04/03/2022
A first date may feel tough and nerves can get in the way. So following on from our previous post, we have put together additional tips and suggestions to help alleviate those first date nerves!
Be honest
Being as authentic as you can will help lay strong foundations for a lasting relationship.
Body Language
Body language is intimately tied to how others perceive you and their first impressions of you. How you hold yourself, your posture and your facial expressions are cues others will look at to appraise what type of person you are and whether you are approachable and likeable. Be aware of your expressions, tone of voice and gestures. Do you make eye contact throughout a conversation, indicating interest? Or do you keep your arms folded in front of you, forming a barrier? Remember that non-verbal communication is just as important as the words you use. Make a conscious effort to focus on the positive and the things that you are grateful for. It will make you a happier person and a better date.
Put your smart phone away
You cannot forge a genuine connection when you’re multi-tasking and non-verbal communication such as subtle expressions, gestures and other visual cues can be easily missed when you’re not tuned in. Checking your phone or scanning the room to see who to talk to next is rude and dismissive and shows that you don’t really care about what the other person is saying. Make eye contact. Ask questions. Focus on getting to know the other person, even if you only have limited time to talk.
Be Positive
People with a positive and enthusiastic attitude towards life are more attractive and even though things may go wrong, they do not usually let them ruin their day. Some people however, have developed the habit of complaining and will complain about everything from the traffic to the service to the food. They may not even be aware that they are doing it. If you find yourself complaining a lot, make a conscious effort to focus on the positive and the things that you are grateful for.
Good Manners
Make a habit of having good manners in all the various aspects of dating. This means replying to correspondence or thanking someone for a date even if you don’t want to see them again. If you have made the decision to not take it any further, let them know and wish them all the best for their dating journey.
But remember; don’t put too much importance on one date with someone. Over-thinking things or letting your imagination run away with you is never going to be helpful. If the date doesn’t go well, don’t stop and replay it in your head. If in doubt after a first date, go on a second date. A first date may feel tough and nerves can get in the way. At a second date, you can relax and get to know each other better and this may help you decide whether to take it further.
We hope our dating tips have been helpful. Above all else, relax and enjoy yourself. If you don’t find romance, you may find a friendship. If neither, you have gained dating experience and will be prepared for your next first date!
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