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My Personal Fixer, Godalming (2026)

05/05/2026

Five years into running My Personal Fixer, it feels like the right moment to share what I’ve learnt with others who are considering a similar path.

Alongside supporting clients, I’ve gained a lot of practical insight into boundaries, sustainability, and what actually works when you’re building a service‑based business around real life. Over the past year I’ve been exploring how I could extend that learning — looking at options like franchising and licensing — but what’s felt most aligned is creating something flexible and people‑led.

What’s emerging is a practical training programme shaped by how I’ve built my own business — without asking anyone to follow a rigid formula or replicate my way of working.

This is the start of me sharing more about that work.

💬 DM me FIXER if you’d like to be kept in the loop.

28/04/2026

Is it just me, or do the school holidays always feel like they creep up quietly… then suddenly feel very loud?

With most schools breaking up in around 10–11 weeks, this is often the point where life feels like it’s speeding up — routines haven’t slowed, but summer expectations are already knocking.

This isn’t a to‑do list. Just a few things you might like to think about now — at a pace that works for you. You could even treat this as one focus every week or two.

A softer summer‑ready countdown 👇

☀️ Childcare & cover
Camps, clubs, family help or extra hands — even opening the conversation early can help things feel lighter later.

☀️ Holiday plans (or staying put)
Whether you’re travelling or staying local, a loose idea can reduce last‑minute decision fatigue.

☀️ Support & energy protection
Is there anything you could book in now that gives future‑you more breathing space? Help doesn’t have to wait until you’re overwhelmed.

☀️ Budget awareness
Not strict spreadsheets — just noticing what summer tends to bring: activities, extra food, childcare, days out.

☀️ Activities & easy wins
A short list of realistic ideas, plus a couple of rainy‑day backups. An idea jar counts.

☀️ Meals, pets & gentle life admin
Simple food rotations, pet care plans, prescriptions, repeats — small things that help July feel kinder.

✨ There’s no perfect plan.
This is just about arriving at summer feeling a little more ready — and a little less stretched.

What’s one thing you’re quietly thinking about now? Save for later! 💜

21/04/2026

When technology and systems become part of our modern village, they can support us — but only if they’re designed to remove pressure rather than keep us in constant urgency. Otherwise, even well‑intended tools simply speed us up.

That pace doesn’t just affect our schedules — it affects our nervous systems.

Many parents aren’t in crisis, but we’re rarely at rest. We live in a low‑level state of activation where everything feels important and immediate. And our children are learning what “normal” looks like by watching us move through our days.

Children don’t learn regulation from being told to slow down. They learn it by witnessing how we manage load, pressure and recovery. When they see us create systems that lighten the load, accept help, batch tasks, pause between demands, or step away once something is “done enough”, they’re learning skills they’ll need in a future shaped by technology and AI.

Regulation doesn’t require more time. It requires different support.
💜 Support that replaces mental load instead of relying on it
💜 Systems that help things get done without constant urgency
💜 Technology used to create space, not fill it
💜 Shared or outsourced help that steadies the whole household

Getting through the list is part of life. Getting through it at a sustainable pace is what protects families.

In a fast‑moving world, supported and regulated parents are one of the most powerful resources children can have — not because we get it right all the time, but because we show them that support is how life is meant to work.

14/04/2026

Let’s be realistic — AI and technology
are a given for our children’s future. As parents, it’s something many of us are still finding our way with, learning how to strike a balance and how to role model its use intentionally.

Increasingly, technology has become part of our modern village — supporting us in how we manage family life. For many of us, smart speakers help manage reminders, create shopping lists, or even tell us which bin needs putting out this week.

But support can quietly turn into speed.

As parents, we are constantly on the go. Multi‑tasking.
Coordinating life through our phones. Booking appointments, replying to emails, paying for clubs — managing work and home in the same breath. Much of our screen time isn’t about doom scrolling; it’s survival
logistics.

Yet our children are watching us live in a state of urgency — stimulation, responsiveness, and “there’s always something to do” — while we ask them to switch off, slow down and self‑regulate.

