Javelin Success

27/10/2024

https://youtube.com/shorts/eWGCzaMZlmQ?si=61ax41SS-lFZrpLI

Money is very important in your life

04/10/2024

https://youtube.com/shorts/zzl7OhcmYgg?si=WqSDl7X8joktVaoV

27/06/2024

Check out Pamah J’s video.

14/06/2024

KINGDOM COACHING

Kingdom Coaching is the most recent niche within Javelin Success and something I’ve been thinking of for a while. It’s a particular type of coaching and mentoring programme aimed at supporting and encouraging Christians in the workplace.

The coaching process is intentionally designed to affect people at the heart and mind level, but which actually makes a difference to the way we live and do life and work.

Effective coaching is about actively listening and asking good questions. Jesus was the Master Questioner. And He often answered questions with a question.

If Jesus had only told people what to do, they would just be getting more teaching. But by asking specific and appropriate questions, He allowed them to discover the answers they needed.

In coaching others I don’t tell people what to do, but the questions and the space and time given in the sessions to reflect on the important matters of the heart, helps the individual to process and work out how they can live out their faith in practice.

Biblical mentoring can also be a part of the programme. This is more directive and supportive when the individual needs more guidance in their Biblical knowledge or where the person wants to implement that knowledge in a practical way.

If you would like to know more about Kingdom Coaching, feel free to contact me at [email protected] or
complete this form https://lnkd.in/eUAM4Dge

22/05/2024

𝐄𝐦𝐨𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐚𝐥 𝐈𝐧𝐭𝐞𝐥𝐥𝐢𝐠𝐞𝐧𝐜𝐞:
𝐄𝐦𝐩𝐚𝐭𝐡𝐲 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐆𝐨𝐨𝐝 𝐌𝐞𝐧𝐭𝐚𝐥 𝐇𝐞𝐚𝐥𝐭𝐡

Empathy is one of the core characteristics of emotional intelligence.

Empathy towards yourself actually helps you to improve your mental health rather than continually judging yourself or beating yourself up. Some of us are more prone to this than others and there are a lot of contributing factors.

Having a strict authoritarian upbringing or having caregivers, teachers or employers who are or were critical, or where there is a culture of blame can all contribute to this.

Personality and other factors are also at play.

We internalise a lot of the 'voices' that we hear throughout our childhood development, through the teenage years and into our 20s and 30s, until those voices become our own voice criticising us and showing us no empathy. We judge ourselves and we self-sabotage. Our true self can get lost in all of this. So we need to look at ourselves with compassion.

Showing empathy towards yourself is not just an intellectual process. But is is about actively practising and building up a mental muscle.

Self-care and empathy towards ourselves is important for all of us, but it is especially important for those who look out for and support others, particularly for those who coach, mentor, counsel or who are involved in the therapy of others.

What do you do to look after your own mental health?

22/05/2024

𝐄𝐦𝐨𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐚𝐥 𝐈𝐧𝐭𝐞𝐥𝐥𝐢𝐠𝐞𝐧𝐜𝐞:
𝐌𝐚𝐧𝐚𝐠𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐒𝐭𝐫𝐞𝐬𝐬 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐈𝐦𝐩𝐫𝐨𝐯𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐌𝐞𝐧𝐭𝐚𝐥 𝐇𝐞𝐚𝐥𝐭𝐡

Mastering emotional intelligence in life and work is vital for personal wellbeing and is an aid to professional success.

Research consistently highlights the profound impact of emotional intelligence on stress management and good mental health.

Understanding our own emotions and those of others equips us with the tools to navigate challenging situations.

By improving our emotional intelligence we gain the ability to respond thoughtfully rather than react impulsively in the face of stressors, contributing to our overall mental wellness.

Emotional immaturity harms others and so investing in our emotional intelligence ought not to be just an individual endeavour.

When it is a collective commitment it builds healthier, more inclusive empathetic communities. By promoting environments that prioritise good mental health and emotional wellbeing, we create spaces where everyone can thrive, personally and professionally.

21/05/2024

𝐔𝐧𝐥𝐨𝐜𝐤𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐑𝐞𝐬𝐢𝐥𝐢𝐞𝐧𝐜𝐞 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐆𝐨𝐨𝐝 𝐌𝐞𝐧𝐭𝐚𝐥 𝐇𝐞𝐚𝐥𝐭𝐡: 𝐓𝐡𝐞 𝐏𝐨𝐰𝐞𝐫 𝐨𝐟 𝐄𝐦𝐨𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐚𝐥 𝐈𝐧𝐭𝐞𝐥𝐥𝐢𝐠𝐞𝐧𝐜𝐞

The interaction between emotional intelligence, resilience, and mental health is profound.

Building our emotional intelligence is a cornerstone to resilience. It provides us with the emotional tools to navigate life's ups and downs. By becoming more self-aware, managing our emotions effectively, and fostering empathy, we build a sturdy foundation for resilience. This is essential for adapting to and thriving in today's ever-changing world.

The link between emotional intelligence (EQ) and good mental health is clear. When we understand and regulate our emotions, we're better equipped to cope with stress, manage anxiety, and nurture a positive outlook on life, even in the face of adversity. Investing in our EQ helps us strengthen our ability to bounce back from challenges and have a healthier more resilient mind.

21/05/2024

Confidence?
Self-doubt?
Mental health?
Self-criticism?
Physical health?
Work relationships?
Family relationships?
Friendships?
Managing pressure to be “all things to all people”?
Addictions?
Resilence?
Self-sabotage?
Procrastination?
Emotional abuse?

What do we need to be emotionally intelligent about?
All of the above!

