22/09/2023
I came across this beautiful powm while away on retreat this week. (yes, I’ve gone a bit woo woo this week - but don’t worry - I’ll be back to client attraction tips next week)!
Although it is aimed at women, I think it really speaks to anyone who may have had a tough time in the past, and is ready to step up and show up or themselves.
Here it is: She Was Done by Adrienne Pieroth
She was done not fully being herself.
She realised she was the only self she could be—and not being unapologetically true to herself was a disservice to her soul and the world.
She was done listening to the noise of the world. She realised the quiet voice of her own soul was the most beautiful sound.
She was done questioning her motives, her intentions, the call of her soul. She realised questions seek answers, and maybe she already knew the answers.
She was done striving, forcing, pushing through and staying on the hard path. She realised toughing things out might be a sign to pick another path.
She was done with friends that admonished her to be more light and breezy. She realised they didn’t understand she swam in the deep waters of life, she felt at home in their dark depths and died if she lived on the surface.
She was done with the distractions, the denials, the small addictions that pulled her away from the true desires of her soul. She realised that strength of character came from focus and commitment.
She was done not following the desires that yelled out in her soul every day. She realised if she did nothing about them, they died a quiet death that took a piece of her soul with them.
She was done with dinner parties and cocktail hours where conversations skimmed the surface of life. She realised the beverages created distortion and a temporary happiness that wasn’t real and disappeared in the light of the day.
She was done trying to please everyone. She realised it could never be done.
She was done questioning herself. She realised her heart knew the truth and she needed to follow it.
She was done analyzing all the options, weighing the pros and cons and trying to figure everything out before leaping. She realised that taking a leap implied not fully seeing where she landed.
The monumental task of improving your work, your love, your life, happens in the first 30 minutes of your day
She was done battling with herself, trying to change who she knew herself to be. She realised the world made it hard enough to fully be herself, so why add to the challenge.
She was done worrying, as if worry was the price she had to pay to make it all turn out okay. She realised worry didn’t need to be part of the process.
She was done apologising and playing small to make others feel comfortable and fit in. She realised fitting in was overrated and shining her light made others brave enough to do the same.
She was done with the should’s, ought to’s and have to’s of the world. She realised the only must’s in her life came from things that beat so strong in her soul, she couldn’t not do them.
She was done with remorse and could have’s. She realised hindsight never applies because circumstances always look different in the rearview mirror and you experience life looking through the front window.
She was done with friendships based on shared history and past experiences. She realised if friends couldn’t grow together, or were no longer following the same path, it was okay to let them go.
She was done trying to fit in—be part of the popular crowd. She realised the price she had to pay to be included was too high and betrayed her soul.
She was done not trusting. She realised she had placed her trust in people that were untrustworthy—so she would start with the person she could trust the most—herself.
She was done being tired. She realised it came from spending her time doing things that didn’t bring her joy or feed her soul.
She was done trying to figure it all out, know the answers, plan everything and see all the possibilities before she began. She realised life was unfolding and that the detours and unexpected moments were some of the best parts.
She was done needing to be understood by anyone but herself. She realised she was the only person she would spend her whole with and understanding herself was more important than being understood by others.
She was done looking for love. She realised loving and accepting herself was the best kind of love and the seed from which all other love started.
She was done fighting, trying to change or not her accepting her body. She realised the body she came into the world with was the only one she had—there were no exchanges or returns—so love and acceptance was the only way.
She was done being tuned in, connected and up-to-date all the time. She realised the news and noise of the world was always there—a cacophony that never slowed or fell quiet and that listening to the silence of her soul was a better station to tune into.
She was done beating herself up and being so hard on herself as if either of these things led to changes or made her feel better. She realised kindness and compassion towards herself and others accomplished more.
She was done comparing and looking at other people’s lives as a mirror for her own. She realised holding her own mirror cast her in the best, most beautiful light.
She was done being quiet, unemotional and holding her tongue. She realised her voice and her emotions could be traced back to her deepest desires and longings. if she only followed their thread.
She was done having to be right. She realised everyone’s truth was relative and personal to themselves, so the only right that was required was the one that felt true for her.
She was done not feeling at home in the world. She realised she might never feel at home in the world, but that feeling at home in her soul was enough.
She was done being drained by others—by people who didn’t want to take the time for their own process and saw shortcuts though hers. She realised she could share her experience, but everyone needed to do the work themselves.
She was done thinking she had so much to learn. She realised she already knew so much, if she only listened.
She was done trying to change others or make them see things. She realised she could only lead by example and whether they saw or followed was up to them.
She was done with the inner critic. She realised its voice was not her own.
She was done racing and being discontent with where she was. She realised the present moment held all it needed to get her to the next moment. It wasn’t out there—it was right here.
She was done seeing hurt as something to be avoided, foreseen or somehow her fault. She realised hurt shaped her as much as joy and she needed both to learn and grow.
She was done judging. She realised judging assumed the presence of right and wrong—and that there was a difference between using information to inform and making someone else wrong.
She was done jumping to conclusions. She realised she only needed to ask.
She was done with regrets. She realised if she had known better she would have done better.
She was done being angry. She realised anger was just a flashlight that showed her what she was most scared of and once it illuminated what she needed to see, she no longer needed to hold on to it.
She was done being sad. She realised sorrow arose when she betrayed her own soul and made choices that weren’t true to herself.
She was done playing small. She realised if others couldn’t handle her light, it was because they were afraid of their own.
She was done with the facades and the pretending. She realised masks were suffocating and claustrophobic.
She was done with others’ criticism and complaints. She realised they told her nothing about herself—only informed her of their perspective.
She was done yelling above the noise of the world. She realised living out loud could be done quietly.
She was done needing permission, validation or authority. She realised she was her her own authority.
She was done being something she was not. She realised the purpose of life was to be truly, happily who she was born to be…and if she paused long enough to remember, she recognized herself.
- Thank you to the author Adrienne.