That disconnect matters. If we want our children to grow up able to rest, focus and adapt in a world shaped by technology and AI, we need to role model those skills now.

So what can shift?

💜 Use tech to remove pressure, not add more. Systems, reminders and AI should alleviate mental load — not create space to cram more in.

💜 Build visible pauses. Short, intentional breaks away from screens show children that rest is productive, not earned.

💜 Name urgency realistically. Not everything is immediate. Say it out loud — for them and for yourself.

💜 Outsource and share where possible. Support isn’t failure; it’s strategy. Getting things done faster doesn’t mean we have to live faster.

Our village today isn’t just people — it’s the choices, systems and boundaries we put in place. When parents are supported and rested, children don’t just cope with the future — they thrive. And when our systems and support are shaped to help us get through the to‑do list without constant urgency, they don’t just organise our lives — they regulate how we live them.

Who or what is helping create that space in your home?
👇

07/04/2026

✨ World Health Day ✨ To every busy parent who feels like there’s never a spare minute — this one’s for you.

For many parents, life runs at a pace that barely leaves room to breathe. Between work, home, kids, and hundreds of small tasks in between, even finding five minutes for yourself can feel impossible.

But your health matters — not in a perfect, polished way, but in the tiny, realistic moments that fit inside your already-full day. Some days, it’s about tiny acts that remind your body and mind that you matter too.

Here are a few gentle ways busy parents can support their wellbeing when time feels like a luxury:

A few gentle things you can build into real-life busy days:

⭐ Find a Micro-moment of calm. One deep breath. A single breath can genuinely help reset your nervous system.

💧 A hydration reset. Every time you refill your child’s cup or bottle, take three sips yourself.

🚶‍♀️ The ‘one-minute move’. While the kettle boils, roll your shoulders, stretch your back, or walk on the spot. (Yes — it counts.)

🧘 The 20‑second pause. Hand on heart, eyes closed. Ask yourself, “What do I need right now?” Even noticing your needs is self-care.

💜Say one honest sentence a day. “I’m overwhelmed.” “I need a break.” “Can someone help?” Your wellbeing improves when you stop carrying it all silently.

💤 A kinder bedtime. Switch off one thing earlier — the scrolling, the final tidy-up, the “just one more task.” Rest is health care.

World Health Day isn’t about perfection. It’s about remembering that your health is worth protecting — even in the smallest, most imperfect ways.

You don’t need more hours in the day. You just need permission to take tiny moments for you. And if no one else has said it yet: you deserve that.💛

Image: Made with AI – Being short on time over the school hols, I have lightened my load by uploading my article piece into NotebookLM and asked for help to create, with a few tweaks to get colours roughly on brand this was the outcome. 😉

31/03/2026

Ever heard of a tidsoptimist? Someone who thinks they can squeeze 15 minutes of life into 5. Cute? Whimsical? Hopeful?

✨But for a lot of busy parents — especially in the school holidays — it’s not optimism at all - It’s survival!✨

It’s being a tidsoptimist without the optimism… knowing things probably won’t fit, but trying anyway because who else will do it?

The holidays stretch the days, but somehow shrink the time. Kids home. Snacks multiplied. Routines gone. The constant “Muuum, can I…?” And suddenly every task takes twice as long and five times the energy.

⚡It’s not that you’re disorganised.
⚡It’s not that you “need better time management.”
⚡It’s that you’re carrying more than any day can realistically hold — and now with extra noise, extra needs, extra demands.

Forms, meals, laundry, appointments, emotions, entertainment, the mental load…
All the invisible micro‑tasks that fill every gap.

Of course you think you can squeeze in “one more thing.” You always do. Because you have to.

You’re not bad at time. You’re overloaded. And in the school holidays? You’re overloaded plus guests.

If you feel like a tidsoptimist without the optimism — you’re not failing. You’re navigating a life that asks too much of you, and still showing up. That deserves support, not more pressure. 💜

If this resonates, I’ve written a longer piece on the hidden pressure of ‘tidsoptimist parenting’ — especially during the school holidays. Visit my website to read the full article and find small shifts that can genuinely lift your load.

