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07/04/2024

THE SEVEN TYPES OF WOMEN

Once again our fore fathers in trying to simplify and study animals in psychology, and in particular socios*xual hierarchy, rarely known and quite new theories were put forward to describe female personality based on femininity and s*xual attraction. They identified seven female types to describe females in the animal kingdom as follows; Alpha, Sigma, Beta, Delta, Gamma, Omega and Zeta females.

Likewise in human beings we can come up with similar types of females based on femininity, fertility and s*xual attraction. Taking into consideration that we human beings have free will and intellect which is not found among animals, therefore, for this piece we can increase the variables so that we come up with a good representation of females by using; Spirituality, femininity, s*xual attraction, fertility or youthfulness, leadership and confidence. Any female who is above eighteen years is a lady or a woman.

Therefore, with the above five variables, we can now come up with a concise description of females based on them as shown below.

1. QUEEN CONSORT OR QUEENLY WOMEN OR WIFE MATERIALS

These types of women are not in the animal kingdom’s personality types. They are the rarest and the holiest. They are more concerned with heavenly life, their purpose to humanity on earth and family. They are the wife material which the Bible described especially in the book of Proverbs 31:10-31. Almost all of them are married or into religious life. And the extremely few who are single are either divorced or widowed. They highly value married life or religious life.
Queenly or wifely women are exactly like what the bible described them to be. They highly revere and fear God with their minds, words and actions. They are both spiritual and religious living their lives in chastity, purity and holiness which are evident with their virginity, selflessness and love. No one is called a wife material or queenly if she is not a virgin. They are feminine, meek, humble, industrious, s*xually attractive and very beautiful, confident and know how to manage their lives and homes.
The best examples I can cite here are Blessed Virgin Mary the mother of our Lord Jesus Christ, the female saints and most religious women. As for the contemporary women or ladies, am still looking for a married woman who can best represent this group. This means she must be highly valuable and virtuous, married as a virgin or is a virgin since wife materials value married life very much.

2. KINGDOM WOMEN

They are similar with queenly women. They only come short slightly in their religiosity, spirituality and holiness. This is because they are more into worldly activities in their various careers and not very keen on putting Gods words into action. They are valuable and virtuous women.
They are career women who are teachers, nurses, doctors, engineers, councillors, entrepreneurs, farmers etc. They are spiritually not very strong, morally they are not comparable with wife materials as most of them are not virgins or if virgins they lack some oil or as best called foolish and or naive virgins. Most here had s*xual in*******se once or twice Maximum with the same man or two different men. Those who had s*x atleast three times with the same man or different men do not fall in this category. Because fornicating more than two times with the same man or different men is already a habit or even character, which is a sign that she does not fear and revere God’s words and her good parents. They are also somehow feminine, attractive, and confident and manage well their personal and family matters. Almost all r**e victims fall here. Remember, a r**e case which was not investigated by police is not a r**e case.
Most truly repentant Christians fall under this category. Note that repentance means totally turning away from their immoral and sinful ways with evidence of atleast three years of living s*xually pure lives.

3. ALPHA WOMEN

Alpha females are similar to their animalistic partners in the animal kingdom notably in the hyena clans. They are very attractive, confident, and egotistic, love males, love to lead and be the leaders even when they lack the skills and mental capacity to lead, s*xually very attractive and physically strong in most cases and extraverted. These are the ones who love to conquer things normally into engineering, sciences, law and business going neck to neck with men. They are normally CEOs, holders of first class degrees, fairly with some money because of their hard and smart work, and normally refer themselves as being independent.
The negative side of such women is that with their academic, business and career achievements, they are spiritually weak and most times morally weak also. They are too proud of their achievements or their parent’s success that they are normally leaders of feminists groups and are feminists themselves. The sad part is that, most virgin ladies fall here. They are too proud of their virginity as if it is the only value which God and men love. Most are s*xually attractive, masculine, confident and love to lead even in marriage. That is why most Alpha women are single or divorced because their competitive, argumentative and uncooperative nature or masculine energy makes them repulsive to all normal men.
Most Alpha women are not virgins because of their delusional reasoning of what a man can do, they can do also. This makes most of them to be in s*xual competition with men by racking atleast three body counts or fornicating with the same man atleast three times. If still virgins their pride makes men not to wife them easily and they end up reaching thirty years old and plus yet still single.

