Bunmi Oduah

23/10/2026

Start as you mean to go on. There is no award for being stressed and burned out trying to prove you are a good wife.

People will misunderstand the choices you’re making in your season of preparation. They are entitled to their misunderstanding and you are responsible for your life and choices.

Come and join me as we have some frank conversations about marriage preparation at the One Man, One Wife webinar, happening on 1 November 2026 at 7:30 pm GMT.

Link to register for your free space is in my bio.

20/10/2026

“He’s a good man.”

“He’s a good Christian.”

I hear it all the time from my clients. Even on social media, I see women saying it while also talking about a problem they are dealing with in the relationship.

That statement often seems like they are saying, I know I am complaining about a problem, but this good Christian label is who he is. Judge him by the description I have given you, not by the problem I am complaining about.

And that points to something that we need to talk about today.

“He’s a Christian” can tell you something important about a man. But what have you learned about how his faith shapes the way he lives?

How does he respond when you disagree? Does he keep his word? What does generosity look like to him? How does he speak about people who can do nothing for him, and how does he speak to you?

Being a Christian is more than just a nice label or a checkbox on a form.

A Christian is a follower of Christ whose character reflects their faith's values and morals.

In Genesis 24, Abraham’s servant prayed for someone who understood his master's faith. He also paid attention to what Rebekah did, and her response at the well gave him something observable to consider.

That is a useful invitation for us too: to pray, ask questions and take time to notice a person's character.

So, here is a practical exercise.

Choose one value that matters to you in marriage, such as honesty. Write down what it looks like in everyday life. “He is honest” might become “His explanations are consistent, and he tells the truth even when it is uncomfortable.”

This is part of what we’ll explore in One Man, One Wife on Sunday 1 November at 7:30 pm GMT. It’s free, live on Zoom, and if you can’t make it, register anyway, and I’ll send you the replay.

We’ll look at six areas of marriage preparation and help you recognise where to focus next.

The six areas are:

Choosing wisely: looking beyond “he’s a Christian” to how his faith shows up in everyday life
Winning at work and life: the life and calling you’re building now
Dating and courtship: intentional dating and boundaries that help you decide well
Preparing your heart and body: the beliefs and patterns you bring into relationships
Becoming one financially: your money story and the financial conversations that matter
Making space for another: in-laws, holidays, family traditions and sharing a home

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One Man, One Wife free webinar for Christian single women who want to get married, preparing them for the marriages they are praying for.

27/09/2026

Putting your life on hold is not part of God’s plan for you. There are many things to do and see, even as you wait for your marriage to happen.

Pausing (aka just surviving) isn’t part of it.

Download your free Marriage Preparation Checklist via the link in bio.

16/09/2026

A place to rest, heal, reflect and clarify the Father’s heart for your life and marriage.

Surrounded by women who understand what you’re experiencing, the Oasis retreat is an experience, one of peace, one of affirmation of who you are and one of being led by the Holy Spirit on your relational journey.

You’ll have a safe space for vulnerable conversations about waiting, relationships and marriage. We won’t shy away from the tough questions because I know everyone needs answers, or at least somewhere to ask those questions.

Join us, especially as we seek God’s heart for the year ahead.

If you would like to be part of this retreat experience, send me a DM or complete the registration form via the link in my bio.

The retreat weekend includes:

✨Two nights’ accommodation
✨Meals and refreshments throughout the weekend
✨Guided biblical teaching, prayer and reflection
✨Protected time for genuine rest
✨Your Oasis Compass and retreat resources
✨Small-group Clarity Circle Conversations
✨A personalised 90-day direction plan
✨A carefully curated retreat gift

Send me a DM or CLICK the link in my bio to register today.

14/09/2026

Imagine walking into marriage thinking you’ve got it on lockdown 🤣🤣 if only!

Marriage brought me down a peg or two but it was all for my good, and yours because you get to learn from my experience.

Download your Free Marriage Preparation Checklist today and start preparing for the marriage you’re praying for. Link in bio.

11/09/2026

Which of these social media actions will you be doing?

While you’re making sure your social media is working for you, make sure you’re also preparing yourself for the man and marriage you’re praying for.

Download your FREE Marriage Preparation Checklist via the link in my bio.

07/09/2026

As Christians, we often don’t realise the importance of what we’re listening to and never questioning.

Daily, what you’re listening to is shaping your lived experience because it’s building a belief system in you. That belief system becomes the reality through which you view everything through.

For example, if you believe that God is the One who chooses for you, you’ll never participate properly in the process of choosing a husband.

But here’s the truth; God always wanted you to be an active participant in choosing your life partner. He wants you to make a conscious choice based on your identity, values, purpose and vision. Those are the basis for compatibility, not church attendance or the same tribe.

If the messages you are listening to are constantly handing all the responsibility for your life choices back to God, let me say this to you lovingly but clearly: you are listening to the wrong messages.

Messages that teach you about your identity and show you how to use your agency (ability to choose) under the guidance of the Holy Spirit will move you further along.

Listen to them and change the experience you’re having.

When you’re ready to exercise your agency, download your FREE Marriage Preparation Checklist via the link in my bio.

21/08/2026

We have lost the simple art of meeting people and having no agenda about the relationship. It’s why single women (and men) will meet someone and immediately think, “Are they going to take my number?” “I need to take her number.” “Do they seem attractive to me?” “Do we click and get on?”

Talk about putting pressure on a relationship that doesn’t need it. Not every man you meet is a potential husband. That’s an unhealthy lens to view men through.

It’s okay to meet men that you have no agenda for other than to get to know them as fellow human beings.

Enjoy people’s company. Ask questions that allow you to get to know them. Share a bit about yourself. Release the experience from the weight of your desire for a man.

You’ll find that the anxiety you feel at every meet starts to fade from your heart and body.

DOWNLOAD your FREE Marriage Preparation Checklist via the link in my bio.

09/08/2026

Marriage was never meant to usurp your God-given vision and direction, because marriage is not the goal. Knowing Jesus and making Him known is the goal.

Every time you seek to fulfil your God-given vision, you are doing exactly that.
You want a man who supports you in doing that, as you support him in doing the same.

That is what a healthy, God-centred partnership looks like. So seek that.

Don’t just wait for a man who will one day make room for you. Become the woman who knows what God has asked her to build and refuses to shrink it to be chosen.

Download your FREE Marriage Preparation Checklist via the link in my bio.

31/07/2026

Download the FREE Marriage Preparation Checklist via the link in my bio.