Carolyn Scott Parenting Coach

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1: Confidential advice and strategies on dealing with common behavioural issues and developmental challenges.
2: Support when being a parent feels just too much.
3: Time and space to explore what your own core beliefs are when raising a child.

10/05/2025

Being a parent is probably the most challenging and yet most import thing you will ever do.

It’s never straightforward. There are lots of different challenges along the way as your child develops and changes, sometimes it is hard to catch up because you blink and suddenly your baby is a baby no more.

It is not always easy to know the right things to do and what are the right things anyway? Each human is unique and strategies you may use for one child you may find are not as helpful with your other child/children.

However there are certain things that children need to help them to feel safe and secure and develop their independence. You will most likely have heard the following.

Boundaries
Limits
Consistency
Clarity

Four little words that are hard to maintain and put in place at times of stress or tiredness.

I am a great advocate for parenting that enables your child to explore and make decisions that are compatible with their stage of development.

I also believe that children should have their feelings validated. It may not mean that it is the right thing to do to give your child what he/she wants however children need to know that they are listened to with empathy, even if they do not have the outcome that they would choose. 

One of the terms that I use when supporting parents, is:

‘ Woolly parenting’

You may wonder what I mean by this. I will give you an example.

‘ If you are good, you can have some sweets after dinner.’

Let’s pick that apart.

‘If you are good’

What does that mean to a child,
how long for,
what does good look like,
how will I know if I have been good?

‘Some sweets’

How many are some?
Does that mean a packet or a bag of sweets or does it mean more than two?

I teach the simple language that can be used with children to be specific with what it is that you want from your child.
How to reward your children and acknowledge the achievements they have made in an appropriate way in line with their level of development and understanding.

If you are interested in having some support with your parenting this can either be online, in person if you are in my area, email or phone.

 Just remember there is no such thing as a perfect parent or a perfect child.
We are all human and perfectly imperfect.

Carolyn.☺️

So this is a message for those of you feeling exhausted and struggling to ‘feel it’. Firstly, don’t give yourselves a ha...
25/11/2020

So this is a message for those of you feeling exhausted and struggling to ‘feel it’.

Firstly, don’t give yourselves a hard time, it’s okay to acknowledge that this has been a tough year and homeschooling, although a romantic thought, in reality, can be far from what imagined or fantasised about.

As Christmas fast approaches at the end of a most stressful and difficult year, I have been giving much thought over the most precious gift that we can give to our children not only in these circumstances but throughout their childhood.

Time.

How each moment needs to be treasured, because in a blink they are gone and in their eyes, you no longer hold the answers that they seek.

Christmas for us was always a special period , children at the centre ensuring a time filled with magic and wonder.

Grey looking pastry rolled out countless times for mince pies.
Biting into ‘concrete’ and praising their efforts. ( Posting them in the bin and making fresh ones when they were asleep).

Dodgy homemade decorations displayed ( not always proudly from my point of view) on the tree.

Letters to Father Christmas with replies lying in the ashes of the fire the next morning.

Two a.m. mornings of first present opened and counting the hours until reasonable o’clock arrived.

The joy of those Christmases will remain with me forever and I don’t regret a single messy, exhausting second.

I know that many of you are feeling worn out from the uncertainties and fears of this past year. Remember your children have also been a part of this difficult period and seen their adults struggling and their world too has been uncertain and scary at times.

However, the memories that you make with your children can never be taken away, but if they are not there in the first place they can never formed later.

So I would urge you to give yourselves and your children some fun and joy this Christmas, even if it starts out through gritted teeth, because I promise you, the rewards are more precious than gold.

21/11/2020

What is another one of the most common complaints that I hear parents say that they are struggling with?

# Getting children to tidy up.

So here are some tips for dealing with this issue.

# Before starting get down to your child’s level and look at the room from their perspective.

Many parents get frustrated when children refuse to clear away the awesome mess that they have made and total destruction of a space that once looked liveable! The logic goes that if you made the mess you must be able to put it away again. Sounds logical doesn’t it?

As children get involved in play and they go from one toy to the next, they are not thinking or even aware of the mess being created. It can be a quick progression or a slow one over several hours.
Getting down to your child’s level gives you an indication as to what they are seeing and it can look like an insurmountable task to a small child, therefore you expectations of how much they can put away needs to be met with your child’s age and stage of development. It is unreasonable to expect a child or children to do it without your help.
Let’s face it, tidying away is boring.

tidying away into a game.

Children love to win.
So challenge your child/children to see who can put away the most bricks, for example. Tell them that you are definitely going to be the winner as there is no way that they can beat you.

# Reward good behaviour.
As you are all tidying away notice how ‘amazing’ your child/children are. For example
‘Wow I love having children who can tidy away their toys. I am so proud of you I can’t wait to tell Nanny how well you have tidied up today.’

Then phone Nanny.

Another way of rewarding any behaviours that you want to encourage, is to set aside a jar and every time they do something that you have asked, they put a pasta shape or two into a jar. When the jar is full they get a small reward like a comic.

Good luck with the tidying up and remember, CONSISTENCY AND PERSEVERANCE ARE KEY.

Look familiar? Desperate for some sleep? We all know that bedtimes can be tricky. You are washed out and longing for lit...
10/11/2020

Look familiar? Desperate for some sleep?
We all know that bedtimes can be tricky.
You are washed out and longing for little eyes to close. What starts as ‘simple’ answers like staying in bed with your child until they fall asleep, can quickly escalate and become a nightmare and patterns so hard to break.
Please see earlier post for some tips on how to get bedtimes on track.

