02/06/2026
You're not doing it wrong. I promise. π
Can I just say something that I think a lot of new mums need to hear right now?
You are not failing. You are not weak. And you are absolutely, definitely not the only one who feels like this.
I've sat with hundreds of new mums over the years, in their homes, in the middle of the night, in those quiet vulnerable moments that nobody else sees. And do you know what the most common thing is they say to me?
"I feel like everyone else is coping better than me."
Every. Single. Time.
And every single time, I want to take their hand and say, they're not. They are really, truly not. They're just not saying it out loud. Because somewhere along the way we all got the message that struggling means failing. That asking for help means you're not cut out for this.
And that is just not true.
The exhaustion that hits you in a way you never expected. The doubt that creeps in at 3 am when you're doing everything right and your baby is still crying. The days where you love your little one so fiercely it physically hurts, but you're also just desperate for five minutes alone in the shower without someone needing something from you.
All of it is normal.
All of it is valid.
All of it makes you human.
Nobody hands you a manual when you leave that hospital. Nobody tells you that the emotional rollercoaster of those first weeks can feel completely destabilising even when everything is technically "fine." Nobody prepares you for the identity shift, the physical recovery, the sheer relentlessness of a newborn.
And yet somehow we all expect ourselves to just⦠cope.
You don't have to hold it together all the time. You really don't. You just have to get through today. That's it. That's enough.
And if you're in that place right now, overwhelmed, exhausted, wondering if it's always going to feel this hard, I want you to know that things do get steadier. And you don't have to wait until you're at breaking point to ask for support.
That's exactly what I'm here for. π
Whether you need someone in your home in those early days, a 60-minute call to talk things through, or just a safe space to ask the questions you feel like you can't ask anyone else, I've got you.
Drop a π€ below if this resonates. And if you're struggling right now, my DMs are always open. You are not alone in this. Not even a little bit.
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