19/04/2026
Sunday Reflective Question:
Am I living in a way Iād want him to copy?
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Itās never too late to start again.
And holding him makes that feel even more real.
Because when I look at Ayan, I realise, he doesnāt care about what I should have done.
He doesnāt care about expectations, timelines, or what society dictated as my right move.
He is the epitome of presence, honesty and alignment. He just feeds off my energy.
And it forces a question I donāt think Iāve asked enough:
Am I living in a way Iād want him to copy?
So much of my life has been built around āshouldā
You should do this work.
You should be sensible.
You should follow the path that makes the most sense on paper.
But āshouldā is rarely yours.
Itās inherited. Conditioned.
Passed down from people who were also trying to figure it out.
And when you follow the āshouldā for too long, you donāt just lose time, you lose yourself.
Thatās the real opportunity cost.
Not money, status or the things you could have accumulated.
Itās the version of you that never got to exist.
I donāt want that for him.
I donāt want him to grow up feeling like he has to live a life that looks right to everyone else but feels wrong to him.
I want him to feel safe choosing what he wants.
Even if itās different.
Even if itās misunderstood.
Even if it means starting again.
Because starting again isnāt failure.
Itās just, starting again.
And if thereās one thing I can show him, itās this:
Youāre allowed to change your mind.
Youāre allowed to choose differently.
Youāre allowed to build a life that actually feels like yours.
No matter what you decide or when.
Been reflecting heavily on this for the last few weeks. Hope it helps relieve some of the burden.
Stay visionaryš
Dipsš„
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