Donna Still Life Coach

Donna Still Life Coach Peak performance coach, Breathwork facilitator, Integrative energy healer and founder of The Gift. The images were so much richer that those black squiggles!

Assisting clients to Reconnect with their Breath, Body & Mind, using ancient wisdom techniques to align with their true essence Alchemical transformation

I’ve been fascinated by the human psyche and behaviour for many years. Ever since, in fact from the age of 7, when I realised that the girl next door wasn’t actually reading the story to me, but recounting it from memory to cover up the truth th

at she could not read. That she could not make sense of those squiggly black things on the page. The images enabled her to tell the story well enough, she was just 9 years old and already was an expert at covering up. We lived in a council block of maisonettes in a small leafy suburb. We lived on the ground level. The family in the maisonette upstairs were very noisy, mostly only when the husband came home who worked away!. We later learned that the lady was regularly beaten when he returned home. Witnessing this regular beating (even though it was only the sound) had a very deep and profound effect on my young developing mind. Some of which I’m still uncovering today. This fascination with behaviour led me to want to be a social worker when I left school but the universe had very different ideas. I was given so many profoundly deep and disturbing experiences to witness along with an equal number of joyful and ecstatic experiences during these 45 + intervening years, all of it valid and valuable for what I’m doing now. I developed a deep interest in how the physical environment impacted behaviour, studying interior & spatial design during my work as an interior decorator I began developing the communication skills to assist people to come to a decision about what they really wanted. This has been an overriding factor in my life. Noticing how we say we want one thing and then do another!! Noticing how we know what to do to get what we want, but just don’t take the actions required to get there!! The more I delved into my own experiences the more I learned about how every experience impact us in ways we can’t even begin to imagine. Since 1995 I have been studying in much greater depth the psyche, human behaviour & how to create deep lasting change. Studying with many UK and international teachers, learning many different modalities to assist individuals to move out of a state of fear and into freedom. Having the freedom to design life on your own terms from a place of inner knowing is what I help people to do in my business. I ran way from the therapy aspect for many years, not realising it’s importance in acknowledging and honoring past experiences without allowing those same experiences to continue having a hold over our life. Learning ways of releasing the past and integrating the learning. It’s been very liberating. If you are facing a situation and not sure whether I could help, private message me and we can set up an initial chat to find out if I can help you move forward. here are some of the qualifications I have that may be able to assist you. Master of Neurolinguistic Programming & Trainer of NLP

Thinking Into Results Facilitator

Soul Rescue and Higher senses awareness. Grand Master in the folowing healing modalities
Reiki, Seichem, Ashanti, Healing Order of the Golden Dragon

Teacher of Ashati, Reiki, Seichem, Healing Order of The Golden Dragon, Soul Rescue, Higher Senses Awareness, Oracle Cards. Combined Accupressure/Breathwork facilitator

I regularly lead mastermind groups, meditation and healing circles. get in touch, I wont bite :D

So, I succumbed to the latest ai craze of having a whimsical sketchbook style image created, here’s what it came up with...
23/05/2026

So, I succumbed to the latest ai craze of having a whimsical sketchbook style image created, here’s what it came up with. Prompt in the comments

Knowing what to do in an emergency saves lives, Sam Jones  from  Is running this fantastic course
07/05/2026

Knowing what to do in an emergency saves lives, Sam Jones from
Is running this fantastic course

Would you know how to confidently use a tourniquet or a Russell Chest Seal in the event someone had a life threatening bleed?

Did you know there is a bleed kit in West Wickham High Street?

Join us on 16th May for a Community Emergency Life Saver course.

I was reminded by facebook memories that I made a post about discipline in2019 based on my best thinking then, but life ...
01/05/2026

I was reminded by facebook memories that I made a post about discipline in2019 based on my best thinking then, but life evolves and experiences continue to accrue. Here’s my updated thinking on the topic. What are your thoughts on it?

DISCIPLINE IS NOT WHAT YOU THINK IT IS!
I believe the word discipline has been misunderstood for a long time.

