14/09/2026
Who gets a vote in the life you build?
Something I’ve been thinking about lately…
We often ask people for their opinion when what we’re really looking for is permission.
“Do you think I should do it?”
“Does this sound like a good idea?”
“What would you do?”
And then, if the answer isn’t what we hoped for, we start questioning ourselves.
I’ve done it.
When I started building something alongside my job, not everyone understood it.
Some people worried I was taking a risk.
Some thought I should stick with what I already had.
Others simply couldn’t see what I could see.
And that made me realise something:
Someone can genuinely care about you and still give you advice based entirely on their own idea of what is possible.
They’re looking at your decision through their experiences, their fears and their definition of security.
That doesn’t make them wrong.
But it doesn’t automatically make them right for you either.
Maybe we spend too much time asking,
“What do you think I should do?”
And not enough time asking,
“What do I think I’m capable of?”
You don’t have to convince everyone.
You don’t even have to make everyone understand.
Sometimes the biggest step forward is simply deciding that other people’s uncertainty doesn’t have to become yours.
Listen to advice.
Take what’s useful.
Then make your own decision.
Because it’s your life.
And you’re the one who has to live it.