03/02/2026
I think this is so pertinent especially in my job. Yesterday was challenging.
If I get dementia, I’d like my family to hang this wish list up on the wall where I live. I want them to remember these things:
Every time you enter the room announce yourself. “Hi Mom- it’s Margaret.”
NEVER ask- Do you know who I am ?That causes anxiety.
If I get dementia, I want my friends and family to embrace my reality.
If I think my spouse is still alive, or if I think we’re visiting my parents for dinner, let me believe those things. I’ll be much happier for it. 🙏
If I get dementia, don’t argue with me about what is true for me versus what is true for you !
If I get dementia, and I am not sure who you are, do not take it personally. My timeline is confusing to me 💔
If I get dementia, and can no longer use utensils, do not start feeding me. Instead, switch me to a finger-food diet, and see if I can still feed myself.😋
If I get dementia, and I am sad or anxious, hold my hand and listen to what i have to say.
Do not tell me that my feelings are unfounded.
If I get dementia, I don’t want to be treated like a child. Talk to me like a adult as well as listen.
If I get dementia, I still want to enjoy the things that I’ve always enjoyed. Help me find a way to exercise, read, and visit with friends.
If I get dementia, ask me to tell you a story from my past on a daily basis.
If I get dementia, and I become agitated, take the time to figure out what is bothering me please 🙏
If I get dementia, treat me the way that you would want to be treated.
If I get dementia, make sure that there are plenty of snacks and stuff i really did like in the house. Even if I don’t eat I get angry as my energy levels drop and if I have dementia, I may have trouble explaining what I need.
If I get dementia, don’t talk about me as if I’m not in the room because I am listening and I may become aggressive and can't explain what iam hearing.
If I get dementia, don’t feel guilty if you cannot care for me 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. It’s not your fault, and you’ve done your best. Find someone who can help you, or choose a great new place for me to live.
If I get dementia, and I live in a dementia care community, please visit me often.
If I get dementia, don’t act frustrated if I mix up names, events, or places. Take a deep breath. It’s not my fault.
If I get dementia, make sure I always have my favorite music playing within earshot.
If I get dementia, and I like to pick up items and carry them around, help me return those items to their original place when iam asleep.
If I get dementia, don’t exclude me from parties and family gatherings.
If I get dementia, know that I still like receiving hugs,kisses or handshakes and cuddles.
If I get dementia, remember that I am still the person you know and love. ❤️
In Honor of all those I know and love and lost who are fighting Dementia/Alzheimer’s