24/03/2026

Following the passing of Margareta Magnusson, I’ve found myself returning to her beautiful and quietly powerful book, The Gentle Art of Swedish Death Cleaning.

It’s not a standard decluttering book. It’s a reminder of how we live, what we keep, and what we pass on. Her approach isn’t really about “death” at all — it’s about lightening your load while you’re still living. It invites you to look at what you use, what you treasure, and what’s quietly taking your energy. It applies at any age. It’s not minimalism — it’s mindful living.

Here are some gentle, everyday ways it can work:
✨ Keep one or two birthday cards that truly mean something and recycle the rest. A small “joy box” can hold a few that lift you when needed.
✨ Pass on items you no longer use, knowing they’ll bring joy or usefulness to someone else.
✨ Let go of “aspirational clutter” — the gadgets for projects you never started. Releasing them also releases the pressure attached to them.
✨ Make space for the things you genuinely enjoy now.

Magnusson gently reminds us that although not everyone is comfortable talking about these topics, being open — when you’re ready — can avoid misunderstandings later. Loved ones may value something you didn’t realise mattered, or reassure you that you can let certain things go.

These conversations don’t have to be heavy. They can sound like:
💜 “If anything ever happened, here’s what I’d want you to know about…”
💜 “Is there anything here you’d love to have one day?”
💜 “I’m trying to make life simpler for all of us — can you tell me what matters to you?”

As with any declutter, your mindset matters. This isn’t a rushed Sunday job. It needs space, energy and compassion.

A simple place to start:
⚡ Begin with items in storage — usually less emotional.
⚡ Move to larger categories like furniture, kitchenware or sports gear.
⚡ Leave sentimental items until last — photos, letters, heirlooms.
⚡ Offer items to family or friends first, then donate or sell. Seeing things find a new home makes letting go much lighter.

This topic is far bigger than one post, and if it resonates, I highly recommend reading the book. 💜

17/03/2026

We talk about creating a SHARED LOAD but really what we need to start with is NOTICE.

Its really common for one person in a household who becomes the holder of ALL the stuff — spotting the mess, remembering the forms, tracking the laundry, knowing what’s running low. Everyone else waits to be asked.

But noticing is a skill. And it’s one our kids need. If you have kids transitioning from primary to secondary school this is especially important. Because here’s the truth:
👉 Secondary school demands independence.
👉 No one reminds them five times about their PE kit.
👉 Teachers don’t chase missing homework.
👉 Timetables change. Rooms change. Expectations rise.

If kids have always waited to be told what to do at home, that shift hits hard. AND, this follows them into their adult lives where they grows into a partner who shows up, contributes, and cares.

Noticing is the bridge between awareness and responsibility — and it’s one of the greatest gifts we can give our kids.

So what helps? Start building the habit of noticing and acting now — in small, age-appropriate ways. Practical ways to build the “noticing muscle” at home:
⭐Use “What do you notice?” prompts - They learn to scan their environment — not wait for instructions.

⭐Give ownership, not tasks - It gives them a domain, not a chore.

⭐Create simple, visible cues - Visibility → independence.

⭐Let consequences (kindly) teach - Its okay not to swoop in to rescue them and allow them to sit in the discomfort. Allow the error to become a learning opportunity.

⭐Praise the noticing, not the outcome - Reinforce and name the behaviour and skill you want to help them build.

Why this matters? Developing these skills now means they enter secondary school with confidence, not anxiety. And at home, it means the mental load stops sitting on one pair of shoulders.

Noticing is the foundation of emotional intelligence: ‘I see what you’re carrying, and I can help.’

The world needs more adults who learned that early. 💜

10/03/2026

Would your loved ones know what to do if something happened to you?

It’s not something any of us want to think about — but once you have kids, a home, or a business, having key information clearly stored isn’t just admin… it’s an act of love. 💜

And the truth is this: when people are grieving, the last thing they need is to be digging through paperwork, passwords, and half‑remembered details just to make sense of things. Creating an Essential Information File removes that extra layer of stress — offering clarity when it’s needed most.

