17/11/2025
If our friend was upset, we’d sit with them, support them, hold space.
So why do so many believe children should be ignored when their emotions feel too big?
Children don’t need to be “left to deal with it.”
They need co-regulation — an adult who shares their calm when they can’t find their own.
Co-regulation isn’t rescuing or giving in.
It’s offering warmth, modelling coping, and guiding them through the overwhelm so they can learn to understand and express their feelings in healthy ways.
Simple to say… not always simple to do.
Especially when their meltdown triggers your own nervous system.
But connection teaches skills that isolation never will.
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