15/09/2026
Grief has a way of showing up long before anyone says the word out loud.
Often it starts the moment someone hears a hard diagnosis, and it sits quietly alongside them at their desk for months before any loss has even happened.
We talk to a lot of people managers about this, and one thing keeps coming up. Grief support tends to only kick in after a bereavement: a kind card, a few days off, maybe a check in. But caring for someone you love, and carrying that worry while still turning up to work each day, takes something out of a person too. And it's often the people who seem to be coping best who are quietly running on empty.
Policies alone were never going to hold all of that. A handful of fixed bereavement days can't really flex to how long grief takes, or how differently we each carry it. Two people can lose a parent in the same week and need completely different things from their manager, shaped by everything from their upbringing to how close they were to the person they lost.
What we've noticed makes the biggest difference isn't a better policy. It's a manager who checks in gently and actually means it, who offers flexibility without needing someone to prove they need it, and who isn't afraid of getting the words a little wrong as long as they show up with kindness. That kind of compassion takes practice, and a bit of courage, but it makes such a difference to the person on the other side of it.
If this is something you care about in your own workplace, Compassionate Employers is running a session on exactly this: Compassion at Work: Caring, Bereavement and Inclusive Leadership.
We'd recommend joining this afternoon, especially if you're a people manager, DEI professional or workplace champion.
All the details and joining link can be found here:
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