06/11/2020

Some of you may wonder why I have chosen a hot air balloon as my cover photo?

I am a woman who likes analogies and I use them a lot. I have found them to be helpful not only when I am working with people but in my own personal work.

For me the balloon means:
‘ FREEDOM TO SOAR’

So often we feel ‘tied down’ with repeated patterns, saying and doing the same things over and over like a hamster on a wheel ( spot the analogy) getting nowhere fast.

This can lead to feelings of frustration, failure and anger.

I want to help you
‘FEEL FREE TO SOAR!’ as parents.

What will this bring?
A clearer vision of where you are going and what you want to achieve.
Improved perspectives and hopes in your goals for yourselves as parents and what legacy/model you want to leave for your children.

Feel free to contact me through, Messenger, Mobile, WhatsApp or email.

Website will be available in the not too distant future.

01/11/2020

ALL ABOUT ME:

I thought I would tell you a bit about myself, please ‘bear with’ as I have a long career.

I started out as a Nursery Nurse and after working in a Day Nursery and Family Centre I moved areas to work as a live in Nanny and then ran a Day Nursery. Wanting to return to parenting work, I worked as part of a therapeutic service run by the Local Authority where we offered parent coaching, Family Therapy and individual work with children and parents. Whilst there in 1999 I went to Solent University and qualified as a social worker specialising in children and families.

Following the service being cut due to austerity, I then worked as part of a children’s trauma team and then in schools delivering a service as a Primary Mental Health Worker. Firstly with The Behaviour and Education Team and then CAMHS. I worked with parents and children in helping where parents were facing challenging behaviours. I also worked with adoptive parents where parents were struggling with their child due to trauma related behaviours.

Following two more service closures I moved to work for Winston’s Wish, a bereavement charity for children. I co - ran a group project for children and young people with often complex grief.

Tired and disheartened at the constant closure to services that really made a difference to people’s lives and no prospect of anything changing in the near future, with a sad heart I decided to leave the U.K.

Now I teach English in Slovakia but my heart is and has always been in working with parents to support and help them and their children. My hope is that I can help parents and children have the best experiences and unpick and move away from unhelpful/ stuck behaviours, hopefully providing a richness and joyful experience in being a family. Especially now whilst we face scary times and many are locked in together.

As for myself. I have fostered and adopted and faced many challenges of my own but the joy that this has brought is immeasurable.

So I thought why not set up an online business where I can reach many people and not only use my skills and experience but do something that I love and feel passionate about?

So if you got this far, well done and thank you.

30/10/2020

How many times have you heard the word ‘BOUNDARIES’?
Are boundaries important and if so why?

Let’s have a look at a few reasons why loving boundaries are important.

# They promote a sense of security and safety.
# They help create self discipline.
# Boundaries are everywhere throughout society.
# They show your child that you love them.

Do boundaries remain the same throughout your child’s development?

No, as your child grows and has more understanding and life experiences, the boundaries need to adjust accordingly.

What is the most common mistakes parents make?

move them.
are ‘woolly, unclear’
set different ones to our partner.
are inconsistent.
forget to set them in line with the child’s development and can expect too much or not enough.

Keeping to boundaries is one of the greatest challenges as parents, as children will test them time and time again.
But fear not! With practice and determination it is possible and I promise, life is better for everyone.

27/10/2020

One of the biggest and most common issues that I have had asked of me, is to help with getting children to bed and then to stay in their beds!!

What do you do when your gorgeous soft pink cherub transforms into a screaming snotty monster and the fear of neighbours banging on your door becomes a reality?

I remember with my own experiences having a clear routine and no issues at all with bedtimes until one day .......
I was faced with a screaming toddler unwilling to consider the idea of bed!
I put into place what I had been teaching. I felt guilty, mean, shocked all at the same time. The issue was resolved quite quickly that evening because I took action and bedtimes once again became calm and easy, and a joy for both concerned.

Maybe this is an area that you have always struggled with, no worries with some work and commitment it can be resolved quite quickly and you can get some much deserved space and sleep.

Here are some hot tips:

1: Have a clear bedtime routine. The same old thing night after night.
2: At least an hour before bed make sure that it is a calm time without hectic games or superhero type tv programmes and sorry, but NO electronic gadgets!
3: Be present, put everything else aside for an hour before and during the bedtime routine and if just starting, choose a weekend when you don’t have to get up for work.
4: Give clear consistent messages throughout the day, for example:
‘ tonight after story time I am going to put your music on ( please make sure that it isn’t rock!) and then you are going to sleep in your own bed and I am going downstairs to have my dinner. I will pop upstairs later to see you when you are asleep. I am excited that you no longer need to keep getting out of bed or sleeping in my bed anymore. If you think that you do I will remind you by putting you back into your own bed because that is what is now going to happen from tonight because I know that you can do this.
5: Be united in your approach with any partner.
6: Be consistent and CALM repeating the same clear message when your child lets her/ his feelings known to the entire neighbourhood! ( perhaps warn your neighbours what you are planning to do)
7: Return your child to bed, comfort and reassure with the child in or on the bed, turn and walk away.
8: Do not leave your child without comfort for more than three to five minutes.
9: Repeat the next day.

GOOD LUCK, YOU CAN DO IT!

Sound good?
Get in touch and we can work on a plan together.

Carolyn Scott Parenting Coach.

21/10/2020

Who knew being a parent could be so stressful?
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