04/06/2026
"Just ask them what adjustments they need."
It sounds like the obvious answer. It's usually the wrong place to start.
When someone discloses ADHD, autism or dyslexia and asks for support, the instinct is to hand the question straight back. What would help? What do you want us to put in place?
Here's the problem.
Someone who has just been diagnosed or who is quietly struggling, often can't answer that. They can feel the friction. They can't always name what's causing it. And they may have no idea what's even possible.
So the question lands as pressure, not support. You both end up stuck.
The better starting point isn't a solution. It's understanding.
Try this instead: "Help me understand how this affects your work, day to day."
No judgement. No asking them to solve it for you. Just curiosity.
Once you can see where the friction actually sits, you look at the environment, because that is the biggest lever you have. Most adjustments aren't about the diagnosis. They're about the desk, the lighting, the noise, the way the day is structured.
Small changes. Large effects.
Start with the environment, not the individual.
What do you reach for first when someone discloses? I'd be interested to know.
Watch the video here- youtube.com/watch?v=gw_d1GYs3cs
An employee has disclosed ADHD, autism or dyslexia and asked for re...