Here’s a simple, way to build your “Essential Information File” without overwhelm:

✨Choose where your information will live. It must be secure, shareable, and easy to update. Cloud docs, shared folders, or a password manager all work well.

✨Brain‑dump everything someone would need. Think: accounts, direct debits, utilities, subscriptions, school/child info, work/business services, medications, anything only you know. Don’t overthink — just get it out of your head.

✨Sort your list into simple sections. You, Home, Car, Kids, Work/Business, Partner, Executor tasks. This is a signposting document — not a detailed manual.

✨Fill in the basics. Bullet points only:
✔What exists
✔Where it’s kept
✔Who to contact
✔What needs cancelling, checking or notifying
Done is better than perfect.

✨Optional but important: Begin your digital estate list. Passwords, email access, cloud storage, social media, device codes, subscriptions tied to Apple/Google IDs. A gentle start is plenty.

This isn’t about doom thinking — it’s about clarity in a crisis, easing stress for the people you love, and finally getting that task out of your head and into a simple system.

💜

03/03/2026

Empty Weekend Parenting is the 2026 trend helping families slow down — but let’s be honest… an empty weekend can feel a bit scary. The unfinished chores to be done, the constant 'mummy look' or 'I'm bored'. Sometimes the idea of “no plans” brings up these and more feelings of unease: How do I keep everyone entertained… without losing my mind? 😵

But this trend isn’t about staying in all day or avoiding fun. It’s simply about taking the pressure off overscheduled weekends so families can actually rest. Research shows overscheduling can increase stress, while unstructured time supports calmer kids and more creativity. Its something that is great for them and also you and its important to role model rest as much as all the other things we need to help our kids learn.

✨Here’s the short version: You’re not doing “nothing”. You’re just doing less, more slowly, with space to breathe.✨

Try these low‑effort ideas:
⚡A quick “outdoor burst”—20–40 mins of fresh air.
⚡A set‑and‑forget activity: Lego, stickers, colouring.
⚡A slow hour where everyone chooses something calm.
⚡Rotate zones (not activities): crafts at the table, reading in a cosy corner.
⚡One intentional moment together: baking, a film, a board game.

Why it matters:
💜Less pressure = more connection.
💜Less rushing = fewer meltdowns.
💜More rest = smoother Mondays.

Want the full version? Check out my website: mypersonalfixer.com

👇 How do empty weekends feel for you — relaxing or a bit scary? Tell me below.

24/02/2026

Most of us don’t want to think about the summer holidays in February…
…but future‑you absolutely does. And so does your nervous system.

Because looking ahead isn’t about being organised for the sake of it — it’s about creating a version of the summer that doesn’t leave you stressed, scrambling, or silently carrying the entire load alone.

Here’s why a little early planning genuinely helps:
✨Looking ahead = protecting your mental wellbeing
When we don’t have even a rough outline of what the long summer break will look like, the uncertainty quietly works away in the background

✨Early conversations prevent conflict and overwhelm
One of the biggest summer stressors for parents isn’t the logistics — it’s the misalignment. When families talk early, they’re not negotiating under pressure.
People are calmer, kinder, and more able to problem‑solve.

✨Budgeting now = fewer surprises later
Summer gets expensive fast — not because anyone is doing anything wrong, but because six weeks of childcare, snacks, petrol, outings, and “Mum, can I have…” adds up quickly. Clarity around money isn’t restrictive — it’s liberating. It helps parents make values‑aligned choices rather than panic‑spend choices.

✨Planning realistically
This part is big, because a lot of summer stress comes from invisible expectations. Summer works best when responsibilities are visible and shared.

✨What do you resent… and what can shift?
This is the uncomfortable but empowering bit. Resentment = a boundary that needs adjusting or a responsibility that needs redistributing.
Ask:
“What can be shifted, shared, outsourced, simplified or completely removed?”
Because the goal isn’t organising yourself into more work.
It’s creating a summer that feels doable, shared, and human.

A little planning now creates a summer that feels calmer, lighter and genuinely shared — not another thing you “just get through.”

👉 Save this for later.

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