxious, it’s not “bad behaviour”, it’s their nervous system in overload. Even very small things can feel like a loss of control and trigger panic fast.

Here are some things that can help:

Go even softer before things escalate. Instead of saying “we need to go shopping”, try something more open like: “I’m thinking about how we’ll sort food today… I’m not sure yet.” Keeping things undecided sometimes reduces pressure.

Notice early signs. Struggling with clothes, teeth, routines? That’s a sign their system is overloaded. In those moments, dropping everything and saying “it’s okay, we don’t have to do this now” can help them feel safe again.

Safety first in violent moments. Protect yourself by creating distance, moving them away from objects, blocking if needed. This isn’t punishment – it’s keeping both of you safe.

Use few words. No explanations, no reasoning in the heat of the moment. Something simple like: “I won’t let you hurt me” and then focus on staying calm.
Avoid taking devices or privileges away afterward. It can add stress and make things harder next time.

Remember: you’re carrying a lot. Feeling exhausted is real, and you should not have to manage alone. Asking for help, reflecting, and trying different approaches already shows how much you care.

You are doing your best in a very challenging situation. You are not alone ❤️

23/03/2026

It’s Time to Evolve: Why 2026 Needs a New Way to Learn.

We are living in 2026. Technology has evolved, the workplace has transformed, and our understanding of the human brain has expanded—yet our education system remains largely anchored in the past.
Every day, millions of children walk into classrooms where they are expected to:
• Sit still for six hours a day.
• Absorb information in one specific way.
• Keep pace with a rigid, standardized curriculum.
• Navigate sensory-heavy, overwhelming environments.
For many, this is "just school." But for children with ADHD, autism, or mental health challenges, this isn't just a hurdle—it's a wall.
When a child cannot meet these expectations, they are often label as "difficult," "unfocused," or "behind." and Then they get punished because they have difficulties. We focus on fixing the child to fit the mold, rather than fixing the mold to fit the child. The result? A generation of bright, capable young people struggling with chronic anxiety, burnout, and a devastating loss of self-confidence.
This is not a reflection of a child’s potential; it is a reflection of a system’s imitation and money.
True inclusion isn't just about putting a child in a seat; it’s about creating an environment where they can actually learn, breathe, and belong. It’s about recognizing that "fair" doesn't mean everyone getting the same thing—it means everyone getting what they need to succeed.
It is time to move past blame and start the conversation about evolution. We need classrooms that value neurodiversity, prioritize mental wellbeing, and understand that there is no "one size fits all" for the human mind.
Because every child deserves an education that works for them, not against them.

18/03/2026

År 2026… och fortfarande ser vi samma problem i skolor, både i Sverige och i Finland.
Skolplikt gäller alla barn.
Alla barn har rätt till en kostnadsfri och likvärdig utbildning.
Men vad händer med barn med NPF?
Barn som kämpar varje dag.
Barn som försöker göra rätt.
Barn som inte passar in i ett system som aldrig byggdes för dem.
Om skolan inte har resurser – får barnet inte stöd.
Om personalen saknar kunskap – blir barnet missförstått.
Om anpassningar uteblir – kraschar barnet.
Och kraschar barnet?
Då orkar det inte längre.
Då kan det inte koncentrera sig.
Då blir det hemmasittare.
Men låt oss vara tydliga:
Det är inte barnet som misslyckats.
Det är systemet.
Tänk på barn som går i skolan i 9 år med NPF, utan rätt stöd.
De lämnar grundskolan utan godkända betyg, med psykiskt mående som är skadat efter alla år av stress och kamp.
Vad har de egentligen lärt sig?
De kan inte komma in på gymnasium, får inget jobb och tar år att återhämta sig.
Föräldrarna sitter kvar med ett barn som mår dåligt, känner sig misslyckat och som systemet inte gav rätt stöd för.
Att säga “men barnet kan egentligen” hjälper inte i praktiken.
Barnet har inte fått en utbildning som alla andra.
Barnet har fått ett system som har dragit ned deras mående, inte gett kunskap eller möjligheter.
Och när social interaktion inte fungerar – vilket är vanligt för vissa barn – då blir fysisk skolgång inte heller rätt väg.
Då hade distansutbildning faktiskt varit bättre:
barnet kan medverka i utbildning
barnet kan få kunskap trots att det är hemma
barnet kan återhämta sig och bygga självkänsla
Skolplikten ska innebära utbildning, men just nu innebär den ofta bara fysisk närvaro – och det är inte samma sak som att lära sig något.
Vi måste inse sanningen:
Barn som är i skolan utan stöd är exkluderade – även när de sitter i klassrummet.
Barn som blir hemmasittare är exkluderade, men det är systemets fel, inte barnets.
Skolplikten existerar, men rätt till utbildning och psykisk hälsa respekteras inte alltid.
När barn går ut nian utan betyg och med psykiska trauman – då har skolan inte utbildat barnet, den har svikit det.
Föräldrar får bära konsekvenserna av systemets misslyckande.
💛 Alla barn har rätt till utbildning – men också rätt att må bra på vägen dit.
Och tills systemet förstår detta, kommer vi fortsätta svika de barn som behöver oss mest.

