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Divorce Navigator & McKenzie Friend Divorce Navigator & McKenzie Friend Hello, I’m Deborah Jones, I am a dedicated Divorce Navigator and McKenzie Friend. Ready to get started?

I know first hand how overwhelming and confusing the family court process can be—especially when you’re facing it alone. My mission is to provide clear, compassionate, and practical support to people navigating divorce, child arrangements, and family law disputes without a lawyer. With years of experience supporting families through challenging times, I offer step-by-step guidance, help you understand your options, and empower you to make informed decisions. I believe everyone deserves to feel heard, respected, and confident in court, regardless of their circumstances. Whether you need help preparing documents, understanding legal jargon, or simply someone to listen, I’m here for you. Let’s work together to find clarity and move forward—one step at a time. Contact me for a free, confidential chat and discover how Your McKenzie Friend can support you.

Many women fight to keep the children settled and the house intact. Before you agree, look at what that means for your p...
15/10/2026

Many women fight to keep the children settled and the house intact. Before you agree, look at what that means for your pension.

Thinking of keeping the family home after separation? Learn how the mortgage, pension and offsetting interact, and what to check before you agree.

Sometimes, even a litigant in person needs a solicitor.And a good McKenzie Friend should know when to say so.I recently ...
14/10/2026

Sometimes, even a litigant in person needs a solicitor.

And a good McKenzie Friend should know when to say so.

I recently supported someone through a long and difficult financial remedy case.

The financial agreement had already been reached and the consent order had already been drawn up and signed. But that wasn't the end of it. The order still needed to be properly progressed through the court process, including the necessary D81, before the financial proceedings could finally be concluded.

My client had been trying to move things forward himself, but we reached a point where more emails from him were not resolving the problem.

I had even prepared a D11 application, supporting statement and draft order so that he was ready to ask the court to intervene if necessary.

But this is where I think an important part of being a good McKenzie Friend comes in.

I told him to instruct a solicitor.

Not to take over his whole case. Not because he had failed as a litigant in person. But because I could see that this particular issue needed professional intervention to get the existing agreement properly over the line.

And that is exactly what he did.

The outstanding consent-order process was progressed, the D11 did not need to be filed, and I've now received the message we'd been waiting for:

“The financial consent order has finally been approved by the court”

There is a really important lesson in this for anyone representing themselves.

A good McKenzie Friend shouldn't encourage you to remain a litigant in person at all costs.

Sometimes our job is to help you do things yourself.

Sometimes our job is to recognise when you shouldn't.

Knowing when a solicitor, barrister or other professional needs to step in, even for one specific part of a case, is just as important as helping someone navigate the parts they can manage themselves.

It's not about proving you can do everything alone. It's about getting the right help at the right time.

And after such a long journey, receiving a message thanking me for the support I'd given along the way meant an enormous amount. 💜

Money worries in a divorce often build quietly. One partner stops paying a bill, the other is left covering it, and the ...
10/10/2026

Money worries in a divorce often build quietly. One partner stops paying a bill, the other is left covering it, and the gap grows each month.

Before you agree to anything, check who is responsible for each bill and debt. Council tax, mortgage payments and utilities can all stay in both names, even after separation. If your ex stops paying, the council can still pursue you.

Keep a record of every payment, who made it and when. Ask for statements in writing. If something changes, get it confirmed in an email or text.

Find out early what your legal costs could be, and ask your solicitor how and when they will be paid. Costs that are unclear at the start can become a much bigger problem later.

If you are already struggling, speak to your local council about council tax support, check whether you are claiming every benefit you are entitled to, and contact your mortgage lender before you miss a payment.

You do not have to work this out alone. Ask questions, get things in writing, and keep your own copies of everything.

When the harder-to-value asset lands on your side of the tableA Court of Appeal decision handed down this week is gettin...
25/07/2026

When the harder-to-value asset lands on your side of the table

A Court of Appeal decision handed down this week is getting attention in family law circles, and while the numbers involved are eye-watering, the principle behind it applies just as much to a modest divorce as it does to a multi-million pound one.

The case, briefly

A husband and wife had built up wealth over a forty-year marriage. Most of it was straightforward and could be split like cash. But a large chunk of it wasn't cash at all. It was a shareholding in a private company, worth an estimated nineteen million pounds on paper, but genuinely hard to sell, hard to value with certainty, and years away from being turned into anything either of them could actually spend.

The trial judge decided the wife should get thirty percent of that shareholding and the husband seventy percent. The reasoning was that sharing a risky asset like this should be treated as a last resort, and kept to a minimum whenever possible.

The Court of Appeal overturned that. It said there's no such rule. Fairness is the only principle that matters, and fairness has to run in both directions. If a court decides that an asset is genuinely uncertain, hard to sell, or hard to rely on, then both people should be expected to share that uncertainty, not just one of them because it happens to be more convenient or tidier for the case to work out that way. The split was changed to fifty-fifty.

Why this matters even if your case isn't worth millions

It's easy to read a judgment like this and assume it has nothing to do with you. Most divorces don't involve private companies worth nineteen million pounds. But the underlying question the court was wrestling with shows up constantly in far more modest cases, just in a smaller and more familiar form.

Think about a small business one of you runs, where nobody quite knows what it's really worth or when, if ever, it could be sold. Think about shares or an investment that can't easily be turned into cash. Think about a car still being paid off, where the "value" on paper isn't the same as what you'd actually get for it tomorrow.

In situations like these, someone often ends up being asked to accept the asset that's harder to pin down, while the other person walks away with the tidy, reliable, spendable share. Sometimes that's presented as simply how things are done, or as the sensible way to keep things simple. This judgment is a reminder that convenience isn't the same as fairness. If an asset carries real uncertainty, both people can reasonably expect to share in that uncertainty, rather than one person quietly absorbing all of it because it made the paperwork easier.

The takeaway

You don't need a fortune for this principle to apply to you. If you're being asked to accept the harder, less certain, less reliable side of a financial split, that's worth a genuine conversation rather than quiet acceptance. Fairness isn't just about splitting numbers down the middle. It's about making sure that whatever uncertainty exists in a case is carried by both people, not handed to whoever was in the weaker position to argue about it.

08/07/2026

A Mortgage Capacity Report could be the most important financial document in your divorce. CeMAP-qualified, court-ready reports from just £99. Help Network, UK.

02/07/2026

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