4. NICE LADIES OR SIGMA WOMEN

Nice or Sigma women are the rarest of women on the socios*xual hierarchy. They are closely related to the Alpha females; however they tend to be lone wolves who do not seek social attention to feed their self-esteem. We can call them low key Alphas who are capable of doing what Alphas do but they do not care about what the world around them thinks, so they forge their own paths. They are introverted and do not play by social rules. They are more concerned with their purpose and self and less about society and family. Hence they do not like to lead yet they most times have good leadership qualities.
They are the nuns who prefer to be alone in meditation and silence hence making them become spiritually mature more than Alphas. They are confident and most time similarly s*xually attractive and physically fit. Sigmas are thoughtful and introspective, naturally charismatic, good managers and have positive attitude in life. And they love working alone or freelance works.
Due to their meekness and aloneness, they most times get easily played by Alpha males and end up compromising their dignity and integrity, which makes them easily lose their virginity because of their naivety. It is very rare to find virgins here because of their softness. These are the ones which the Bible describes as very foolish virgins, most r**e victims are here and those who fornicate here have atleast three body counts or fornicated with the same man more than three times. They are more feminine than alpha females.

5. BETA WOMEN

Beta women are the majority of women out there whom you can easily come about. Three in five women are beta women. They are the sheep who follow trends fashions and emulations blindly, normally led by the Alpha and Sigma females. These are the women who main stream media and multinational corporations love very much, because they are very good customers of their new products and services. They are always the first to rush and buy new gadgets especially phones, jewellery, clothes, harmful creams, fake hair and nails etc. They are very good employees with a wide personality type, agreeable, always playing safe to avoid conflicts, they fear risk, and easily get laid by men because of their weak self-esteem, love and morality.
They often lack the physical attractiveness, charm and confidence of the Alphas and Sigmas females, and are always loyal and great at obeying orders in order to maintain the rank which to them is very important. They are loyalists who often have successful careers. Confident Beta females do not have the swagger of Alpha females. They are likable or as they call them, nice and understanding women, loyal, faithful, decent and kind. Men always come back looking for them to settle down with.
But they have weak and ambiguous values and standards, and they are easily manipulated by males, because they are spiritually lukewarm. These are the ones who cohabit or have boyfriends and often end up as baby mamas, with body counts always above three to nine, though somehow feminine, with low confidence and normally shy away from leadership.

6. SIMP OR SIMB OR SIMPDA OR SIMPLETON OR FOOLISH WOMEN

Simps are lower than Betas in the socios*xual hierarchy and unfortunately many women fall in this category of females. They are the donkeys of the Sigmas, Alphas, Kingdom and Queenly women. They are the average women who work very hard to make a decent living. They are not most attractive and they find it hard attracting men and in case they attract one for a relationship, they are the insecure type who are always scared to lose the men and unfortunately, they most times lose them.
However some simbs are attractive and resemble Alphas or Sigmas but they lack moral compass or they are very weak in spiritual growth, low confidence, and they are mainly the psychos. This is amplified by their clinginess to the man they are dating by putting him on a pedestal. Simpleton women can do whatever their males asks them to do that is why naïve and young men consider these women to be the best whom they call, respectful, cooperative, submissive, loyal, and romantic. Their incompetence is immediately seen when they fail in their morality when important decisions are supposed to be made.
These foolish women are the rejects of all valuable and virtuous men. They find it impossible to convince highly valuable and virtuous men who get their energy as soon as they speak or with their dressing which is most times indecent and immoral. They are definitely not virgins consisting of always six plus body counts. They are the baby mamas or so called loyal girlfriends and girl lovers who do wife and w***e duties such as cooking, washing, wasting money on useless men or man so called boyfriend, doing all types of s*xual ogres for their boy and ex, aborting etc. They most times end up as single mothers and single in case they fail to get a simpleton or beta man to retire with. They are always filled with make-up and fake hair to cover their shame and they dress excessively and expensively if they have money. These are the masters of deception who are normally found in Pentecostal churches or charismatic churches and gatherings as ‘saved, repented, born-again’, blaspheming Gods name always etc. Just to scam our naïve and young brothers into marrying them, yet they are not truly repented or saved. These are the types who always go back to the ex who is good in bed and ends up normally with deceiving their husbands with children from other men, thus making DNA tests their worst enemy.