Emotional intelligence is the ability to make healthy choices, based on accurately identifying, understanding and managing your own feelings and those of others.

19/05/2024

𝐄𝐦𝐨𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐚𝐥 𝐈𝐧𝐭𝐞𝐥𝐥𝐢𝐠𝐞𝐧𝐜𝐞: 𝐡𝐞𝐥𝐩𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐝𝐞𝐚𝐥 𝐰𝐢𝐭𝐡 𝐞𝐦𝐨𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐚𝐥 𝐚𝐛𝐮𝐬𝐞.

If you are currently in, or have been in an abusive relationship, whether romantic, family or in the workplace, increasing your emotional intelligence can help you to process what has happened to you, help you to understand how to deal with it or leave the situation altogether. It enables you to begin the healing process and recovery from the abuse.

One of the fundamental things to understand is that it is possible to come to a place of forgiveness without reconciliation. Forgiveness is NOT reconciliation.

People will tell you to forgive and forget and to 'make up' with someone, even though that person is continuing to treat you badly. This is extremely bad advice, as the ‘abuser’ will continue to treat you in an abusive way and destroy your spirit. This can cause repression and forgetting or trying to forget it - regression and can cause all sorts of illness.

For reconciliation to occur it takes recognition and acknowledgment of wrongdoing by the perpetrator. It is also necessary for the abuser to demonstrate genuine repentance for their behaviour along with a heartfelt apology. This is before the process of building trust even becomes possible and only after that does it then take both parties to work together to reconcile.

However, with narcissistic abuse this is unlikely to come about in a healthy way as the abuser tends to never admit fault.

True FORGIVENESS is NOT reconciliation. Rather it is an attitude and a ‘letting go’ of vengeance and bitterness and is possible without reconciliation.

From the Christian perspective it is about handing the situation and the abuser over to God for Him to judge. It’s a letting go of bitterness and being at peace with yourself, knowing that God will deal with this in a just way. Walking away from abuse is the best course of action and you
should never feel guilty for doing this. It is self-care.

Coming to a place of forgiveness is actually healthy for the person who has been wronged, but can take some time and must not be rushed.

Quite often the one who has been abused tends to blame themselves because of the trauma they have experienced. The person has to work through all the feelings and thoughts of what has happened to them, and come to see that they themselves weren’t to blame. So, they also have to come to a place of realisation that they did nothing wrong and ‘forgive themselves’ for ‘allowing themselves’ to be in that situation as well as forgiving the abuser.

Neither is it healthy to forget the abuse or to minimise what happened.

But, in time, with support, you can move forward from it.

Becoming more emotionally intelligent helps you deal with the process of recovering from emotional abuse.

14/05/2024

𝐈𝐧𝐜𝐫𝐞𝐚𝐬𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐞𝐦𝐨𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐚𝐥 𝐢𝐧𝐭𝐞𝐥𝐥𝐢𝐠𝐞𝐧𝐜𝐞 𝐡𝐞𝐥𝐩𝐬 𝐮𝐬 𝐭𝐨 𝐛𝐮𝐢𝐥𝐝 𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐜𝐨𝐧𝐟𝐢𝐝𝐞𝐧𝐜𝐞.

When we learn more about ourselves, we are more likely to pre-empt difficulites that will arise with people, identify when others are treating us wrongfully and know how to deal with it. Increased confidence can help us deal with life's challenges. We are not born with confidence. It is something we learn.

Neither is confidence static. It can be greatly affected by what life throws at us. Childhood experiences, including upbringing by parents and relatives, school experience and the way teachers have related to us, our peers, puberty, adulthood and behaviours from others in employment all affect our confidence. Our confidence can go up and down depending on our experience.

However, increasing our emotional intelligence; learning about ourselves, becoming self-aware, being more socially aware, understanding what motivates us, learning what our triggers are and why, learning how to self-regulate, managing our emotions and mindsets (our anger, frustration, sadness, anxiety, self-doubt etc), learning about integrity, empathy, compassion and acquiring good social skills - all of these help us to negotiate the challenges we face at home, in families, at school, at work and in our social time.

14/05/2024

𝐄𝐦𝐨𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐚𝐥 𝐈𝐧𝐭𝐞𝐥𝐥𝐢𝐠𝐞𝐧𝐜𝐞 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐂𝐨𝐧𝐟𝐢𝐝𝐞𝐧𝐜𝐞

Confident people love to learn from others, don't pretend to know everything, and aren't worried so much about what others think of them.

They won't do things just for the look of it. They have strong principles and stick to them and don't just do what makes them happy in the moment. They don't seek confrontation, but aren't afraid of it either when it means standing up for what they believe in. Courage and confidence go hand in hand.

They are okay to be different from others. They don't just go along with the crowd or do what everyone else is doing, and they also accept difference in others. They don't criticise or judge others for being different.
So confidence is also related to being empathetic and compassionate; traits which also show high emotional intelligence.

This is also seen in their mindsets about giving and scarcity. Confident people enjoy helping and giving to others, not necessarily for monetary reward, and like to make sure everyone is included.

They are interested in others, support and encourage others and aren't worried about sharing things or sharing information. Insecure people tend to take what they can for themselves, hold onto what they see as theirs, want to be seen as superior and put others down. They are more likely to be jealous and exclude or marginalise others they see as a threat.

Confident people are keen to learn about themselves; learn about their emotions, their mind, their behaviour and how they relate to others and how they can improve. They are constantly learning and have a growth mindset.

14/05/2024

What can we learn about confidence from studying emotional intelligence?

CONFIDENT people ...

are usually open to consider new ideas and various opinions.

INSECURE people ...

are often closed-minded and think they know everything.