11/09/2026
New mums are given SO much advice. From everyone. All the time. Before the baby arrives, after the baby arrives, in the supermarket, from strangers on the internet.
And so much of it, even when it's well-meaning — actually makes you feel worse rather than better.
Because it usually comes with an undertone of "do it this way" or "don't do it that way" that leaves you second-guessing yourself at exactly the moment you need to feel most confident.
So let me tell you what I actually believe after working with so many new families.
There is no one right way to do this.
Not for feeding. Not for sleep. Not for settling. Not for any of it.
What works beautifully for one baby won't work at all for another. What feels right for one family won't feel right for yours. And the sooner we stop handing out advice like it's universal truth, the better.
What new mums actually need isn't more advice.
It's someone who will look at THEIR baby, THEIR situation, THEIR family, and help them figure out what works for them. Without judgment. Without pressure. Without an agenda.
That's genuinely all I try to do. 💛
If you've been drowning in conflicting advice and you just need one calm, honest voice to help you find your feet, that's exactly what the Calm & Clarity Call is for. Link in bio.
And tell me below, what's the most unhelpful thing someone said to you as a new mum? 👇