7. MARION WOMEN OR WH**ES

From the name w***es, am sure you know who they are. They are the scavengers in the animal kingdom or they are lazy to work. They have very weak motivation and inspiration to work, have very poor work ethics and are the opposite of Alphas. Simply put, they are lazy and morally very lose women. They are mainly social outcasts and everyone tries to avoid them. They are scared of being alone so they tend to be clingy if you happen to give them space of some attention. They often fail to attract women because of their low attractiveness, emotional baggage, moral decadence etc, and are normally among their own just like their male counterparts Mario.
Marion women hardly know their purpose in life often dragging their feet from one occupation to the next and are quick to always think of their body as a source of income. They normally have very good excuses and who to blame as to why they are unsuccessful- its normally their former s*xual partner’s or ex’s fault, parent’s faults, mood swings etc. They themselves are always never accountable to their acts and refuse to take responsibility for any of their mistakes, decisions and actions. Wh**es are skilful liars who can sell you ice in winter and with their lies they always end up grabbing the naïve and young hardworking men. They definitely have no regard for social hierarchy and have nothing to do with personal spirituality, though publically they are very good at faking holiness and being religious. These are the saved or born again publically yet in private they are prostitutes.
Because they do not like to work, they pride themselves around mostly dressed indecently and attractively to quickly attract men to bed. They are the types who are fond of tying down successful or prospective men to them using feminine power, most especially s*x and by airing children. Such men normally wake up when it is too late; when they have atleast a child together or had s*xual in*******se with them. The men try to push them to work on their personal and family goals until they are tired and end up being the main or even sole bread winner. Such women go to great lights of tying such successful men to them using charms – juju and kayamata because under normal circumstance no one can marry or date them.
Wh**es normally do not work apart from using their birth canals to make money with or for pleasure even when they are married. They may then end up in the house to take care of children or roam around looking for more men using their partner’s resources. And if their husband complains, they may become mentally abusive, arrogant, manipulative and sometimes physical. They are the public and private prostitutes. If you marry such type of woman it will always end up in divorce or early death of husband directly or indirectly caused by her. And of course they normally like committing adultery when married and even having children which they claim are for the husband. Wh**es always have body counts in double and triple digits since they do not love God with their heart and mind but with mouth or publically. Most of them end up as baby mamas, divorcees, single mothers or single, because they are impossible to live with due to their lack of s*xual discipline and spiritual growth.

With the above descriptions, we can categorise women in these seven types according to their femininity, self love, fertility and male relationships or s*xual attraction. These are further expanded by adding spirituality, leadership and confidence to them so that we come up with precise description to capture almost all women. You can also read a related article of the seven types of men.

25/02/2024

When you become a Christian, you take up Christian values and standards. Being a Virgin Until you are married.
~Bishop Dag Heward Mills

14/02/2024

VALENTINE DAY, A DAY OF LOVE OR LUST

For the past three years I have been posting just tweets on Valentine’s Day and season on my Twitter then on my Facebook account, pages and groups and on mainly my WhatsApp groups. But this year 2024, I thought it better to write a post about it to make it orderly and easily accessible because there are many people who are not on Twitter (X).

