27/02/2021
Positive Pie
To change behaviour, research shows that the vast majority of parent communication with their child or teenager needs to be positive. It can help to visualise this communication as a pie chart or a pie with a small slice cut from it. The large uncut part is nice, pleasant interaction and the smaller slice is the correction. So the aim is to stay engaged and connected, and provide lots of attention whilst ‘the going is good’ and limit negativity.
It can be a challenge to find positivity amidst ongoing tricky behaviour but it pays to deliberately watch out for and ‘catch’ any examples of just normal, appropriate interaction and behaviour, and to ‘pay in’ attention at these points.
When there is uncooperative, challenging or disruptive behaviour the aim would be to deal with it quickly and calmly and move on afterwards with a fresh, positive start as soon as possible, with no grudges held. Any consequences are kept within reasonable bounds and over and done with quickly.
This ‘measured’ approach leads to better relationships and ensures that negative behaviour isn’t reinforced with loads of attention, and is a key factor in gaining a calmer household.
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