27/03/2026
When I’ve experienced misogyny do you know the truth? Most of it’s been directed through women with a pick me mentality and a lot of women are not ready for that conversation but I’ve always been the one to hold up the mirror #. They see it as a safety net when it’s simply isn’t all the time. It’s actually self sabotage and abandonment.
Let me give you an example:
Imagine getting a job in a really desirable department, it pays well, it gives you career prospects and given you’re starting a family it’s the best place you could be. Then when everything is calm and going well you sabotage it by nit picking at your surrounding colleagues and emailing it to others and rather than take accountability because you’re embarrassed, you darvo it rather than accept it, you then blame the person who pointed it out in private how that can be used against you in the workplace and to remember you’re not in school anymore, everything is tracked and watched. Supportive and reflective advice, not an attack. A healthy response is to be grateful there was no grievance and just supportive advice at the start of your career. Instead you then go on the offensive and turn every interaction into a further negative, even suggest racially motived, escalate it and stalk said person just to not admit you were wrong. Stalked personally and professionally. Smear campaigns, false accusations, false investigations, colluding with friends and family based on false accusations to email your work inbox to speak negatively to justify the continued stalking and reputational damages.
Yes really.
Who is that helping? It’s enabling men to continue to take ground in women’s leadership spots through character defamation and slander. Backwards isn’t it? Most women don’t realise equality has to be fought for daily, so attacking those who fight for equal rights is counterproductive, and loosing women seats. Women’s Equality is not given just because it’s a legal requirement. Harsh but it’s reality.
Whether it’s enabling (or creating) domestic abuse, operating from competition rather than collaboration in the workplace or home, gatekeeping other women and spreading smear campaigns to damage a women’s reputation and businesses, to rage baiting and hacking to make someone appear unstable. The motives are clear. Self ego preservation certainly but what does that really say about women in the workplace? Are you a spin machine that only talks about equality when it suits you or a true advocate of everyone’s rights in the workplace?
All you are preserving is your most disempowered self because you’ve already outsourced your power to external approval and that’s something healed neurodiverse people have to navigate in corporate constantly because many healed NDs simply won’t give up their power for approval, our truth is often uncomfortable for those who won’t self reflect and recognise their unconscious self sabotage.
When I talk about cognitive diversity it’s fundamentally about diversity being far more than one protected characteristic, it is not about gaining approval, it’s about freedom of expression to offer an viewpoint that is authentic and self reflective of your diversity in whatever capacity that exists. Another myth I want to blow out the water is that ND is a disability - far from it, the human hive as it were is similar to that of bees. There are hive builders (business builders - typically ND) and drones (workers -typically NT) both of equal value. Many NDs have trauma from trying to act like drones when their mind is built for building. Some NDs (being naturally strategic) sometimes try to force majore their trauma on to others who they think have had life easier than them. That creates karma (cause and effect) because the universe decides what lessons a soul is to experience in each lifetime and the universe will sit you down when you’re using your ability in the wrong ways. Not messy gossip that’s keeps people stuck in cycles everyone else has already left behind.
As we begin to understand ND and our interconnectedness we begin to appreciate that we have to heal to raise the collective standards up because we’re not placed centrally and where we are by accident.
We recognise patterns to break and rebuild them.
We build so everyone can prosper.
Our hyperfocus is our purpose. Channeling that into something constructive is important because all that spare energy has to go somewhere.
Our alone time is not depression, it’s decompression and often ex*****on of our plans.
We are not built to conform and we do not care how anyone feel about that, with respect.
Our need to challenge the status quo is not disrespect.
Freedom of speech, rights, movement all matter regardless of whether someone agrees or holds a grudge.
Coercion of any kind will not be tolerated.
We are natural born rebels, if it’s necessary for growth and success in the long term collectively.
If this speaks to your experiences and you want a coach that will understand business from your viewpoint then book my coaching and mentoring powerhour for transformation out of victim mindset and into performance.
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