17/03/2026

It is 2026, and yet many autistic children are still facing the same problems in schools.
Too often, school staff still lack the knowledge and understanding needed to support autistic students properly. Many teachers are doing their best, but without deeper training in autism and neurodiversity, children end up misunderstood, overwhelmed, and sometimes even punished for behaviors that are actually signs of distress.
By now, it should be mandatory for all teachers to have deeper education about autism and neurodivergence. Understanding sensory overload, communication differences, emotional regulation, and autistic burnout should not be optional knowledge in education anymore.
Another difficult reality many parents face is when advocacy turns into a power struggle.
Parents who are fighting for their child’s right to education and appropriate support are sometimes treated as “difficult” instead of being seen as partners. When school leadership responds with defensiveness or power instead of collaboration, the child is the one who ultimately suffers.
School principals and leadership carry a huge responsibility. When authority is used to silence or dismiss families who are advocating for their children, there should be accountability. Protecting systems instead of protecting children should never be acceptable.
Parents should not have to fight so hard just to make sure their child can safely attend school and receive an education.
Autistic children deserve understanding.
Parents deserve to be heard.
And schools should be places of support — not conflict.

17/03/2026

Things I wish someone had told me when my autistic child started school
When my child first started school, I believed the system would automatically understand his needs and support him in the right way.
Looking back, there are things I truly wish someone had told me earlier.
1️⃣ Your child’s behavior is communication
Meltdowns, shutdowns, or refusal are often signs of overwhelm, anxiety, or sensory overload — not bad behavior.
2️⃣ School environments can be extremely overwhelming
Noise, transitions, social expectations, and constant demands can drain autistic children very quickly.
3️⃣ Your child may need support that others don’t see
Just because a child can speak or appears “high functioning” doesn’t mean school is easy for them.
4️⃣ You may need to advocate more than you expected
Many parents assume the school will know what to do. Unfortunately, that is not always the case. Learning how to advocate for your child becomes very important.
5️⃣ Trust your instincts as a parent
If something doesn’t feel right for your child, it’s okay to ask questions, request adjustments, and speak up.
6️⃣ You are not alone
Many parents of autistic children go through the same struggles, even if it sometimes feels isolating.
As an autism parent myself, I have spent years navigating school systems, meetings, and support services. Because of this lived experience, I now support other parents who are trying to understand how to help their children succeed in school and everyday life.
If you need support navigating school or autism parenting, you can learn more or book a consultation here:
www.itsokeytobedifferent.com
I also offer a free 30-minute consultation for new families.
Because different is not wrong.
Different just needs understanding.

A warm, supportive website for parents of neurodivergent children, offering consultations, resources, booking, and community support for families navigating autism, ADHD, and other NPF diagnoses.

15/03/2026

Thats right❤️

15/03/2026

My website is finally updated and ready! Finally🥰🥰

Feel free to visit and take a look. I would really appreciate your feedback about what you think.
I’m offering a free 30-minute consultation for parents who need guidance or support.

You can find my website here:
www.itsokeytobedifferent.com
“It’s okay to be different.”

A warm, supportive website for parents of neurodivergent children, offering consultations, resources, booking, and community support for families navigating autism, ADHD, and other NPF diagnoses.

15/03/2026

🎉 My website is finally live!

For those of you who have been waiting — it's ready! 🙌I've been working hard on building a proper home for my parent support services, and I'm so excited to finally share it with you.On the website you can:

✅ Learn about all my services for parents of neurodivergent children
✅ Book a free 30-minute consultation directly online
✅ Download practical PDF guides to help you navigate school, diagnosis, and daily life
✅ Read about my approach and how I workSessions are held online via Google Meet — so no matter where you are in the world, I can support you. 🌍

👉 Visit: www.itsokeytobedifferent.com

I would love to get some feedback from you — take a look and let me know what you think in the comments! 💬 And if you or someone you know could benefit from parent support, feel free to share this post❤️🙏

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13/03/2026

13/03/2026

Many parents raising children with autism carry a very heavy load, often silently.
As a parent of children with autism myself, I understand how overwhelming it can be to navigate school systems, therapies, assessments, and daily challenges while trying to do what is best for your child.
Many parents tell me they feel:
• overwhelmed
• alone in the system
• unsure where to turn for guidance
• exhausted from constantly advocating for their child
Parents often need practical support with things like understanding services, communicating with schools, managing meltdowns, sensory sensitivities, communication challenges, and everyday routines.
But emotional support is just as important. Parents need someone who listens, understands, and does not judge.
This is why I offer consultation and guidance for parents of children with neurodevelopmental differences.
✨ New clients can book a free 30-minute consultation to talk about their situation and see how I may be able to support you and your family.
You are welcome to send me a DM or email me at:
📧 [email protected]
Consultations are available in Swedish, Finnish, and English.
— Susanna
It's Okay to Be Different