Most people hear it and think:
restriction, rigidity, and forcing yourself to do things you don’t want to do!

But the root of the word discipline comes from disciple ~
someone who follows a path with devotion.
I believe that true discipline is nothing whatsoever about control. It’s purely about devotion to what matters to you now in this moment.

Meaning THE REAL PROBLEM most people face on a daily basis ISN’T A LACK OF DISCIPLINE! It’s more A LACK OF SELF-TRUST.

And I see this every day in the women & men I work with. None of whom I would consider lazy, incapable or lacking willpower, they’re exhausted because they’ve spent years responding to everyone else’s needs…
overriding their own signals…
pushing through when their body said no.

So when they finally try to “be disciplined” what they’re actually doing is trying to override themselves again. And that can never work or last.

DISCIPLINE WITHOUT SELF-TRUST CREATES BURNOUT
You can force action for a while by pushing to override resistance. But if your body isn’t on board, you will eventually disconnect, become distracted, or stop altogether. This has nothing to do with weakness but because something deeper in your body & psych is trying to get your attention.

DISCIPLINE WITH SELF-TRUST CREATES MOMENTUM
The shifts happen when discipline becomes:
* keeping the promises you make to yourself
* listening to your body instead of overriding it
* taking action even when it feels uncomfortable, but not unsafe
* returning to what matters, again and again
consistently.

WHAT MY MENTOR TAUGHT ME BACK THEN AND WHAT I NOW SEE DIFFERENTLY
Bob Proctor used to say:
“Discipline is giving yourself a command and following it through.” And while its stayed with me as a powerful statement I’ve learned through years of lived experience and working with the body is this: If the command doesn’t come from alignment, you won’t follow it through, no matter how much you berate yourself.

It just isn’t sustainable, so the work we need to do can’t just come down to: “give yourself a command” we must learn how to hear the right command from within ourselves in the first place.
And, It’s rarely about not knowing what to do and more about understanding our own internal thought processes when we are:
* overthinking the “how”
* waiting to feel ready
* distracting ourselves with low-value tasks
* saying yes to things that pull us off track
sitting underneath all of this is a nervous system that doesn’t feel safe to move forward.

WHAT DISCIPLINE LOOKS LIKE FOR ME NOW
For me, discipline today looks very different to 2019. It’s no longer rigid time blocks or forcing output.
It’s more about:
* creating space to hear myself clearly
* noticing when I’m avoiding what matters
* gently bringing myself back
* following through on what I’ve said I will do, even when it’s inconvenient or uncomfortable. Choosing to operate from a place of deep self respect and honouring of my own cycles.

So, THE TRUTH, like me, You don’t need more motivation. You don’t need another strategy.
And you definitely don’t need to “try harder.” You need:
* a clear internal direction
* a regulated nervous system
* and the willingness to follow through

THIS IS THE WORK I DO
I don’t teach people how to force themselves into action.
I help them:
* reconnect to their body
* rebuild self-trust
* and develop a form of discipline that actually lasts
Because when that’s in place… You stop continually starting over.
You stop negotiating with yourself.
And you start moving in a way that feels clear, grounded, and sustainable.

IF YOU’RE NOTICING YOURSELF HERE
Pay attention to Where are you breaking your own word?
Be honest, because discipline doesn’t start with a big plan. It starts with one decision you follow through on today.

Image is of a despacho created for this Beltane full moon 🌕

All things Beltane on the 1st may, by Talon Abraxas
01/05/2026

All things Beltane on the 1st may, by Talon Abraxas

“Illumination comes to those who hear the song of Light unchanged, unflickering, eternal — Light that is one though the lamps be many.”
- Dane Rudhyar

Helios - Greek Titan God of the Sun
Talon Abraxas

Beltane: How to Celebrate the Ancient Celtic Fire Festival

Here’s everything you need to know to celebrate Beltane, the Celtic fire festival holiday.

What Is Beltane and How Do You Celebrate It

Beltane is an ancient Gaelic fire festival celebrated on May 1 that marks the beginning of summer and the full transition into the light half of the year. The pagan holiday was traditionally observed across Ireland, Scotland, and the Isle of Man. Beltane celebrations often began at sunset on April 30, when communities lit ritual fires.