I will try to answer the following questions and add any other related thing later in this article. Who is Saint Valentine? What is the meaning of Valentine Day? Who should celebrate this day? How to celebrate it? Are gifts necessary? What gifts should be shared? Who deservers gifts? How to determine the value of gifts? And is outing okay?
We know that there are many types of love. Others put it at twelve, others eight, and others seven. Here we shall summarise it or restrict ourselves to two love types. Good love and bad love. Good love which includes Agape love for soul, universal or spiritual love, Philia or sincere and platonic love or brotherly and sisterly love, pragma or everlasting committed marital love between married couple and Storge or love between parents and their children. Whereas the bad love are philautia which creates narcissists and erotic or lustful love. Valentine day was originally a day to celebrate good love particularly pragma.

Who is Saint Valentine? Different accounts were put forward to shed light onto him and the most acceptable was that, Saint Valentine was a Catholic priest or bishop of Terni, Narnia and Amelia. He was arrested by judge Asterious during the third century Christian persecutions in Rome. He was released when the judge tested his faith in Jesus by healing his blind daughter. He was again arrested for continuing to convert people to Christianity by baptising them and marrying couples which was by then a capital offense. He became friendly with Emperor Claudius II but when he tried to convert the emperor to Christianity, he became enraged and commanded Saint Valentine to renounce his faith or be beaten with clubs and beheaded. St. Valentine refused to renounce his faith and Christianity and was executed outside the Flaminian gate on February 14, 269.
Since then the Catholic Church put aside February 14 as a day to commemorate the death and works of Saint Valentine who become the patron saint of Love, Young People and Happy Marriages. Because Saint Valentine was martyred, his blood was poured hence the red colour and red roses were incorporated in his feast with the heart signifying love.

So, who should celebrate this day and how should they celebrate it? Anyone can celebrate it. A son or daughter can use it to celebrate their parents- storge and vice versa. A brother and sister can celebrate their agape love for one another. Friends can celebrate it in philia or agape. However, this day is mainly for the opposite s*x relationships leading to marriage and marriage. That is, those who are dating or in courtship or engaged or married. Unfortunately with the perversion today, this day is misused by those in erotic, lustful and sinful relationships such as s*xual lovers or those who fornicate, boyfriends and girlfriends heathens. And remember, sinful people are always the loudest or as they say, empty tins are the loudest.

Let us now talk about gifts. Are gifts necessary? Who deservers gifts? What gifts should be shared? How to determine the value of gifts? As I stated above those who are supposed to celebrate this day are mainly people in heteros*xual relationships which are leading to marriage if they are not yet married, and not those in casual or s*xual relationships. But due the immorality and over s*xualisation in the world, those in lustful and s*xual relationships have overshadowed this day. Yes, those in relationships leading to marriage or those who are married can send gifts to one another. Although from the marriage process, those in initial searching and attraction stages, I strongly discourage gifts. Maybe in the third bonding stage you may buy some few gifts. In brief, you do not send any gift to any date whom you did not meet physically and after the meeting atleast a month has elapsed.

Note before, you must confirm that someone is really dating you verbally and in their actions. Of course such a date should be ready for marriage, meaning for men they are thirty plus in age, working or doing business or both, abstained for atleast a year or better three years from s*xual in*******se etc. And for the lady, she should be twenty five years and above or worse twenty three plus. Working or doing business or both, has abstained from s*xual in*******se for atleast a year or better three years etc. You can read more in my two articles about being ready for marriage. Therefore, your date and preferably those you are in courtship and engaged to deserve to receive some gifts from you. Ladies are we together here? Most of you are very stingy, be the first to surprise your date or fiancé or husband with desirable gifts!

So, what gifts should be shared? During your dating or marriage interview, you get to know the likes, dislikes, hobbies and activities of your prospect. From there is where you get what gifts to buy him or her. Among the common gifts for men are electronic gadgets, if he has a car, car accessories, those who like books, buy them hard copies of their favourite books or of mentors, clothes, shoes etc. For women among the common items are a new phone, clothes, jewellery, books, industrious ladies may need little support with their ventures like a new sewing machine or microphone for her YouTube channel etc.

