22/01/2024
If you have a dog with any sort of issues it’s tempting to keep looking forward and waiting for the time when they are ‘perfect’- 6 months, 12 months down the line when they will be ‘better’. You might put things off, not properly enjoying things with your dog as you are waiting for that future moment. Waiting for them to be physically better, behaviorally ‘better’ or no longer anxious or reactive. Waiting for the day you can take them to the dog park and they will cope just fine with random dogs sniffing their bum for 5 minutes. Waiting for the day they will cope inside a busy pub or waiting for the day when they can walk for an hour instead of being on limited exercise etc.
The dog sitting next to you may be around for the next 10 years (or more if you are lucky) but they may be gone much sooner. Our time with our dogs is heartbreakingly short and too valuable to waste waiting for things to be perfect.
My first inuit, Elsa, was very anxious about noises, busy places and new people (but loved dogs). I had an imaginary timeline in my head of ‘in 3 months she will cope with us having a drink in the beer garden’, ‘next year she will be able to cope at the local agricultural show if I really work hard’. I worked SO hard to help her and she did really improve but I worked hard at the expense of some of the everyday fun.
My life changed when she died at 26 months old and, more than anything, I wish I’d prioritised play dates with her (hundreds of) friends. I wish I’d visited more freedom fields instead of constantly striving for her to cope on more and more walks. I wish I’d done more scent work with her and spent more time with her jumping on the trampoline with my kids and with them reading bedtime stories to her.
It’s so important that we enjoy the here and now with our dogs and appreciate all the things they CAN do without just focusing on the things they can’t. Of course we keep helping them and we keep striving to make their lives as happy and full as possible but we also need to really focus on the small everyday things that bring us joy together too. It has to be a balance and I’ve strived to get it right for my own dogs and to encourage my clients to do the same. You can lead a happy and fulfilled life with your dogs WHILE you help them. Elsa changed my outlook on how I live and work with dogs, for the better, and that’s the legacy she leaves.
Please don’t wait for things to be perfect before you decide to start enjoying your life together with your dog ❤️ Now is the perfect time to enjoy your life with them.
Laura McAuliffe 2024, Dog Communication