The name Beltane (pronounced Bel-tain or Bel-ten-ah) comes from Old Irish Beltene, often translated as “bright fire.” Historically, the Celtic people celebrated Beltane with bonfires, livestock blessings, protective rituals, and seasonal celebrations welcoming fertility, growth, and abundance.

Like the other Gaelic seasonal fire festivals of Imbolc, Samhain, and Lughnasadh, Beltane was an important turning point in the agricultural calendar. In modern times, Wiccans and neo-pagans have incorporated Beltane into the Wheel of the Year, where it falls between the Spring Equinox (Ostara) and the Summer Solstice (Litha).

Modern pagan celebrations tend to emphasize themes of fertility, sacred union, and celebration of spring’s energy. While the sacred union of the God and Goddess and dancing around the maypole were not part of the original Celtic rites, they are common in contemporary observances, blending historical inspiration with modern spiritual practice. If you’re planning to celebrate Beltane today, here are some rituals, recipes, and altar ideas to get you started.

The Spiritual Meaning of Beltane

Beltane is the turning point into the light half of the year in the traditional Celtic calendar and was historically understood as the beginning of summer. It was a threshold festival, similar to Samhain, when communities performed protection rites to safeguard people, livestock, and crops as they moved into the growing season.

But, both spiritually and literally, it’s also when growth and connection is no longer hidden underground or just beginning to emerge, It’s visible, active, and impossible to ignore. Finally, warmth, movement, attraction, and vitality are returning to the land in full force.

Because of this timing, Beltane has long been associated with connection: connection between people and with the natural world. It’s a season that invites participation and play rather than observation. It’s the time to stop planning and start creating, celebrating, and stepping fully into what is beginning to take shape.

Many modern practitioners experience Beltane as a time to follow what feels energizing and alive to you, to reconnect with the body and the senses, and to notice what is growing in their relationships, creative work, and daily life.

The History of Beltane

Beltane is one of the four major fire festivals of the ancient Gaelic calendar, alongside Samhain, Imbolc, and Lughnasadh. Its earliest mentions appear in medieval Irish literature, including the Tochmarc Emire “The Wooing of Emer,” where it’s associated with significant seasonal transitions and agricultural rites.

Beltane (sometimes spelled Beltaine and Bealltainn) celebrated the first of summer (Cétshamhain) in the early Irish seasonal calendar and was when communities drove their cattle from sheltered winter grounds to fresh summer pastures.

Though Beltane is traditionally celebrated on May 1, the seasonal midpoint between the spring equinox and summer solstice falls slightly later, around May 5 or 6. This may have been when the earlier pagans celebrated the holiday.

At its core, Beltane, like the other three Celtic fire festivals, was primarily a practical agricultural and seasonal holiday. It signaled the start of the growing season and the movement into a time of abundance, if all went well. Cattle were central to life in ancient Ireland, and Beltane rites focused on protecting herds and ensuring their fertility and survival.

Large bonfires were kindled, and people and livestock would pass between them for purification and protection as communities entered the most important agricultural season of the year. Household hearths were also extinguished and relit from that communal Beltane fire.

To Beldine, i.e. Beltine, viz., a favouring fire. For the druids used to make two fires with great incantations, and to drive the cattle between them against the plagues, every year. Or to Beldin, viz., Bel the name of an idol. At that time the young of every neat were placed in the possession of Bel.

The idea that Beltane was named for a god called Bel or Belenus appears mainly in later interpretations and 19th-century folklore. Most modern Celtic historians treat the idea that Beltane was named for a god called Bel as plausible-sounding but not historically confirmed. The name Beltene is more widely understood to refer to a “bright” or “lucky” fire rather than to a specific deity.

Beltane and the Fae

Later, folklore from the early modern period (16th–18th centuries) began to associate the day with the Otherworld and the fae. Like Samhain (its seasonal opposite on the Wheel of the Year), Beltane came to be seen as a liminal time, when the veil between worlds grew thin and the boundary between the human world and the Otherworld was believed to be more active and unpredictable.