How do you determine the value of the gift? This is where most men especially simps and beta males go wrong. Be warned ladies, Alpha and Sigma males also may seem to go wrong here but they might be targeting something which in most cases is sleeping with the lady if they spend over 30% of their salaries or if they spend over 50% equivalent of the lady’s salary. Be cautious ladies, there is no free lunch. If they already slept with you and spend such huge amounts of money on you, they may be after your fortunes or destiny. They must be tapping into your star.
For example, a man who barely makes ends meet and without an iPhone or who uses a cheap Huawei Smartphone whose parents can hardly pay rent or are in the village buying a lady an iPhone 15, or a car or a plot of land as a gift. Such gifts should be considered very suspicious and if you are a lady of integrity and value, let him explain his source of income before you accept such extravagant gift or gifts and vice versa. Now men listen, if last year you bought for her a gift and she did not buy for you, this year don’t buy for her until she buys for you one. Remember to also buy a gift which is relative to what they bought for you according to your finances. If you bought for her last year iPhone 14 and she bought for you socks, this year buy for her also women socks or cheap head wrappers.

What about going out on Valentine’s Day? Sure, if you guys are ready for marriage and are dating or married, it is a good thing to go out that day. But you as a lady when dating such a guy, you must take maximum precautions else you may end up losing your secondary and primary virginity carelessly or through r**e or worse your life may end, if especially you have not known him physically for atleast three months. If you as a lady have never met him before and Valentine day is your first physical meeting, you must be extremely careful. Most importantly have your own physical money to transport you to and fro the venue, have your own transport or know how to order one from the venue home or to your hotel, know the venue well or if it is your first time in that venue, get there in time to know how to get out if things do not go as planned. And if you are lodging there, be able to pay your hotel and so on. You can get more ideas from my article about r**e on our pages and groups. Precaution is better than cure.

To boil down, every Valentine’s season is where many love scammers come up. Claiming to be purely interested in dating you for marriage yet they just want to sleep with you or use you or scam your money. Do not be manipulated, “no one is broke or poor to gift, if you really love me, buy for me a new Smartphone or an iPhone 13/14/15, prove that you love me by sending me some money or paying my rent or school fees” etc. These are some of the manipulative and softening words which especially female gold diggers and their recruits use to soften the hearts of mainly simps and beta males to waste their hard earned money on them. Such girls or ladies are bad mannered, avoid them. Gifts should come naturally if someone really loves you. If you cannot buy for him a Valentine gift, then do not ask for one. No one should be coerced to buy another a gift. Such insistence of them especially ladies asking men to buy them gifts is the answer that it is not love in their heart for you, but lust or looking for financial rescue. Do not be a mumu (fool) this season.

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17/01/2024

ADVISORS VERSES MENTORS AND ACTION

Jim Rohn is one of my best mentors who said discipline is the bridge between goals and accomplishments. He added that success is a few simple disciplines practiced every day whereas failure is a few simple errors in judgment repeated every. The Key word here is ‘everyday’. And it is better to read all the information that you are supposed to know than not know it, he further added.

Another great mentor who had profound input in my life’s philosophy is Father Kakuba Kapya who said an advisor points you to where you want to go which he himself has never been to, whereas a mentor takes you to where he is or has been. A billionaire who guides you on how to become a billionaire is a mentor whereas an accountant who guides you on how to become a billionaire when he himself has never been a billionaire is an advisor. And a person who got married as a virgin advising young people on how to keep their virginity and s*xual purity until married is a mentor whereas a person who got married when not a virgin who advises others to be s*xually pure and keep their virginity till marriage is an adviser.

Anyone can be an adviser but not anyone can be a mentor. Advice normally refers to good and beneficial piece of information. Sometimes mentors are referred to as coaches.
As per Oxford dictionary, an adviser is a person who gives advice in a particular field. And a mentor is an experienced and trusted advisor. He is experienced, meaning he experienced what he is advising you about. So, you should make it your obligation to have few advisors and many mentors.

