more than a mum

17/10/2023

06/09/2023

🤎 IMPORTANT ANNOUNCEMENT - SUNDAY 10TH SEPTEMBER MEET UP RE-ARRANGED 🤎

Hi mamas, I hope you’re not all struggling in this heat, especially those of you with extremely energetic children and those with tiny babies.

I mentioned on my post regarding evaluating the weather before the meet. Now whilst I thought the weather would be too cold for the kiddies (thinking because we’re in September!) it seems we’re experiencing a heatwave 🤣 British weather - can never write it!

I have decided to rearrange the meet up.
I hope this doesn’t disappoint any of you and please be assured a new date will be announced soon.

Thank you for your understanding 🤎
Lillie & Emerson x

27/08/2023

🤎 maternity leave 🤎

Sometimes maternity leave can look like this. Your baby takes a longer nap than usual, you’ve drank your cup of tea the hottest you’ve been able to in a while. Celebrate your small wins because sometimes us mamas spend weeks without having one.

Note to self: look back at this post when you’re having a breakdown & dying for a break, because it will come.

23/08/2023

🤎 OCTOBER 9TH - 15TH • BABY LOSS AWARENESS WEEK 🤎

I almost lost my life at the hands of an ectopic pregnancy on October 3rd, 2021.
The week before .

Having a support system & charities such as The Ectopic Pregnancy Trust really helped me come to terms with what happened.

The Lullaby Trust have organised a Little Stars Walk, lighting up a life for Baby Loss Awareness Week.

Myself & Emerson will be walking with our lanterns for ! I would love to gather some mums and their babies together to begin a fundraiser for this wonderful cause.

This can be with or without children, night or day. You decide your personal goal.

Please see attached the link below to register for your free lantern to walk with - please comment below or private message if you’d like to do this with us & I will start an official fundraiser with a target goal.

✨ https://bit.ly/3OkpTsr ✨

16/08/2023

🤎 good evening mamas — save the date 🤎

SUNDAY 10th SEPTEMBER
📍Museum Gardens, York
🕧 12:30pm

It seems that finding a building to hold so many of you has been the shock of my life! With insurance for your little ones as well as costs of room hires & the other lovely bits… it’s taking longer than expected.

So, with this, I have decided we will start offering these in public places until we can secure our spot 🤍 (of course this is free!)

🌧️ 🍂 ☀️ as we will be in September, the weather will be changing. I will evaluate the weather the week before & lock it all in & sort a back up!

Do you need to bring anything?
Feel free to bring something to eat and drink for you and your babies, possibly a blanket & some toys so we can get the words in! 🤣

I will being some bits for us to do to get to know each other. I’m so excited for you all to find your tribe 🤎

*if you are coming to this meet, please could you confirm this with myself and how many children are attending via private message. This is to evaluate how many people attend.
Whilst I would love to have 400+ of you - that just isn’t manageable & I’d really like to keep these sessions safe, intimate & not in anyway overwhelming.*
For some mums (much like myself) leaving the house is a hard enough job.
If at any point you can no longer make it (or just change your mind) please also let me know so I can open the space for any other mama.

Thank you all for your patience & understanding! Can’t wait to meet you 😘

Lillie & Emerson x

16/08/2023

🤎 mother’s meeting 🤎

we had our first mini meet up @ Revolution York with some of the mums the other day!
The smaller babies are a matter of weeks apart, then my little one is 7 months showing them all the bad things 🙈

Would it even be a ‘mother’s meet up’ without the signature mean girls cocktail? Absolutely loved talking to these mamas, having heart to hearts & just letting our hair down (as well as our guard) 🤎

So proud of all these mummy’s 😘

05/08/2023

🤎 those beautiful ‘bigger’ babies 🤎

Oh don’t we love them 🥰

My little boy has always been a bigger boy. He was only 7lbs 4oz at birth & was the tiniest little love. He has always been very tall (he does not get this from me 🤣) and I’ve found myself countless times justifying his clothes size or how ‘big’ he is.

This is an appreciation post for my little Emerson, my angel baby, the most perfect, funniest, sweetest, smartest and most definitely craziest boy in the world.

So if your baby is in a clothes size that is ‘too small’ for their age or ‘too big’ for their age, give yourself the reminder - “clothes are meant to fit your baby, your baby isn’t meant to fit clothes.”

So buy your baba what is super comfortable for them & the same goes to yourself, mama. Labels mean nothing. We’re in 2023. Let’s stop even looking ❤️

01/08/2023

TW ⚠️

💜 ectopic pregnancy awareness day 💜

a day extremely close to my heart for SO many reasons - after experiencing an ectopic pregnancy myself in october 2021, my world changed forever.

I wish I knew more. I wish I could have done more. I wish I’d listened to my body more.

Find information below:
- What is an ectopic pregnancy?
- What are the symptoms of an ectopic pregnancy?

Besides the scientific google result, an ectopic pregnancy is so much more. It’s a mother who has been let down, disappointed, longed for a child, a mother who has been completely thrown on a whim to have life saving surgery, consent forms, next of kin’s and all of the other graphic stuff I don’t need to mention. All to save her life. All because of a dangerous, fatal pregnancy.

Ladies, listen to your bodies. An ectopic pregnancy is life threatening and can be fatal.
I lost my right fallopian tube but I still feel like one of the lucky ones.

Thinking of you all on this day & every day after.
Keep spreading awareness, I know it’s hard - but you could save a life. 💜

@ The Ectopic Pregnancy Trust
@ Ectopic Pregnancy Loss Support
@ Ectopic Pregnancy Support Group

If any of you would be interested to hear my story, let me know ☁️

31/07/2023

🤎 by the book vs by the baby 🤎

…what are your thoughts here?

During pregnancy, I read a couple of books (but never finished them!) all about ‘perfect routines’ and ‘organic foods’, ‘breast is best’ and all the other degrading nonsense.

The truth is…. When you have a baby, there is no going by ‘the book’ whatever that book is.

In my motherhood journey… I go by the baby.

This doesn’t mean the baby is being ‘spoilt’ or not experiencing ‘structure’ it means, as a mama, I am delivering mutual respect to my baby, listening to their sleep/hunger cues and losing my will to live through it as I figure all of it out. Just like you.

There is no ‘right’ or ‘wrong’ way to raise your child (besides the obvious 🙈) and each mama copes / learns differently.

This is your reminder to SLOW DOWN and lose all your current expectations. Our babies do not ask to be here, we simply guide them through life and endeavour each and every milestone.

You’re doing a wonderful job, mama 🤎

26/07/2023

🤎 are you feeling guilty already & worried how you’re going to entertain your child/ren during the 6 week holidays? 🤎

Don’t….. this is motherhood in a photo and I haven’t stopped laughing since!

Lower your expectations mama, stick the telly on and chill when you need too. We’re all only human & shouldn’t be shamed for not living up to the scrapbook worthy activities during the holidays.

Expectations on young parents is heavy as it is. We are all in different situations - physically, emotionally, financially. We all have a limit & as long as your child is clothed, clean & fed. You’re doing a great job.

…Even if it means you haven’t showered for 3 days 🤣

19/07/2023

🤎 tag a mama who is doing an amazing job 🤎