14/08/2026
On my dog walk this morning, I was thinking about capable women.
The ones who cope, the ones who people rely on, the ones who sort things out, pick things up, keep things moving and somehow manage to hold everything together.
And more often than not, theyāve been doing it all for so long that they donāt even realise quite how much theyāre carrying - being capable has literally become part of who they are, and it can serve them incredibly wellā¦
They build careers, successful businesses, thriving families, full lives.
They are independent, resourceful and bloody good at getting things done.
Until, somewhere around midlife, something starts to shift.
The kids have become young adults and have different kinds of needs.
Aging parents are starting to lean in a little, or a lot, more.
Careers might not be aligning in quite the same way they once did.
And perhaps, for the first time in a very long time, thereās a little question that keeps popping up amongst all the doing:
āWhat about me?ā
There may be elements of, āKeep pushing on through - what else can I achieve?ā
Or even, āHow can I become even more productive?ā
But ultimately, underneath it all is:
āHow much longer can I keep doing this?ā
āWhen is it my time to take time for me?ā
āWhoās supporting me like I support everyone else?ā
And: āWho the hell am I if I didnāt have to be everything to everyone else?ā
I realised on that beautiful, spacious and peaceful walk this morning that so much of the coaching work I love doing is with women going through these shifts āØ
I donāt support incredibly capable women to become more capable, though. No.
I support them in recognising that they donāt have to carry quite so much anymore, because their next phase isnāt about doing moreā¦
Itās about clearing some space. Putting down what no longer belongs to them.
Removing the weight and the layers of dust that a lifetime of conditioning has accumulated.
Consciously choosing what they want to take with them into whatever comes next.
Doing less. Being more.
And creating the space to discover who they are now š