In Scottish and Irish traditions, it was believed that the fae were especially active on Beltane night. Offerings were sometimes left at sacred wells, thresholds, or under hawthorn trees (traditionally associated with entrances to the Otherworld) to honor or appease these unpredictable spirits and protective charms were used to ward off mischief.

These beliefs layered spiritual meaning atop the festival’s agricultural roots and continue to influence modern pagan Beltane celebrations, where fae folklore plays a prominent role.

How May Day and Beltane Became Intertwined

What you might notice is that most of the rituals and celebrations we associate with Beltane today weren’t a part of those ancient festivals. Those actually come from a different tradition altogether, one known as May Day.

May Day is a holiday celebrated on May 1 that emerged in medieval and early modern Europe, especially in England, Germany, and Scandinavia, as a rural, secular celebration of spring. It featured maypoles, flower garlands, May Queens, and outdoor revelry, all symbols of nature’s blossoming.

May Day may have been influenced by the Roman holiday of Floralia, which honored Flora, the goddess of flowers, fertility, and spring. That holiday involved lo******ng, plays, and general hedonism. (Also known as pretty much every other day in Rome.)

In the mid-20th century, with the rise of Wicca and modern neopaganism, practitioners organized some of the seasonal festivals into what became known as the Wheel of the Year. Beltane retained its May 1 timing and bonfires, but absorbed additional elements from European May Day celebrations, including maypoles, flower crowns, and May Queen symbolism.

The Meaning of Beltane in Modern Pagan Traditions

While historical Beltane focused primarily on protection, livestock fertility, and seasonal transition, modern pagan traditions, especially Wicca, often emphasize its symbolism as a celebration of sacred union and life force.

In Wiccan traditions, Beltane is a celebration of sacred union. It is the time of the merging of divine masculine and feminine energies that bring life and vitality to the earth. In Wicca, this union is often symbolized by the Goddess and the God, whose love and connection ignite the fertility of the season.

In many Wiccan traditions, the Goddess is appears in her Maiden aspect at Beltane: joyful, wild, blossoming with possibility. She is sometimes represented as the May Queen, crowned in flowers and associated with growth, sensuality, and the blossoming of nature.

The May Queen’s counterpart is the God, who appears as the Green Man or Horned God. The Green Man is an ancient symbol of nature’s wild, untamed forces. He is often depicted with a face formed from leaves, vines, and branches. He represents the raw creative energy of the earth, the spirit of the forest, and the cycles of death and rebirth that sustain life.

Although the Green Man appears in medieval church carvings across Europe, his connection to Beltane is a modern symbolic interpretation rather than part of early Gaelic festival tradition.

The Horned God, a central figure in many Wiccan traditions, encompasses not only virility and the hunt, but also protection and balance. At Beltane, he is often seen in his youthful, virile form, pursuing the Goddess in a symbolic courtship that culminates in their sacred union.

This divine coupling is more than myth. It’s also a metaphor for the creative spark that brings new life into the world. Their union represents the generative forces of nature, but also the balance between light and dark, sun and earth, masculine and feminine. Each is vital to the turning of the seasons and the sustaining of life.

Many modern Beltane rituals re-enact this sacred joining through symbolic acts: intertwining ribbons on the maypole, lighting candles, sharing food and drink in a feast of love, partnership, and abundance.

Ways to Celebrate Beltane

Modern pagan Beltane rituals and celebrations focus on joy, fertility, connection to the earth. It’s a time to host bonfires, make merry, and embrace the blossoming energy of the season.

While some attend community festivals like the the annual Beltane Fire Festival in Scotland that celebrates with drumming, dancing, and theatrical reenactments, you can also honor the holiday as a solitary practitioner or at home with friends or family.

