27/08/2024
FIVE LOVE LANGUAGE
According to Dr. Chapman, there are five universal ways that all people express and interpret love. Through his more than 30 years of couples counselling, Dr. Chapman has noticed specific partners communicate and it turns out that most of the population express and interpret love in the same five ways according to his observation. These are his observation.
1. Words of Affirmation
This language uses words to affirm other people. For those who prefer the words of affirmation language, hearing ‘’I love you’’ and other compliments are what they value the most. Words hold real value within this language. Furthermore, negative or insulting comments cut deep and won’t be easily forgiven.
2. Quality time
This language is all about giving the other person your undivided attention. Unlike the words of affirmation language, talk is cheap and being a loved one’s main focus leaves quality timers feeling satisfied and comforted. Distractions, postponed dates, or the failure to listen can be especially hurtful to these individuals. Being there for them is crucial.
3. Receiving gifts
Dr. Chapman says for some people, what makes them feel most loved is to receive a tangible gift. This doesn’t necessarily mean the person is materialistic, but a meaningful or thoughtful present it was makes them feel appreciated.
4. Acts of service
For this section, action speak louder than words. People who speak the language of service want their partner to recognize that their life is rough and help them out in any way possible. Lending a helping hand shows you really care. People who thrive on this language do not deal well with broken promises or perceived laziness and have very little tolerance for people who make more work for them. Basically, if you are not willing to show your appreciation by doing them a favour, you are saying you don’t value them.
5. Physical touch
To this person, nothing speaks more deeply than appropriate touch. That doesn’t mean only in the bedroom – everyday physical connections, like hand holding, kissing or any type of re-affirming physical contacts is greatly appreciated. A person who speaks the language of physical touch isn’t necessarily an over the top, but getting a little touchy feel does make them feel safe and loved. Any instance of physical abuse is a total deal breaker.
