02/09/2021
Fight or Flight
Are you worried about how you are going to cope alone after a divorce?
Do you wonder how you are going to survive?
Are you anxious and scared about the future?
I completely understand as I felt the same when I got divorced.
Let me share with you what happens.
Your brain switches on the fight or flight response whenever it thinks you are in danger and can help you fight against it and it will help you survive.
Exercise - this doesn’t have to mean endless hours in the gym, even a half hour walk can do you the world of good, so make sure you get out there and breathe in that fresh air.
Know that you are safe - say to yourself ‘I am medically safe, this is my body preparing to run or fight. That is all’
At first, you might believe this for a second but then the “what if” feeling might creep back in. That’s ok. You just need to remind yourself you are safe over and over, each time the feelings start to pop up. Over time the head-heart shift will occur. This means that it will go from something you can know in your head when calm, to something you believe in your heart at any time, even when stressed.
Learn to be in the present moment and not trapped in your thoughts or feelings (or learn to accept and let go)
Mindfulness is one of the most effective tools to learn for this. I am not going to sugar coat it, mindfulness is not easy, it takes practice. Some days it will be easy-ish, others it will feel almost impossible, just keep on practising
Yoga
Yoga was designed to unite the body, mind and the breath. To bring you into the present. If you are anything like me and struggle with mindfulness or concentration in general, yoga is a godsend. Your brain is distracted just enough by the movement that you can finally focus on the breath and the moment
Share with others, spend time with loved ones and friends and laugh.
Being with friends, sharing what you are experiencing and laughing all increase endorphins. It makes us feel nurtured and shows to our brain that we are not in danger.
For more tips DM me.