Deep Heart Life Coaching with Michelle Lords

17/09/2022

05/03/2021

Hello dear ones. It is strange how absent I have been from here. Quarantined from the pages and my writing. I have been working hard throughout the Covid.

i want to say that one would think that the Covid would maybe invite folks to check in with themselves and maybe deepen their commitments and be hungrier for love and companionship. I have observed the opposite. I would imagine that these times bring up the shadows of our fears and that can cause people to dig in harder to their false gods and die hard protective mechanisms. I have noted a lot of pregnant people in my world. People who are focused on bringing in new life into the world and those kind of expansions (new homes, cars, babies).

It seems like a lot of people have gotten even lazier. The men seem to be glued to their comfort zones. Perhaps that was always part of the hidden nature of men. The women, I have no idea what they are doing. Perhaps fear leads for their families and are clinging tighter to those few they are allowed to spend time with.

As I examine our current state of affairs I have reviewed the behaviors of ghosting, and simmering. I think it is easier to hide more than ever these days and no one needs ot explain or be accountable perhaps as things are so uncertain these days.

I would like to suggest that now we can aim higher to reach our dreams and goals as the opportunities are expanded in unusual ways with imcreased virtual connection in the world.

06/08/2020

Oh dear. This this is the age of the Aromantic. I find people are turning into robots.

So I just looked up the meaning of a Casual relationship. There are rules it seems. I think I lived it in my early 20's so I see it as an immature relationship. No one seems to even follow the rules. For a casual relationship it seems to me that someone can use the other partner badly and you are not allowed to complain or ask for anything or make plans. I thought that was the whole point of being with someone was for all those great perks.

In a patriarchal society guess who wins in this situation. Imagine becoming pregnant in a casual relationship. Again guess who wins.

I honestly thought I was kididing when I said to potential suitors so you are saying no Christmas, birthdays, week end trips or get aways??????? If my car breaks down I can't call you and this is okay.

So let's get real. A casual relationship is when in these cases where one person uses the other person for .....s*x. It has to be s*x only since you do nothing else and it is not even on the other person's terms and you can screw as many people as you want at the same time.

These are the supposed rules. You can't ask for anything. You must not make plans except a day or two in advance the most. You are supposed to tell the other person that this is your plan or motive in the beginning. I have learned that doesn't always happen so one person thinks they are in a real relationship and the other doesn't. They do find out though.

Here are my thoughts, risk of Covid, STD's, and you end up being alone on all your important days, I suppose you can't share anything significant that happens in your life so little communication. The other person is used at your convenience. The only thing you are allowed to do is end it whenever you feel like it. This is definitely a set up for teens and young adults and predators in my opinion.

Now this is where I am really confused. It says that respect is important. Now I am struggling with this. I will have to look up that definition and get back to you on that because how is it being respectful if you treat the other person like they are a meaningless s*x object for you that you use at will and the only choice they have is yes, to them or I don't want to this anymore.

I am probably just too practical because if you ask me I just cannot see any benefit to this unless you are a full on predator. I am trying to think of a scenario for how this would benefit someone. Here is one, if you are married. Here is another, if you are a sociopath, s*xual predator, a Narcissist or have attachment disorder. Or if you have Alzheimer and you cannot remember who you are or others are.If you are dying and never had s*x, If you are so disgusting that you are afraid you will never get laid. You are unable to attend social events as the other rule is you can't use them as their plus 1. They won't even go to.your dinner parties. So perhaps you are often a secret also in those events since you don't meet anyone in their lives. Moments like this I believe I don't belong in the world. Who thought this up and wrote the rules. Oh, I can guess who, can't you?

Bottom line, I don't need that, do you??????

31/07/2020

Something to think about. I know that when we meet someone from a past life it can feel intense but maybe because what happened it brings our attention to the unfinished business. If we can reframe our lives in a way that is full of self love and growth, we really can embrace it all. It reminds me of when I went to the dentist this week and I held my body tight and complained about having to go and it turned out to be a happy, productive, fun and painless experience. I could not envision that outcome but spirit is infinitely patient.

What do you think? 🤔

08/07/2020

I have had some realizations of late that are profound and seem rather obvious now but I have missed throughout my life. I think I am seeing myself from all directions like in an angled mirror. I am not sure if it is a sign of maturity and or more detachment. Not all of it is pleasant but I had always looked at people with rose coloured glasses and now I see all parts of myself and others. I think love is about loving all our parts.

28/05/2020

I remember that a photographer took a photo of me. It was a side view. it was at some kind of Cancer coping group in Park city Utah. I remember I found the photo horrifying and ripped it up. And to this day I never let anyone define me. Don't you let anyone. You know who you are. It is your life. We get to choose. I feel it with my teen age patients. Peer pressure and wanting to be liked,. Know your values and stand by what feels right to you. It is about you and no one else,.

04/04/2020

Today I don't feel qualified to coach anyone on love. I have been reading about the new dating trends such as bread crumbing, benching, ghosting, stashing, submarining, phubbing, zombieing. I think I had them all in one relationship. The more I hear and the more I see, the more I see that human beings have lost their manners and accountability. They forget the whole purpose of it all. I guess all along, there are some people who are just users, pure and simple. It is not so complicated. It is easy to treat people badly if what you want is just to use people badly I guess. No one needs to stand for it. That is all, end of story but I don't see too many exceptions to these behaviours. I wonder with the virus it is now easier to do all those things as one can no longer go out. This could be a bigger disaster than it already is unless people finally decide to communicate, sincerely and honestly. With social media friends drop off mid sentence during communication and this is the norm. So what is next my friends? We are off course. On the sites the text is about how long have you been on here and what are you looking for. Not, what do you do in your free time, who or what do you love, what gets you through the day.So I am hanging up my hat for now. I will let you know if I learn anything new. I think a lot of humans are damaged.

16/02/2020

Hello lovelies. I killed my computer. Phone too small really to post. Next month I will replace it. The thing that comes to mind post V day is timing is everything and relationships are about loving and learning. I am learning to say the hard stuff last year and this year. I lost someone I adored. Life keep showing me why. I didn’t know he was what I truly desired but the Universe whipped him up for me. I weirdly ran into him exactly a year later since I last saw him. As I unravel the tangled web I am learning and growing. He was a comfort to me and more. I now believe they will send me someone even better than him. We don’t know until we meet them but I could not date really until I saw him again and heard what he said. The message was he was not ready
For me and truthfully I him. So don’t discourage. Just keep getting ready for yourself. You are not alone ever.###

12/01/2020

Today, like rummaging through a closet I looked at some past relationships astrologically. It was very interesting. The app The Pattern really spells it out. My last 3 all had Chiron in Aries. But except for my current one, I served the others well but they did little to serve me. It is not like we do anything wrong. It is just how the energy works together. People like to demonize others instead of accepting the way our energies interact to move us forward. Now it is my turn to be helped perhaps. Will I allow it?Do you? Are you ready to receive the next step? Do you know what you truly desire?

23/12/2019

This morning I am thinking about vibration and scarcity consciousness. What are you bringing into your life?

Take a look around you.
I am told how gentle and kind and good natured I am by others but I feel so challenged a lot of the time with opposing thoughts and feelings.

Clarity sounds delicious. I can simplify and direct my thoughts and challenge the ridiculous. So can you.

Where are you not allowing yourself the happiness you deserve? Just quit it. Zip it. Let the energy flow in. You are enough.

I realize that emotional connection is real food for me. It is the most satisfying meal. What kind of meal do you prefer?