An African proverb from Uganda goes, if a child eats only her mother’s food, she will think her mother is the best cook in the world. You are not a tree or mountain or a prisoner of your town, city and country. Move, relocate or visit other countries and cities to learn more. Travelling as I always encouraged those we crossed paths with is one of the best ways of leaning. You cannot truly know what snow is unless you touched and experienced it. There are things in life you will never learn unless you travel. Travelling is the best education.

When you travel you and meet and discover new people, things, places, ideas and experiences. From here your paths will cross with real mentors and advisors and from your experiences you end up coming with new philosophies of life. A poor child who was born and grew all his life in Agege Lagos Nigeria or in Kaduna state or in Mengo Kisenyi Kampala Uganda, will not understand when you tell him of staying for a year without power shortage, having good amenities with noise free areas and good security. So such international exposure to second or better first world countries is very vital in the formulation of someone’s life’s objectives and philosophies. It will swiftly kill his or her mediocrity and scarcity mindset and propel the person to desire a good life. This exposure can also be obtained online by seeing what other people especially our mentors are doing or have. Though reading, listening and watching people enjoy serene environments is not a strong trigger than living in such environments yourself. When you do not travel you cannot easily and clearly realise how badly your environment is, your perspective is limited. In five years time you will still be the same person except for the people you meet and books you read. And our African fathers put it well, those who do not move, do not notice their chains.

Environment is key in one’s personal development. You can change your environment today and now intellectually by changing from a fixed mindset to abundance mindset such as growth and benefit mindsets. You can change physically your environment from a toxic to a loving one; from violent, insecure and noisy neighbourhood to a serene, secure and quiet one. You can also change your work if it does not bring peace, joy and fulfilment to your life. The best is to do both a mental shift and relocate to a peaceful valuable area. Note that environment also includes the type of friends you keep around you or the people you associate with most times. No matter how good you are, if you are in a wrong environment, you are worthless. Negative energy or spirits can seriously infect and affect you, stay far away from it and them. When you live among five billionaires, you become the sixth.

Am sometimes asked by especially pre25s on Facebook, why am still not married. And to make matters worse most judge my age by the profile picture of my mentor His Highness John Pombe Magufuli. When I get such a question I first find out how they come to such conclusion. My A-Level was somehow messy, with even O-Level where sometimes I lack transport to and from school. I remember in senior four our wood work teacher Mr Ongeto Charles had to give me 10,000 Ugandan Shillings to return home with, I had no transport. Forget about pocket money, it was always not enough or not there. Worse was my degree which I struggled to finish it and I had to do menial and various jobs to pay some of my tuition and needs. I finally graduated at 29 years old with honours. Then talk about residence, as I write this we have no house in my father’s names, and am having debts for my masters, rent etc.

In Africa in the words of Benjamin Zulu one of the best relationship, life and psychology coaches in the world, we do not need motivational speakers in Africa. Our lives and environment are enough to motivate us to become better, seek and work for a good life. Just looking at my tribulations in paying my school fees, tuition, and rent, comparing it with children from rich families and the west, I can never sleep until I change my life. The burning desire to live a good life is burning in me. Making such comparisons in your environment with those in first world countries and making a life’s evaluation are vital in your growth.
Evaluating one’s life should not be limited to material possessions and academic accolades. You can evaluate the values and virtues which you have. Are you honest, polite, just, peaceful, humble, Self-disciplined, Self-respecting, do you have self-control and so on. It is a sort of SWOT analysis about your life of what you need to change and improve; spiritually, morally, financially, physically, socially, academically and relationally.

Knowledge of self and of important survival knowledge is paramount as the Bible advised, my people perish for lack of knowledge. In this 21st century or dot com era, getting information about self and whichever topic interests you is very simple. This is why those who are illiterate today are not those who cannot read and write, but those who cannot seek knowledge, learn from it, unlearn bad knowledge and relearn new knowledge confers Alvin Toffler.

After knowing how your life situation with the examination of the above seven areas and conscience are, am sure you will know how you fair which in most cases is not very good. Armed with this knowledge and urgency, you take it upon yourself to make sure that you change your life by seeking advisers and mentors.

