23/10/2013
Age is not a guarantee for marriage, neither is it a barrier. The fact that you are over 30 or 40years, does not mean that you are ready for marriage. And the fact that you are not yet 20 or 25 or 30 whether as a guy or as a lady does not mean you can't marry. What determines if you should marry is your maturity in all ramification and areas. This includes your mind set or how developed and matured you are in the mind.(How much understanding you have about marriage). If your mind is not ready, never try it no matter your age. Seek to equip your mind properly for it. It also includes your character development and maturity. Infact your mindset will determine to a high extent your character. If you don't have a proper character development, even if you are 100 years, don't think of marriage. The next thing is your financial maturity. This one to be frank with you, as a woman if you haven't learnt how to manage money and capitalize on the little you have, go for serious training. And as a guy, if you can't solve the financial situations of your immediate family, don't bother to marry yet. If you are a government dependent earner, den u haven't started yet so you should wait. Do not assume that your fiancée loves you so she can understand it with you. That's fine, but remember you're on your own. If God does not tell you to go that far, don't try it, even if she understands and bears with you, you'll be complicating issues for yourself, and you'll be suffering the young woman unnecessarily. Its possible for it to work out, but be sure that God has told you so. Its better to struggle with her b4 marriage than after the wedding. I think the last and most important is your spiritual maturity. If you don't understand God, u will never understand God. If your relationship with God is always shaking, then your marriage will be shaking. If you don't develop a strong and unshakable relationship with God, your marriage will suffer it. That's because the 1st marriage that exists in every christian's life is between God and Him/her. If you doubt me, check the reason why some christian homes are still suffering marital crisis even when all is okay. The foundation matters!