13/09/2026
“He’s just being naughty.”
“She’s taking the piss.”
“They know exactly what they’re doing.”
Before I decide what I’m going to do about a behaviour, I want to know why it’s happening.
Because behaviour is information.
A horse that barges through you might genuinely have never learnt to understand pressure or respect your space.
A horse that plants might be confused, worried or uncomfortable… or they might simply have learnt that if they stop for long enough, eventually the person asking will give up.
A horse that explodes when the girth is tightened might be experiencing pain, anticipating something that’s hurt before, carrying a previous bad experience or simply never have been properly prepared for that feeling.
A horse that rushes might not be trying to get one over on you at all. They might have learnt that going faster is the quickest way to escape pressure when they don’t understand how to find the release.
And sometimes a behaviour is learned.
If rearing has made people get off every time, they’ve learnt that rearing works.
If barging through someone gets them back to their friends, they’ve learnt that barging works.
If pulling away makes the pressure disappear, they’ll probably try pulling away again.
That doesn’t make them bad, disrespectful or calculating. It means horses repeat things that have worked for them.
And that’s an important distinction, because how I approach a horse that doesn’t understand is very different to how I approach one that understands the question but has learnt another response is easier.
Bucking, rearing, biting, bolting, striking, shutting down, refusing to move, barging, planting, rushing through pressure… I don’t automatically put all of those behaviours into one box labelled “naughty”.
But equally, I don’t put everything into the “they’re scared, so we can’t ask anything of them” box either.
Understanding why a behaviour is happening doesn’t mean allowing it to continue.
• Sometimes they need more confidence.
• Sometimes they need clearer communication.
• Sometimes they need better boundaries.
• Sometimes we’ve asked too much, too quickly and need to break the question down.
• Sometimes they’ve discovered an answer that works for them and we need to teach them a better one.
• And sometimes something doesn’t add up and I want a physical issue investigated before I’m comfortable asking for more.
Quite often, it’s a mixture of several of those things that have built up over months or even years.
That’s why when a horse comes to me with a behavioural problem, I’m not particularly interested in just making the behaviour disappear.
I want to know what happens before it. Where does the tension start? What are the smaller signs we’ve missed? Do they actually understand the pressure being applied? Can they regulate themselves when they’re worried? Are they physically comfortable doing what’s being asked? Has someone unintentionally taught them that this response works?
Because the big reaction we notice is often the end of the conversation, not the beginning.
You can suppress a behaviour. You can make a horse stop bucking, stop rearing, stop planting or stop saying no. And for a while, it might look like you’ve fixed the problem. But if you haven’t dealt with the reason the behaviour was there in the first place, eventually it’s going to find its way back out. Maybe as the same behaviour. Maybe as something completely different.
That’s why I’m far more interested in finding and changing the why than simply stopping what you can see on the surface.
Because when you change the reason behind the behaviour, that’s when you have a chance of changing the behaviour for good!!