Dance around a maypole. Traditionally, dancers weave ribbons around a tall pole in celebration of fertility and union. If a full-size maypole isn’t practical, create a miniature one for your altar as a symbol of balance between the divine masculine and feminine.
Make and wear flower crowns: Use wildflowers, daisies, roses, and other blooms and greens to honor the abundance of nature and the May Queen. Ribbons or lace can add to the festive feeling of the crown.
Spend the day in nature. Take a walk, garden, go on a picnic, or simply bask in the sunlight.
Leave an offering for the fae. Beltane is believed to be one of the times when the veil between worlds is thin, and the fae are active. Leave small offerings of honey, cream, or caudle at the base of a tree.
Host a bonfire or candle ritual. Gather friends, light a fire or candles, and share food, laughter, and wishes for the season and pay homage to the original rites.
Bake Beltane recipes. Try making bannock cakes, honeyed bread, or dishes using fresh dairy, grilled meats, or red fruits.
Make seasonal cocktails. Celebrate the sweetness and fizz of life with seasonal drinks. Elderflower, associated with fae magic and feminine energy, is perfect for this sabbat.
Decorate a May Bush: In Irish tradition, households sometimes decorated a hawthorn branch or small tree with ribbons and flowers as a seasonal protection charm and celebration of summer’s arrival.
Go A-Maying: Beltane honors desire and creation, whether that’s expressed through intimacy, dancing, creativity, or simple enjoyment of your senses. Take time to indulge in what brings you pleasure.

Here are more Beltane rituals you may want to take part in.
Celebrate the Wheel of the Year

Beltane Symbols and Colors

The corresponding colors and symbols for Beltane represent the themes of the blossoming of summer, fire, vitality, the blossoming of nature. These include the maypole, bonfire, flower crowns, and colors such as pink and lavender. Here are some decor ideas for Beltane as well as a step-by-step guide for how to set up an Beltane altar.

Beltane Correspondences for your altar:

Maypole: A powerful fertility symbol, the maypole represents the union of the God and Goddess. Winding ribbons around it symbolizes the intertwining of masculine and feminine energy. You can construct a full-sizes on or make a miniature one for your altar.
Candles: Beltane is one of the great fire festivals, and fire represents purification, transformation, and passion.
Flower Crowns: The flower crown is a symbol of fertility, beauty, and the blossoming of life. When worn during Beltane celebrations, it represents the connection to nature’s cycles and honors the vitality of the season. In many traditions, it also echoes the image of the May Queen, embodying springtime joy, sensuality, and the divine feminine.
Colors: Red, green, pink, yellow, white, lavender
Herbs and plants: Rose, daisy, lilac, marigold, sunflowers, cowslips, elderflower, mint, yarrow, thyme, mugwort, hawthorn, primrose,
Food: Honey, mead, grilled meats, dairy products, red fruits and vegetables
Crystals and Stones: Pillar crystals or wands in yellow jasper, citrine, carnelian, sunstone, or rose quartz
Animals: Rabbits, swans, dove, swallow, cows, bees
The Fae: Images or statues of fae or bells, mirrors, shiny stones, hawthorn, and small offerings to invite or honor the Otherworld realm.
Gods: Statues of the Horned God and Goddess or symbols that represent masculine and feminine energies.

What Are Beltane’s Recipes and Foods?

Beltane recipes celebrate the abundance and fertility of the land as it bursts into full bloom. Many Beltane menus reflect what would have been available to agrarian Celtic communities in late spring, with an emphasis on dairy, honey, fresh greens, and fire-cooked meats.

Bannock Bread: A traditional Scottish flatbread often cooked over an open fire and served with butter or honey.
Caudle: A warm, spiced drink made from milk, eggs, and ale or wine.
Dairy: Milk, butter, and cheese are all associated with fertility and the richness of the season. Use them in cooking or as offerings for the fae.
Grilled Meats: Meats like lamb, goat, or beef are often cooked over open flame, honoring Beltane’s fire symbolism.
Honey and Mead: Sweet offerings that symbolize the pleasures of life and abundance.
Wild-Foraged Greens and Berries: Nettles, dandelion greens, and other seasonal produce bring in the wild energy of the land.
Red Fruits: Strawberries, cherries, and raspberries reflect love, vitality, and the color of Beltane’s fiery energy.

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