You must have a burning desire as Napoleon Hill stated and strong will if you really want to change your life. The questions ‘why?’ and ‘how?’ are the best mind triggers to push you into action. Why am I or my parents not able to pay my school fees? Why are we or am I not able to easily travel the world? Why are we not living in our own house with a large compound and financially stable? Why am I not attracting valuable and virtues prospects for a relationship? Why am I having these bad habits and characters? Etc. How do I travel the world? How do we afford good housing and feeding? How can I become valuable and virtues etc? The moment you ask ‘how?’ instead of whining that I cannot afford something, immediately your brain goes to work to find solutions for it as Robert Kiyosaki advised.

Brain Tracy the master of step by step mentor of dreams and goal settings advised us to write everything down. Write down the evaluation of your life. Write down your dreams. Divide your dreams into goals, come up with plans on how to achieve these goals and finally develop different activities for actualising these goals. The activities should be daily, weekly, monthly and yearly. If you take care of the days and weeks, the months and years will be taken care of automatically.

Action! Someone I show online said she read about 250 books last year. I tried looking at the titles of the books but they were not clear on her photo with the books. The few which I show I did not know any. It is good to have all knowledge of a particular field, but knowledge without action is useless. Education is knowledge acted on. Or a truly educated person is one who acts on it or put it into use. Life if full of opportunities, but if you do not act on them, they do not matter.

Similarly the best book emphasis having belief and acting on that belief. If you know God’s will, then you must act on it! Otherwise you cannot say you know God and his commandments yet you are still indulging in fornication, adultery, theft, false accusations and witness etc. Works justifies and proves that one has belief as James wrote. Without works we cannot proof that we have faith.

Once the student is ready, a teacher will appear. We are very lucky these days that teachers (advisors and mentors) can appear from all corners of the world online and even offline to come and warn, reprimand, correct and rebuke us. Unfortunately most do not heed such good counsel and change their lives. Others end up fighting, abusing, arguing, quarrelling and banning or blocking such voices of reason. Many young people especially ladies blocked me online because of such particularly when I told them to leave their boyfriends or girlfriends who have bad characters.

If you are lucky enough to get an advisor and more so a mentor, by your efforts or mostly they took you under their mentorship, you must be a very good student especially if they are advising or mentoring you freely. People are paying huge sums of money to just get advice on how to manage their finances, live a crime free life, live in holiness and become financially independent. If you get an advisor or mentor who in most cases finances your mentorship, or simply by creating time to listen to you and advise you, count yourself one of the luckiest beings on earth. The least you can do to show appreciation is to put their advice into action, by developing good habits and behaviour.

People do not decide their future, they decide their habits and their habits decide their future. Remember our above definition of success, having few simple disciplines practiced daily. You do not need a whole year to totally transform your life, seven months of focus and hard work can put you five years ahead in life. And when your advisers and mentors see that you are putting their advice into action, they will do more. By either giving you more time for your one-on-one or and providing you with resources to aid you in your growth. But when they do not see any changes in your actions, they slowly dissociate themselves from you and become scare to you. This also applies in friendships and relationships. If your prospect sees that you are changing your bad ways, the relationship proceeds normally. But if you do not change, he or she will definitely leave you. Life is too short to stress oneself with someone who is comfortable with their vices or mediocrity.

To easily and quickly change for better, change must first start with the mindset by having a growth and benefit mindsets. Be humble, obedient to mentors, cultivate self-discipline, self-control, fortitude and mortification, daily acting towards bettering oneself little by little.

Finally, you can get all the knowledge in the world, you can have all the best advisers and mentors in the world, and you can know every word in the Bible, but if you do not act on this information positively, it is all worthless. If you claim to know Jesus Christ and you do not obey His commandments, your knowledge of Him is false, because My sheep listen to My voice and they follow and obey Me. You only prove to your advisors and mentors that you took their advice by acting on it immediately and having a positive change in your life.

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