Dealing with Divorce

11/09/2023

Can anyone help with a child therapist recommendation in Cardiff for one of my clients please? She needs a play therapist for her youngest and a therapist for the older child, preferably one who understands the difficulties with a narcissistic father who has a golden child and a scapegoat.

01/08/2023

Those of you who have had residence transferred, or are failing to properly protect your child/ren for fear of it, may wish to write to TBI. https://www.thebureauinvestigates.com/stories/2023-07-06/family-court-files-parental-alienation-used-to-silence-claims-of-abuse I don't know how widely read this is, but all publicity is good publicity when it comes to righting the dreadful wrongs of the family court. So if you are able to it would be good to let them know your experiences in the hope they will publish more.

A contentious theory is being used as a litigation tool to counter claims of domestic abuse

25/08/2022

It's a fine line to tread ...

A new study in Wales of children involved in court proceedings has found that they are more likely than their peers to be anxious or depressed, although the study didn’t look at whether they may just have been adversely affected by the separation of their parents rather than the court proceedings....

30/06/2022

I know some people will disagree ... and I'm happy to hear their reasons.

I dipped in to some of the Johnny Depp v Amber Heard libel trial and I have seen lots of comments about it, mainly on social media. And I’ve been shocked by how seemingly everyone is so firmly either on one side or the other – though mainly on the side of JD. Personally I’m […]

05/05/2022

Surely not? Or do they ....

Litigants in person often complain to me about barristers lying to the court. They draft position statements full of lies and then after the hearing they draft court orders saying things were agreed or ordered when they weren’t. Let’s get this straight from the outset: barristers are not allowed...

30/03/2022

My latest newsletter has gone out. Have a read here.

We were all horrified when five people, including a child, were shot dead in Plymouth last August – this is the UK, not the US, and we don’t do mass shootings here. At least, not too often. The police are supposed to police gun licences but they don’t have time to do this properly and […]

03/03/2022

Can you relate to this, especially if you're in the family court?

Are you upset about Partygate? Personally I don’t understand why people who voted for a narcissist are so upset because he’s behaving like one. And since Boris has been caught out, many are mystified as to why he won’t step down like any ‘normal’ person would. They saw the fight Trump put ...

18/02/2022

A narcissistic parent will usually make one child a scapegoat and another the golden child to 'divide and conquer' and control them.

Variations on a theme, but always about control and power.

29/11/2021

It's important to think about the timing of your divorce if you're going to be applying as big changes are imminent.

22/11/2021

This is what's happening in the US. Even worse than what happens in our family courts but what happens there usually comes across the pond to us sooner or later. I still prefer to think our judges could be tamed by education and that the problem is not 'horrible mother-hating attitudes' although in some cases it certainly seems to be.

It’s time to say the obvious truth straight up. No pretty ribbons, no proving how “reasonable” I am by sugar-coating the harsh reality of what’s actually happening. Here it is: The family court system across the continent has become the moral equivalent of a slave trade. Mothers and children...

05/11/2021

It's arrived! My new book, How to Divorce a Narcissist and Succeed in the Family Court is now available on the link below. No worries if you're not married, if you're in the family court this book is for you! Not sure if your ex is a narcissist? If you're separation is difficult or you're a litigant in person (self-representing) in the family court, this book is for you.

Former solicitor offering affordable help: Litigants in Person, Replying to Solicitors’ Letters, Divorcing a Narcissist, Parental Alienation.

31/10/2021

https://www.bbc.co.uk/sounds/play/m0010wz6
Excellent programme about parental alienation and how it's used against parents alleging domestic abuse.

Sonia Sodha explores the use of “parental alienation” in the family courts